I'm never falling in love again?

Question

I've been missing a girl for 11 months. I hadn't been bugging her since she didn't want to talk to me anymore. We said hi occasionally, I thought things would be cool between us. I tried to talk to her. I said Hey how are you? She said nothing. I tried to talk about how she was helping with something (she was inactive at the moment). Still nothing. I told her I know we haven't talked in the longest time (I liked her, then fell in love with her, but she never liked me back), but I only wanted us to be friends again. I couldn't bring myself to say I missed her because it seemed like she wasn't hearing me. She kept her back turned towards me, unlike when I saw her sneak so many glances at me this past year. She texted on her phone. She never even looked at me, never said a word. I wanted to say what I felt about her, but all my feelings about her besides "I love you" wouldn't come up. I wanted to say I love you. I just said "ok, I get the point, you don't have to say anything else.

I guess I'll just see you around." She talked to everyone in the hall but me. I left her. I'm wondering what should I do for her birthday next week? I'm going to ask her friends what kind of gifts she likes. I think I probably should just tell her happy birthday to show that I remember. Maybe I shouldn't even say that. After that, I'm forgetting all about her because ain't nothin ever gon change. I've been hurt before by crushes every single time, but this is the first time I've fallen in love. I learned something though; just because a girl seems like she has everything I've been looking for, doesn't mean she's the girl for me. She could change up anytime. I'm never leaving myself open for getting hurt by falling in love again, because I'm not giving her my heart until she earns it. This is the first time I've fallen in love but it's the last straw, the last time I try to be someone for somebody. Like my name says from this song, I got this Icebox where my heart used to be.

Extra note: When I liked her, she said she had liked me first. Then I asked her how she liked me the next day and she said she didn't know. It wasn't until a month later she said she didn't like me, but I really liked her. The girl I fell in love with was a really shy, sweet, funny, beautiful girl. At least, I always felt she was beautiful even though everyone around me said she's just alright and she's no one special. I have this false, ridiculous small ray of hope that maybe one day she'll talk to me but I just don't want to try anymore.

Extra note: I never stalked her, as a lot of people (on Y! A, from previous questions) seem to think I have.

Answer 1

Do not do anything for her birthday.....stop paying any attention to her whatsoever. She flat-out ignores you when you try to talk to her ~ that is not what friends do. You are only going to end up looking desperate if you keep pursuing her.

Answer 2

First I want you to get a lighter and melt the icebox where your hearts supposed to be ok! Your situattion is sad; however you must let go and leave her alone. She is no longer interested in you for some reason. But that doesn't mean you will never fall in love again.... you was just not the right guy for her. You cant force someone to love you...it would never be real. Invest this energy in looking for a new girl. As for her birthday, you can simply say Happy birthday.... notthing more then those words. Why buy her gifts? If she is no longer interested in you? Be careful... and good luck!

Answer 3

I kinda been where you been a long time ago, you shouldnt give up on love like that. You just have to keep your head up and keep looking for that right girl. I see that you're trying your best to talk to the girl. I use to like a girl that didnt like me back and now I'm looking back saying what was I thinking. There are plenty fishes in the sea, and its up to you to keep reeling that one in. Sure it will take sometime, but you'll find that person. My advice is to forget about that girl, I mean you can say hi and bye, and other stuff like that, but you dont have to hang out or have a long conversation with her. Because if your having these feelings for her and shes not showing them back, I would just move on. Many years from now, you'll look back and laugh at this situation, believe me, I know because I was in the similar boat as you were. Just be yourself and everything will fall into its place and God Bless

Answer 4

it sounds like she doesnt want to talk to u, sorry to break that to u
i would just leave her alone and let her contact u if she wants to, get on with ur life and let her live hers
if u are ment to be friends then u will end up becoming friends
im sure things will work them selves out but they may not always be the way you want them to

Answer 5

I'm going through the same thing. The best bet is to suck it up. Accept things for what they are and move on. What couldv'e been is not what it is and living in the past isn't gonna help you move forward.

Answer 6

i would AT MOST say happy birthday. actually in ur situation i would completely ignore her. and then u'll see whether she likes u er not. if she trys talkin to u, she likes u. if not she doesnt like u. if u keep persuing her, then u are crossing the stalker line.....which is no good.

Answer 7

yeah you will. We all do we are only human. You will meet someone who is right for you and then you will open your heart. If you don't you could potentially be pushing away someone that you could've spent your whole life with!

Answer 8

i feel your pain my wife really did a number on me by all the affairs and lying i wont love again for a long time.good luck

Answer 9

best situation:she likes you but is to afraid to talk to you
worst situation:she hates you

i would get a friend to ask her what she thinks about you

Answer 10

iF YOU DONT LEAVE YOUR SELF OPEN...THEN YOU WONT BE OPEN FOR LOVE WHEN iT REALLY COMES. YOU CAN'T JUST SiT DOWN AND FORGET ABOUT LOVE. LOVE WiLL COME TO YOU BUT WHEN iT COMES YOU HAVE TO LET iT iN. TRUST ME iTS NEVER TO LATE FOR