with two boys watching her. Instead of punishing her, I told her that she should not be dancing on tables. I feel that if I punish her, she'll then feel that being naked is not a normal thing to do. Did I handle this situation well? She's 17 by the way.
2007-03-24 08:48:48 · 19 answers · asked by Freakin' Costa Rican 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
Oh she was NOT expecting me at all! I came home from work early!
2007-03-24 09:03:30 · update #1
You've GOT to be kidding.
If you punish her, she will feel that being naked is not normal?
This is not a 2-year old.
She KNOWS this is not normal behavior.
For crying out loud. A situation like this just DEMANDS a reaction from a parent. She needs to get the full education of what happens to young girls who turn themselves into prostitutes, and what a crappy life they have!!!
EDUCATE her, PUNISH her, and make sure it never happens again. YOU are responsible for making sure she is raised right, and you simply have to take charge of her.
She may still go off and do whatever she pleases... but at the very LEAST, you will know that you did your BEST to raise her decently and teach her proper behavior.
P.S. Don't make the mistake of thinking it's TOO LATE. It isn't. You have to just keep putting the correct and moral values out there for your children, and eventually they will return to the realization that, even though they made mistakes, you are always there to pick them up when they fall.
2007-03-24 09:07:21 · answer #1 · answered by mia2kl2002 7 · 5⤊ 3⤋
Are you kidding me? You did not handle the situation well. you just gave your underage daughter your permission to dance naked in front of boys. This is why there are so many strip clubs in this sad and depraved world. I'm sorry ma'am but, I must say shame on you. While it is natural to be naked, it is not natural for a young lady to be showing her body to young boy's with raging hormones. Had you not come home when you did, your 17 year old daughter would have been having sex with those boys whether she wanted to or not. Their rational would have been "She wants it because she got naked and was showing it to us." Our society can't be on this big of a moral decline that parents must now get a consensus to decide how to raise their children. I would be willing to bet if your parents would have come home and found you in this position they would have said and done more than telling her not to dance on the table. Wake up America!!!
2007-03-24 16:09:25 · answer #2 · answered by dadof7n2001 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I think you should put your foot down about this. She's 17, but she's still too young to be having sex and should definately not be dancing in front of two boys naked. I understand that you were probably shocked and was caught off guard so you didn't know what to do immediately, but you can still make a difference. You have to lay down the law for your daughter. Ask her why she did this? There is probably an underlying problem and she is looking for attention. I mean, if she wanted you to catch her, she certainly did it in the right place--the dining room table... Think back to that moment: What was her reaction when you barged in on the scene? How has she been acting since? Do you know the boys and if so, have they been hanging around your house since then?
2007-03-24 15:57:01 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 5⤊ 1⤋
It sounds like your daughter is on drugs probably Ecstasy or coke or meths or drunk from alcohol?. That highly unusual for a young teenager to be doing that knowing you might be coming home. However, I would talk to her not ever do that until she is over 18 and not your place. I certainly hope she not doing that in front of older men over 18? and hope that was her first time doing that. Otherwise that would raise more questions about how old she actually started it and how old the guys were too. She is definitely a rebel. There not much you can do, but tell her to don't do drugs and doing that naked dance in front of people may harm her reputation and her dignity and should only be done in front of her lover behind closed doors, not in front of strangers who may take advantage of her sexually like rape which can put herself in danger of dangerous offenders. Good luck.
2007-03-24 16:23:58 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Oh my goodness - I think you need to have a talk w/ her about how her desicions can affect her. Now its on the table in your house next yr it could be in a dirty club downtown where she could get hurt. Did you ask her why she was doing that? Its not normal to be naked w/ 2 boys - its normal to be naked w/ your husband or even boyfriend but not 2 boys. I think she needs a little direction in life - she's not 18 yet and its your house your rules. Try to help her because it sounds like she could be headed down the wrong path. Ask her what she wants to do w/ her life? Try to help her reach those goals. good luck
2007-03-24 16:03:52 · answer #5 · answered by Chargers Chick 3 · 2⤊ 2⤋
At 17, your daughter should already know right from wrong. It is disrespectful for her to be giving a strip tease in your house and she obviously knew it was wrong if she waited until you were gone to do it. I hope you kicked the boys out of your house. You should have a long talk with her about promiscuity and responsibility.
2007-03-24 16:00:35 · answer #6 · answered by Lyzz 2 · 3⤊ 1⤋
Being naked in front of two boys is NOT NORMAL (unless you're a stripper). You should ask her why she did it and how does she think it made you feel to find her like that. Most kids don't think about what they are about to do or how their decisions are going to impact others. Next, let her know how you felt, don't let it just go away.
2007-03-24 16:03:05 · answer #7 · answered by RAZE12004 2 · 4⤊ 1⤋
oh my ----------well she is 17 and it is sort of hard to punish her but theirs something you could of done sit down and ask her why was she doing this what was she trying to prove
being naked is normal but not the way she was doing it --theirs something wrong with this picture
all i can say don't aloud any boys in the house when your gone have someone watch her with out her knowledge i wish i could help more
2007-03-24 16:04:32 · answer #8 · answered by darlene l 3 · 3⤊ 1⤋
ok i know that i am going to get a lot of thumbs down for this but here goes
If your daughter wants to be a little strippin' whore then let her shes 17 almost practacly legal. i wouldn't say you failed as a parent you just tried your best.
tell her pink pussycat is the best strip club and send her there that will make her stop it
2007-03-24 22:09:59 · answer #9 · answered by newbie ice hockey fan & TV serie 3 · 4⤊ 1⤋
It sounds like you are really passive in your parenting.
I just read in a parenting book today that to your children, sometimes that tells them that you dont really care.
This would explain why she would be out looking for attention in this way.
punish her, she is probably screaming for discipline and to get noticed.
then show her that you love her in other ways as well.
2007-03-24 18:26:04 · answer #10 · answered by Pro_Dog_Trainer 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋