The show is over, but I felt like I wanted to get my story out in details and see what people think. I really love yahoo! Answers, i spend my time a lot here, searching for wisdom and advice
I live in Sweden, he is from USA. I've started first talking to him 5 years ago. He was only 19, I was 22. He was pretty shy and not so outgoing with girls so he thought talkin online would help him open up. We talked for couple of months when we kinda lost contact. It ended up bad since he thought we came to a point in our relationship where we should either start living together or break up because it was painful being apart. We were both still studying and couldn't move to either of the countries. He contacted me 2 years from that, probably out of curiosity and to tell me he got married.
2007-03-24 08:11:03 · 3 answers · asked by stargazer 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
5 years later I happened to be going through a break up and I felt instinctively I could drop him a casual e-mail. He surprisingly answered, being so stoked that I e-mailed him and pointing the irony of the fact that he was going through a break up too. He divorced a year ago, she cheated on him and left him. Nevertheless, we started talking again and he felt bad one day saying he will never be able to trust anyone again and I blurred out that I loved him, not going into details here. Ina ny event, I think he was so lonely that he wanted to play along and asked me to be his girlfriend, that I meant to him alot back then and that I make him smile so much adn so happy and that he loves me back. We click liek noone else on earth. We are so similar that we are even finishing eachother sentences on daily basis, LOL. So it has been going like that for 2 months, both promised to love eachother forever and then I started to get insecure and mistrussting his love.
2007-03-24 08:15:00 · update #1
I got needy because I started to get obsessed with him and I guess that's what started to drive him away in the end. He is very poor and I have more money so I am the only one calling on the phone when we cannot be online, which makes things worse. now he is like pulling back, probably getting tired of me being needy and constantly mad so he said he wasn't sure his feelings were as strong as mine and that he knows I wanna move to US and find a job there with my masters degree in molecular biology but he doens't see that happening anymore. I am very dissapointed and I cannot believe he did this for the second time. Don't you think people who really love eachother can find a loophole to be able to be with eachother!? Because he thinks that 2 people cannot think they will live happily ever after if they have never met before and that we are way over our heads here. I cannot even visit him because he works 15 hour shifts, we both know he wouldn't be able to find time.
2007-03-24 08:20:07 · update #2
He says i just became very hard for him to go through this and that we both need to find someone that is close because even if I would come visit him for a week, he wouldn't be able to let me go after that and he would want more. My problem is that I am so convinced that he is the one for me and he used to think I was the one meant for him. I cannot go beyond thos thinking I will fidn someone that makes me laugh so much, who's laughter just seduces me and who is so nice. He is a filmmaker so he says that maybe we wouldn't click because a web cam can distort the image so we might not even click when we meet for real. he used to not think like this and now I am so depressed and almost suicidal for being so naive thinking he would never hurt me and for trusting him so BLINDLY. I lvoe him so much. How do I get over him? I do not have much of a support team here, my family lives far far away and I have to get some new friends after my breakup, I am living alone.
2007-03-24 08:24:44 · update #3
It is not a bad thing to start a realtionship, but you have to be careful who you chose. You could end up heart broken, please be careful not to put to much info on your question, someone could hurt you with a bad replie.
2007-03-24 08:16:23 · answer #1 · answered by Typhlosion 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
kip looking maybe he wasn't meant for you afterall, you know you cannot force things in life
2007-03-24 08:33:45 · answer #2 · answered by Elfindo C 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm sorry for your sadness, but don't understand. What is the question?
2007-03-24 08:14:45 · answer #3 · answered by C H 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋