There's this guy that conned his way into being friends with my girl and now they're together. In my view, usually people like that have nothing but bad intentions, how long does it usually last? I want to win her back.....
2007-03-24 08:43:03 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
we've been together for more than one and a half years already. We've stuck it out thru thick and thin and I was always there for her no matter what. She just migrated to a new country with her family and knowing no one there, the guy pounced on her since i wasnt around and (to my opinion) made a "good boy" impression to her and her folks and made his clique her clique as well (another assumption). Eventhough it was a long distance relationship, I kept it a point to talk to her over the phone (international calls) or over skype to see her and listen to her voice. I'm planning to go to the same country too. Could it be that shes lonely at the time and the guy merely took advatage of that fact eventhough he knew she has me?
2007-03-24 09:08:54 · update #1
Wow, your ex-girlfriend really pulled a number on you. I have to say that she doesn't seem as innocent as you make her out to be. She could have easily distanced herself from this guy when she sensed what his intentions were. I don't care how naive some girls are, most women know when a guy is pursuing them. She probably liked the attention and didn't have the backbone to come clean to one of you, until she decided which relationship would be more beneficial. That's when she finally developed a conscious and broke it off with you, I'm sure.
Move on. Meet another nice girl. Your ex has no sincere regards for your feelings. It's obvious you're devastated, and she's off gallivanting with her new boyfriend... All the while you sit alone and wait... The best thing you can do is move on. Find happiness elsewhere.
2007-03-24 09:54:53 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-05-06 05:12:49 · answer #2 · answered by Peggy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's really hard to maintain a relationship long distance. It's even harder to talk about winning back somebody long distance.
Instead of thinking about 'really hard', think in terms of 'near-impossible'!
Also, even when someone is near you in the same town, you can't keep them from temptations and control them - you seem to think you could have prevented this relationship from happening. You're assuming way too much responsibility for that. Every day of the year, people meet and dissolve relationships and start new ones - even while being married and in constant contact with their spouses.
So, please, don't think of this in terms of strategies and circumstances. Just realize that if you and she were meant to be, you would still be together. I'm sorry, it is a heartbreaker but it is a truth. You seem to be a guy who is loyal and expects that kind of loyalty in return. You will find someone like that; I know that most women would say that is what they appreciate in a man!
This guy 'conned' your girlfriend by simply seeing that she was temporarily available; he put on his best show for her to win her over and it worked. Can you forgive her for that? Think about that - maybe you can't and maybe you should realize that now. There will always be other guys around to spot the possibilities and the answer is not for you to think you can guard her like a watch dog!
The people who look to approach your girl friend don't necessarily have bad intentions (to them, all their intentions are good). and they don't spend much time agonizing over whether a person is available or not. It was up to your girlfriend to say, 'I'm involved with someone' and back away. But she didn't.
If their relationship doesn't work out, it was her bad judgement to even get into it in the first place and it will be her bad judgement if she next gets involved with someone else who is not you. But to her, her judgement is fine. She rightly considers herself free to choose.
You can absolve them both of their 'sin' and live your life freely, without expectations. If you migrate to where she is, it should be for a good reason - just in case you and she do not get back together. You can stay good friends with her, you can forgive her, you can even find someone new yourself in the meantime, while you know you can't be there. Dating will take you off the hook and you won't clearly be 'the savior who's going to save her from that bad guy' anymore.
Ask yourself: what does she want now?
2007-04-01 05:52:42 · answer #3 · answered by kathyw 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry dude, he sunk your battleship. No seriously, it wasn't so much this other guy as it is the distance. It seems like she was lonely and didn't have the stamina to hang in there like you do or like you wanted. I'd say let it go and move on. I know that's not easy and it may be a source of pain for a while, but wounds do heal, and you'll find someone that is deserving of you who will make you happy again. Winning her back doesn't sound like an option you should take. It may give her the idea that you are weak and she can do this to you again and you'll put up with it. Besides, if she wasn't as devoted to you as you were to her, why do you want her back anyway?
2007-04-01 06:55:36 · answer #4 · answered by sustasue 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Definitely, they will not last long!! Why? Simply because your girlfriend might think that when her new boyfriend looks at their other "girl" acquaintances, he might also court them. They will not really last since one of them will have no trust from the other or worse, they don't trust each other!
My opinion, you must be a sweet & loving guy. She's not for you and maybe you're not ment for each other. God, in a way, is telling you that there is somebody out there looking for you and the real person that will love you for the rest of your life.
2007-03-24 08:55:10 · answer #5 · answered by BuTTerFly 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It depends on the love you two had together and the connection they two have together. In the animal kingdom, the female stays with the optimal partner. Hopefully you were the best for her. Good luck
2013-11-15 07:42:46 · answer #6 · answered by chasehappyness 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well momma always told me that if someone "stole" ur boyfriend than they wuzn't urs to begin w/ so don't sweat it, if he really isn't good for her than she'll realize it and if u really cared about her u would want her to be happy w/ whoever she was w/...... it's time out for all the selfishness a relationship is about sacrifice and that requires u to be SELFLESS.......
2007-04-01 06:33:59 · answer #7 · answered by Pr!nc355 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it dont last long
2007-03-24 11:09:44 · answer #8 · answered by Icebox -0: Never Again 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋