My boyfriend and I have been living together since we've started dating, I have met his grandfather and grandmother who just passed so I just felt a little wierd about not really being invited to the memoral. My father said infact it was a big deal, my sister on the other hand said it wasn't. Im not sure what to really do.
2007-03-24 09:11:44 · 14 answers · asked by Anglea G 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
its a FAMILY thing
let them be!
2007-03-24 09:15:31 · answer #1 · answered by bronzebabekentucky 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Six months is not long enough living or not living with your boyfriend. If you knew her personally I would understand and only maybe after a few years. But people feel awkward about having others in the memorial that arent family. I wouldnt get offended. It is a family issue. Now if they exclude you from family BBQs or birthday parties that would be a NONO but a funeral after such a short time..no let it go. They have more issues to deal with over a loss they are not thinking about anything other then their pain as well. I say dont look for trouble when trouble isnt looking for you. Stay out of it.
2007-03-24 16:22:10 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You don't do anything. The funeral has passed and that is it. Isn't it possible that it was a family only thing? Now all you do is make sure you are there for your boyfriend if he should need it.
Good luck and have a great day.
Kristy
2007-03-24 16:41:44 · answer #3 · answered by Mrs. K 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you may have not been "invited" since your boyfriend is simply just sad that he has lost his grandmother. So, probably thinking about you is not his priority right now. Everyone has rights to go to pay respects and if you feel like you want to go to say goodbye, you should go. Since your boyfriend is a family member, I think it's better for you to go with some friends who know him or your sister.
2007-03-24 16:18:18 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would ask your partner why you wern't asked to go, but on the other hand...it's something you don't invite ppl to..you go because you want to pay your last respects to the person who passed on and the family for what they're going through. I don't understand why you were "waiting" for an invitation. Did you and your partner even talk about you go or not going?? If he asked for you NOT to go...I would have asked why? But perhaps he was assuming you'd go anyhow.., that he didn't have to "ask you" to go...but for you NOT going...he may be wondering WHY~! Sorry to hear about the loss of his g/ma tho.
Just be there for him during this hard time.....don't make a big issue of it..but perhaps you can ask him if he wants(wanted) you there and that you felt he didn't. GOODLUCK*
2007-03-24 16:32:11 · answer #5 · answered by friskymisty01 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i would say don't go. its something that a family has to go through together and granted it'd be nice to give your support and lend a hand, its just something THEY have to deal with. my boyfriend of almost a year's father is dying and he said if the time comes for the funeral he doesn't want me there. and i respect that.
2007-03-24 16:22:03 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
His family has more to think about than your feelings. They probably didn't mean any slight, and may have thought you wouldn't care to come, if they thought about it all. Funerals are a chance for family and friends, especially those from way back when, to gather and reminisce. Send them a sympathy card and forget it.
2007-03-24 16:18:39 · answer #7 · answered by Patsy A 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
personally, i've never heard of having to have an invitation to a funeral or memorial service...
most people who attend these services, go on their own accord, if they would like to pay their respects.
2007-03-24 17:01:31 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Perhaps his Grandpa was one of those that had morals and values and frowned upon living together without being married.
Good luck!
2007-03-24 16:16:43 · answer #9 · answered by Raspberry 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Send the family a plant, and a sympathy card, and leave it at that.
2007-03-24 16:18:30 · answer #10 · answered by roseannetb@verizon.net 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Invited?.... believe me it's not an RSVP event. You just show up and give your best wishes. Duhhh
2007-03-24 16:16:37 · answer #11 · answered by westfield47130 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋