Is it possible for a girl (not myself) who wasnt techinically molested to still be scared of contact with boys? The sistutation was when this girl was little this weird college aged boy at her local pool would alwasy ask her to sit on his lap. She would squirm , swim extra laps, and make up excuses not too but he made her feel guilty for not sitting on his lap. He would tell her mom that she wasn't being nice to him and that she had been swimming laps instead of tlaking with him. So then she would for maybe 15 minutes at a time because she felt guilty, like she was being mean, and he would just talk to her and she would just be creeped out. It wasnt molestation, but is that event enough to scare someone later in life from sexual contact?
2007-03-24 08:20:41 · 7 answers · asked by georgiapeach74 2 in Health ➔ Mental Health
If she deals with the problem, the scars might heal a little. As long as she still feels guilty about something that she didn't have the ability to deal with, or isn't quite sure exactly how to say what happened to her, the thing is still going on in her mind.
Manipulating a child into consenting to sexual behaviour is just as much molesting them as it would be if actual force had been used. She needs to realise that her consent (gained unfairly as it was, when she was vulnerable) was not real consent and she suffered real personal violation; in fact, if anything, the violation was only made greater by the way she was manipulated into being party to it. When someone can actually break your personal integrity, the injury lasts longer. If he had grabbed her and she had been able to physically struggle away, she'd probably have forgotten it by now.
She needs to deal with what the injury actually was, and I really think that it was the way she was subjected to manipulation when she had no way of defending her rights.
2007-03-24 08:35:05 · answer #1 · answered by Fiona J 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell this person to talk to someone professional for a session or two, this child felt like she had no control, no support, so trust was a big issue. yes , it may seem small to others but to this girl it ,caused a problem. With the right person she can move on and have a healthy outlook .
2007-03-24 08:35:07 · answer #2 · answered by cinnamon 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
yes that is molestation and yes you can be scarred from that. it is not your fault that he did that and dont let him ruin the rest of your life because he is a child predator. If you think you need help seek out a counselor. good luck and remember it is NOT your fault and you should not live with the guilt-he should
2007-03-24 08:32:05 · answer #3 · answered by 1st-time-mommy 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Did this girl sit on his lap? Then it WAS molestation. If just talked to him, then it's not.
This person should see a therapist.
2007-03-24 08:32:48 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Who knows? Some people are easily frightened. If she naturally has high levels of anxiety, she could get spooked by a pigeon.
Or, she may be gay and not know it yet. Stranger things have happened.
2007-03-24 08:27:52 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
that's molestation. it'd have decked that dorkbat. so, uh, that is a traumatic experience.
2007-03-24 08:26:30 · answer #6 · answered by fishthevile 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
how is she in social situatations, all though it was unwanted attention dont seem to to be that extreme
2007-03-24 08:41:55 · answer #7 · answered by blue_eyed_southernman 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋