i think she is old enought to look after her self
2007-03-24 09:15:40 · 20 answers · asked by 333-half-evil-333 5 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Other - Pregnancy & Parenting
I think the easiest way out of this is to let your daughter know that as a mum she does have to stand on her own two feet but let her kow that you will always be there for her to support her but as someone else pointed out the easiest and quickest way to get her a house would be to tell the council you are putting her out then they have an obligation to house her and her child. I was in a similar situation and i was housed with 6 weeks
2007-03-24 09:33:04 · answer #1 · answered by charly m 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
wow some people here are so mean!!
i think you should sit down and talk with her. tell her you think its time you both had ur own indpedence back. you could sit and look at houses together that are for rent or go and visit the council. have a look at any benefits and fill out forms so shes all set up if she needs them.
maybe she really doesnt know she will be entitled to help. and i bet as a 24yr old she would love to have her own place for her and her child.
i can imagine its very hard for you as now your daughter has grown up and has a child of her own you would like time for you again. but now youve basically gone back for helping care constantly for another child.
good luck it cant be easy but im sure you will work something out
2007-03-25 04:02:26 · answer #2 · answered by alrightyyy_then 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have to sit down and tell her that
It wont be easy but if you explain to her how your feeling and what you want
Then at least she will know and hopefully start looking for somewhere
If she cant afford anywhere then you can write her a letter telling het you no longer want her in your home and give her 1 months notice.. tis way she can go to the council and she will be able to get a place with them.. But you will have to make it look like you are kicking her out..
2007-03-24 09:26:22 · answer #3 · answered by dreams 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She is, but maybe she lacks the confidence and the knowledge of how to do it. Give her some help with looking for a place, tell her everything she needs to know.
Why is it that you want her out...is it that she is living rent free, not paying her way or expecting you to babysit at the drop of a hat?
There is a long and meaningful conversation you need to have with your daughter, and you need to tell her you want her to start looking for somewhere else to live...but don't forget to tell her that you love her, you don't want to make her feel completely rejected now, do you?
Good luck.
2007-03-24 13:42:42 · answer #4 · answered by ♥Pamela♥ 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are spending money taking care of two additional people. Help her financially find a place...ie pay the security and/or 1st month rent, or offer other services...like babysitting or maybe a home cooked meal every Friday night. Ya know? It is hard-she'll need new support from you...and in the end you'll have a brand new daughter.
LIZ
2007-03-24 09:35:58 · answer #5 · answered by Eric & Liz E 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
why do you want her to move out? yes she is old enough but maybe she loves you too much to leave you
My daughter moved out over a year ago and lived with her boyfriend gone a few months and then found out she was pregnant, she then left him for the way he was treating her, so i told her to move back in with me, she is 7 months pregnant and i cant wait for my first grandbaby to arrive, i cant wait,
what im trying to say is i dont want my kids to leave i want them around me all the time( i have 2 kids BTW 18 and 20) there mine i made them, and dont want to miss them ,i know they have to go some day but not just yet
if i had my way id have them here for the rest of their lives
2007-03-24 15:35:05 · answer #6 · answered by ♥♥™Tia™♥♥ 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
give your daughter a deadline and have the moving van waiting in the driveway exactly that day.
put apartment classifieds out all over the house with "HINT" posted on the front. or, better yet, find her an apartment yourself and take her to look at it. offer to co-sign if necessary!
2007-03-24 11:46:26 · answer #7 · answered by Laura H 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk to her about it. Find out what is holding her back from taking that step. Maybe she feels as if she is not financially stable enough. Or maybe the thought of living alone scares her. If you find these things out, you can help her make the transition.
2007-03-24 09:59:57 · answer #8 · answered by Mia1385 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Problem is that back in your day mortages were not 20 times ave salery as were other living costs.
You need her to get a good job that pays enough for her to comfortabley leave the nest
2007-03-24 10:18:17 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Give her a time table of when she should be out by. Help her look for a place and if she doesn't have a job, help her get one. It is definetally about time she was out, especially as a mom.
2007-03-24 09:28:49 · answer #10 · answered by Bran 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋