I need help with my baby brother. Please answer.?

Question

Ok. My baby brother is two years old, he turned two on November 28th of 2006. He cannot talk in complete sentences, but he knows about 20 words. Whenever he wants something, he cries to get it. Since half the people in my home do not have the patience to deal with the crying, they give him some food to quiet him up.

I feel this is giving him the wrong message, like"Since i get something everytime i cry, i do not need to talk." What can i do to get him to tell us what he wants without crying for virtually everything? The crying is very loud, and i fear he is getting spoiled. Please give me suggestions.

Answer 1

getting him out of the habit is not going to work if your family won't back you up. that type of behavior will spoil him; my little cousin is not even a year yet, and she is spoiled from my aunts picking her up too much. you need to have a talk with your family, tell them they are teaching him behavior that come back and bite them if they don't stop it now

Answer 2

My son is just 10 days or so older than ur lil brother. He also does not speak as well or as much as he should. He cries bcuz he is frustrated that he can not communicate. I can't believe the ppl that r saying to let him cry. He is not doing this on purpose. I asked the Dr. and she said he should b saying about 50 words. Since he doesn't she set up an appointment for a therapist to come to our home to test him soon. BUT, that was 4 weeks ago n guess what, just suddenly in the last 3 weeks he has "burst" out with alot more talking, imitating, and LESS crying! Encourage him to talk by talking to him about everything. Ask him to repeat, even if he doesnt, be positive with him. Applaude when he even gets close to asking for something. Sing songs for him, listen if he sorta joins in. Listen to when he plays alone..my son is actually saying all the ABC's n his numbers when he is alone! I havent taught them to him, he just listens as I and his 4 yr old brother sing them. Ur brother knows more than u think n when the time comes he will just start talking up a storm. Try to get ur parents to ask his Dr for help. he's not spoiled, his crying is his communication rt now. Ur a great big sister! Good luck!

Answer 3

I think that whenever he cries, you should wait a few minutes, then tell him straight out that you can't understand what he wants. No more 'Here, have some food to stop the crying". He's gonna get spoiled and fat! 20 words? Wow! If the "not understanding"-act gets annoying, remind yourself how hard it will be to get him into a preschool if he cant speak in complete sentences at TWO!

Answer 4

It is giving the wrong impression. You can start the change and your family might follow. When your brother wants something say what it is to him. Repeat it 5 or 6 times and then ask him "Can you say____?" it will engage him and encourage him to tell you what it is that he wants. My son it a little younger ( a few months) and he knows that he needs to at least try to say the word before he gets it. I am not mean about it I just gently encourage him. I think that time outs might help with the tantrums that he throws to get what he wants as well. The behavior needs attention before he is a 5 year old that cries for everything he wants. Good luck and good for you on being a good sibling!!!

Answer 5

Easy solution... take pictures of all the things he generally asks for (food, toys, drinks, places to go, etc). Print them out, laminate them for durability, and either put them on a key ring or put magnets on the back to stick to the fridge. This way, when he wants something, you take out the pictures, or go to the place where they are put up, and tell him to point to what he wants. This eases his frustration, as well as yours, and teaches him that there are other ways to get his needs met without screaming. You are right... kids are smart, and the more that people respond by giving him what he wants without having to ask nicely for it, the more he will continue to do it. Tell him, either ask nicely (and give him the words- tell him, say "I want drink") or ask him to point to what he wants. The pictures are effective because it is a concrete way for him to see what it is that he wants. Since he is two, and still thinks in a concrete way, pictures of the items/places he wants to go are an effective communication tool. By encouraging communication in a way that everyone can understand, it is more effective than waiting for a tantrum.

Answer 6

You let him cry. Get down on his level. Look in his eyes and say in a very calm and reassuring voice "Sissy cant understand you. Tell me what you want" and point at your mouth when you say tell me what you want. "Use your words" He will learn after a few days that he needs to start talking. 20 words is not enough for a child his age. My son knows well over that and is 16months old. Good luck honey.

Answer 7

SIGN-LANGUAGE! Yep- this is the answer- I hate whinning too. I never have given my children anything they whine for. Since they can understand a lot more then what they can talk: If they sign "please" they get what they want, and lots of praise from you. Keep reinforcing it over and over, and they will do it on their own. Other popular words to sign to cut back on whinning is:
"more"
"all done"
"thankyou"
"sorry"
Start off with please though. IT's the most practical. Look online for some signs. Let me see if I can find a link for ya-

Answer 8

2 year old

Social

Imitates behavior of others, especially adults and older children
More aware of herself as separate from others
More excited about company of other children
Emotional

Demonstrates increasing independence
Begins to show defiant behavior
Separation anxiety increases toward midyear then fades
Cognitive

Finds objects even when hidden under two or three covers
Begins to sort by shapes and colors
Begins make-believe play
Language

Points to object or picture when it's named for him
Recognizes names of familiar people, objects, and body parts
Says several single words (by 15 to 18 months)
Uses simple phrases (by 18 to 24 months)
Uses 2- to 4-word sentences
Follows simple instructions
Repeats words overheard in conversation
Movement

Walks alone
Pulls toys behind her while walking
Carries large toy or several toys while walking
Begins to run
Stands on tiptoe
Kicks a ball
Climbs onto and down from furniture unassisted
Walks up and down stairs holding on to support
Hand and Finger Skills

Scribbles on his or her own
Turns over container to pour out contents
Builds tower of four blocks or more
Might use one hand more often than the other

Developmental Health Watch
Alert your child's doctor or nurse if your child displays any of the following signs of possible developmental delay for this age range.
Cannot walk by 18 months
Fails to develop a mature heel-toe walking pattern after several months of walking, or walks only on his toes
Does not speak at least 15 words
Does not use two-word sentences by age 2
By 15 months, does not seem to know the function of common household objects (brush, telephone, bell, fork, spoon)
Does not imitate actions or words by the end of this period
Does not follow simple instructions by age 2
Cannot push a wheeled toy by age 2
Experiences a dramatic loss of skills he or she once had

Answer 9

teach him to talk yourself maybe even when he doesn't want anything or doesn't cry. give him rewards like hugs or swinging or something fun when he talks. don't try to control what the other people do. just teach him to talk yourself. 2 is pretty young to talk much so just be patient

Answer 10

your right this isnt doing anything but spoiling him. just ignore him when he cry. tell him to tell you what he want like a big boy no one understands that crying. and if he continues to cry leave him. it will annoy you but it will get to him to he will undestand that i dont get anything by crying.