My ex girl friend and I broke up last month after a 6yrs relationship. She said she needs some time to figure out what she wants and therefore dumped me in the process. I still like her a lot but she says she does not have any feeling for me and sees me as her best friend. Last week we were spending some time together and one thing to another we started kissing. She mentioned if this wrong but we both agreed that it didnt feel wrong. We eventually ended up having sex that night. I am just confused what going on through her head. Just want to know from all you ladies about this issue, just so that I understand the situation better.
2007-03-24 08:46:07 · 16 answers · asked by jellymarrow13 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I'm guessing that she doesn't want to be with you but she still has a LOT of feelings for you. Ask her what she wants. If she doesn't want to be with you leave her alone even if you want to still be with her you will. She'll figure out that she needs you and everybody wins. Right?
2007-03-24 08:52:28 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like she has not yet figured out what she wants.
I would recommend that if you still have feeling for this girl and she still says that she does not that you sever all contact with her. Because in the end you are going to end up hurt and most likely alone, to boot.
2007-03-24 15:51:29 · answer #2 · answered by willowlafaye 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
from experience, this means she is comfortable with you , and insecure with someone new. also she doesnt plan on anyone new. plus if you started kissing and one thing led to another the spark is still there. BUT...... Dont let her take advantage of you..... the only one thats gonna get hurt is YOU if she decides she is going to move on...... Sometimes us women like the best of both worlds and if she knows you are gonna be there when she wants you she gonna take it. Just be careful of your own feelings and emotions.
2007-03-24 15:54:32 · answer #3 · answered by Bridget G 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know you dont want ot hear it but it sounds like she is just using you. If she has the audacity to tell you she doesnt have any feelings after 6 yrs and then she just wants sex, let her find it from someone else. dont let her get what she wants until she makes her decision about what is going on in her life.
2007-03-24 15:50:46 · answer #4 · answered by Tara 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
wow . . a six year relationship. see, if it were like six weeks that would mean hmm she doesn't like you very much but you're hella good in bed. six years make a huge difference though. i'd say she's still in love with you but just needs time to figure her own life out. you can either continue to be a sort of "**** buddy" for her to fall back on, or you can tell her hey, i'm going to put myself aside, out of your life so that you have the space to find yourself and realize what you want . . because, honey i still love you and i don't just want to be "**** buddys" or friends with benefits.
2007-03-24 15:55:01 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
it means that you both have physical needs still and don't want to look to strangers for sex and/or affection.
"booty call" for those lonely times....
It's not so bad. You can also look at it as "friends with benefits"....
Just because two people break up, doesn't always mean forever... friendships can go on if the two are both mature enough for it.
2007-03-24 15:51:27 · answer #6 · answered by Rock N Roll Saved My Soul 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Either be together or don't be together.
To have an ex you still sleep with will hold you back in the past, and going forwards will be hard.
Let go, move on.
Or go back to her... either way, being stuck half in the past and not quite the future is no way to go about life at all.
2007-03-24 15:50:20 · answer #7 · answered by HP 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She's simply horny dude. And since you guys been together all those years she feels comfortable doing the nasty with you. Is going to be easiear for her to keep it w/ no strings attached because she does not have any more feelings for you. Although is not healthy for you because she's confusing you. Stay away from her, It will be easiar to get over her.
2007-03-24 15:57:37 · answer #8 · answered by Jo,jo 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She's a Hoe and she wants to use you for sex until Mr. Right comes along. You still have feelings for her and believe me your gonna get hurt. Don't fall for her sweetness about having sex like it's something you two shouldn't be doing it but it "just happened"!
2007-03-24 15:58:30 · answer #9 · answered by johnnie b 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know how you feel, wmone are so confusing. Im guessing she wants to have sex still, but dosent want to bother with a relationship... and she trusts you not to be bad or anything, so she came to you.
2007-03-24 15:50:01 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋