Im a foreigner working in the USA. I fell in love with an American. We've been talking about marriage and our future and it looks pretty bright. Im only 21...is that to young, he's a couple years older than me. I don't know if I will be satisfied only seeing my family once a year. Im very close with them, im scared that down the road I will regret not spending enough time with my family. But I love him so much... I can't picture myself with someone else and can't picture him beeing with another woman!!! Im tired of thinking about this...it's the only thing going on in my mind....does someone have some advice out there.
2007-03-24 09:02:43 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
If you're in love and your family understands, you should follow your heart. What country/culture are we talking about here? Hopefully it's OK to marry him. Good luck.
2007-03-24 09:07:23 · answer #1 · answered by Your Uncle Dodge! 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well you are an adult now and you have to think about you. Stop living for today and not tomorrow's satisfaction. You seem as though marrying him will hurt you. Marriage shouldn't hurt. It should help you and nourish you. If you are having to choose between marriage family then I'd choose family. Just know that family should always be first. You will meet a lot of men!
2007-03-24 16:11:28 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would definitely do what you felt is right in your heart. If you feel that marry-ing him is the best, then definitely go fo it. I would talk it thru with your family, and definitely with him. Make sure you both will do the right thing.
But before you do, I would come to certain lines about it with him tho. Since your family is very important to you, let him know that you'd need to visit them once a month if you felt you need to and it'll be up to him if he wants to join you and if he'll be comfortable about you visiting your family often.
And if you're curious about when you do get married, and how you'd split the holidays.. Maybe a good way to do it, is split the holidays up, one year - half with his family, half with yours. The next year, switch - the holidays you had with his family, will be with yours....... and the holidays with your family, will be with his. It'll totally be up to you two on how you want to work out the holidays, but please make sure that both families have equal time!
Good luck & Best wishes!
2007-03-24 16:12:54 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
DO what feels right. everyone has to branch off from their family at some time. now might be the time. Follow your heart and if you two really want to be together then go for it. your family will understand and im sure you will get ot see them more aften after everything has settled
2007-03-24 16:07:01 · answer #4 · answered by Tara 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you love him, you can't let your family hold you back. Your young and your future is full of possibilites so make the most of it with the man you love. Best of luck to you both.
p.s. I love your name! lol
2007-03-24 16:11:47 · answer #5 · answered by prettynpink0491 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do whats right,,have a discussion with them!
2007-03-24 16:08:10 · answer #6 · answered by blazzingred30 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋