She wants to focus on getting her life sorted out (outside of our relationship that she said was perfect, doesnt want new relationship) which is fine. We were extremely close, got along easily, and all that. But I don't understand why I would need to be put aside now. I never ask for much, she knows that and knows it's not fair on me. She's risking losing me by doing this and I don't think she realizes that. She's got a very unique personality and I somehow doubt she'll find anyone else in the future (or at least someone who will treat her as I do) and end up regretting this. I cannot speak to her directly about this. She's too busy right now and on the other side of the country, so a serious conversation will have to wait until late June, but by then I fear I may have already pushed her out of my mind or she'll have totally set her mind on us being friends. Yet she also says we 'could' end up together in the future again. That's not right given what we had and were.
2007-03-24 08:00:17 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Sounds like she's at a point in her life where she's reevaluating what she wants in life. You guys were together for 8 years but didn't necessarily get married. Take this time to reevaluate your life-what you want to do in life, what you need in a relationship, what your priorities are. Sometimes people grow apart. She's on the other side of the country and says she wants to get HER life sorted out. And you say that you never ask for much. Perhaps you need to be clearer and speak up louder when it comes to your needs. She sounds like an independent person.
You also said that she wants to only be friends. If she has already said this, the relationship is basically over. It ISN'T fair for her to keep you on a string by giving you false hope saying maybe you COULD wind up together in the future. I mean, its possible, but you need to pick yourself up and try to learn from this relationship and what you could have done differently and what she could have done differently.
2007-03-24 10:33:51 · answer #1 · answered by Niki 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't lose hope in her she's just confessed right now she may be thinking about marriage and her future with you and does not want anything to mess it up so give her the brake she needs to find out what she really wants and needs you guys fit together if you didn't you would not have lasted 8yrs but continue call her and she will call you also if you are really friends and you need to see each other make it happen.
2007-03-24 08:19:00 · answer #2 · answered by cherries_on_toppd 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She's made it very clear she wants to move on. I'm sure she gave a lot of thought to it. Your discussions will not have any effect unless she has wanted to get married and you were never ready to commit. Find someone else.
2007-03-24 08:21:11 · answer #3 · answered by kadel 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dude! when women tell you they just want to be friends, this means, I DONT WANT TO HAVE SEX WITH YOU ANYMORE. Be assured, if she is on the other side of the country and not talking to you via phone, she is banging some other guy!
2007-03-24 08:08:42 · answer #4 · answered by tony s 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She is tired of a relationship without marriage or future..
She is ready to move on and find a husband..
2007-03-24 08:04:29 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
It is so sad. Perhaps the pressure of her job that has taken her far from your side has confused her. I hope that you can sort things out.
2007-03-24 08:05:46 · answer #6 · answered by redunicorn 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She's got another.... Run......FAST. Imagine if this happened every 8 years? That is one self centered girl.
2007-03-24 08:05:30 · answer #7 · answered by Joe T 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you are not one of her top priority's. Why would you want to be with someone like that. Move on.
2007-03-24 08:05:38 · answer #8 · answered by Andrea G 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get a dog...The dog will love you for who you are...It won't try to "change" you.....It won't cheat on you.....It also won't try and get a ride with someone else when you go somewhere with it.....And MOST of all...It won't bit-ch at you for every mistake you make.
2007-03-24 08:17:51 · answer #9 · answered by spock78765 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
MY BOYFRIEND OF 8 YEARS DID THE SAME THING TO ME----AND HONESTLY I CAN'T FIGURE IT OUT EITHER!!! WHEN YOU FIGURE IT OUT THEN LET ME KNOW!!!
2007-03-24 08:05:22 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋