Custody of a 2 month old?

Question

I have a 2 month old son born January 10 2007. I was with the babys father for the past year. On March 10th we got into an argument and it got serious - I went to jail for domestic violence, pled guilty. I have been in councling since February. I have been on meds and suffering from post partum depression. He clearly dosen't want to work things out with me. He says I haven't made him happy and he says I am not happy with him, YET I AM. He wants "joint-custody" and he thinks he will get the baby every other night, or he gets him 5 days then i get him 5 days. My baby boy is only 2 months old! Should he be away from his mother? I have told him that he would never see his child again becuase I was mad he didn't want to work things out. I know it was wrong but I am depressed and more depressed becuase I lost the love of my life, who is my childs father. I am afraid that if the judge says he can see him every weekend he will want to work things out then. WHAT CAN HAPPEN? HE HAS A LAYWER

Answer 1

Number one, you better get a lawyer. You had better look to make a compromise over custody. Please also think of the child, I am telling you and I would tell him the same thing-don't use the child as a pawn in a pissing match between you two. This is no time to play trailer park drama-there is a kid involved here, so remeber you both have to work it out for the child's sake. I am not telling you to think about getting back together with him, just work it out a plan for custody.

Answer 2

I would suggest that you do the same thing and get an attorney. If you cant afford one there are ways to get them on a pro bono situation. Thats where you dont have to pay them if you are in a certain wage bracket. Anyway, get you an attorney first, then ask him all that you are asking here.
Because unless the person answering your question here is an attorney in your state, you could get the wrong information and end up losing completely. I , as a parent, know that you wouldnt like that.
So, for you and your son, get in touch with the local legal aide where you are, social services can give you their numbers. Then talk with an attorney...
By the way, post partum depression is not a reason to loose your child, it could delay your having full and sole custody.
However, has there been a paternity test done through the attorney generals office in your state. If you werent married, you can postpone his having anything to do with the child till a paternity test is done. Then you can hit him for childsupport and yes, he will get visitation, but only as the courts set them up which is normally, every 1st 3rd and 5th weekends and rotated holidays. Plus on the childs birthday, he will be entitled to having his custody for a period of time on that day to be determind by the courts.

Good luck....

Answer 3

When you are angry at someone is not the time to make decisions. You need a lawyer and I know it is something you probably can't afford. Call the local college that has a law school and see what they might have to offer. Maybe you can get some help there. Also public aide can get you a lawyer. I am sorry for your troubles. I was a single mom and now my son is grown and married. I am not sure that you should ever use your son as a pawn in the threats towards your boyfriend as it shows you have to grow up where being a mom is concerned. I know its all you have and it is a very selfish way. Do not go there trust me.
Look at your life and make a 2 year plan. Get prospective.
Right now you are reacting and you need to get pro-active.
Do you have a mom to guide you??
email me if you need to.

Answer 4

First, get a lawyer.
Second, check your states laws on child custody. In Ohio, the mother is custodial parent unless, you are married at the time of the child's birth then both parents are.
Third, with the history you have provided be prepared for the judge to lean in his favor.
Make sure you have a doctor ready to prove you are/where suffering from Post-partum depression, as well as statemnets from any and all consulors you heve been to see to say that you are working on dealing with your problems.
In the state of Ohio, when two parents can not agree on the visitations/custody of a child local rule 19 is applied unless there are circumstances that prohibit it.

Answer 5

First you need to get better - post partum is serious - it can cause you to do things you would not normally do - stay on your medication. The one that will suffer most is your child - going from one parent to another it will be difficult for your child growing up. Your husband is not guaranteed to be your husband forever but your child will weather he's with you or your husband will always be yours. Loose lips sink ships - watch what you say - it will make it worse for yourself when it comes to getting custody of your child. Prove to the judge that you are on medication for your depression/post partum until your doctor states you are fine - the judge will give you custody so that you can share baby with your husband and perhaps in your recovery things may get better all together in your marriage.
Your wellness is first priority before anything else at this point.

Answer 6

Alot can happen to be honest..I went thro the same thing when my son was born My husband got visitations with his father from thursday night till monday morning then I had them again till thursday night.. the Judge said this would change as the child got older.. I hated it myself so I changed it I talk to my hubby told him how I felt asked him to join counsling with me.. you can ask that he do that in court to...but for the most part a Judge isn't likely to take a child away from the mother unless she can be proven unfit..If you want things to work out then you need to get going and start it.. show him you want to and get him involved. You should also look for a laywer.

Answer 7

When a child is that young, one cannot be bounced around every few days....it would be very hard on the child's health. ( sleep pattern, etc.
Yes, do get a lawyer, and go from there.
Do some research on-line, see what you can do for the best interest in the child.
The child's Dad should always be in the child's life, and a decent relationship between his parents is what will help him have a more stable life.

Answer 8

Who do you reside with? and who helps you and the toddler? in case you go with for custody you will ought to tutor which you will look after him and which you're a greater healthful determine. till you will get your moms and dads to connect you in this request for custody it is not likely the two you or the father can get custody and CPS will in all likelihood enter the suite and probable place you and the toddler in foster care.

Answer 9

stop being depressed for now you have a baby to take care of! you don't need to worry about any of that for now! raise your child and don't threaten the father because that'll be bad against you! Talk to him ask him where it all went wrong and why has he stopped loving you! he'll more than likely say " i haven't stopped loving you, I still do! show him you love him if he'll let you take him out to a nice dinner, or have a candle light dinner at your home! show him you care more than ever for him and it will hopefully work out for the best!

Answer 10

what ever you do dont go in without a laywer i think there scum too but in court the judge was once a laywer and he wont listen too the common person. women can get the man too pay for legal consul sometimes too good luck
been there/done that