well im a virgin and tomorows my wedding.On the honeymoon i plan on losing my virginity.Iv always wanted an orgasm but how???
2007-03-24 07:44:15 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
Dont think about the orgasm! If you are focused on it, it will never happen. Just enjoy yourself.
2007-03-24 07:48:03 · answer #1 · answered by Joie Bleau 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If your hubby's a virgin too, there is almost a 100% chance you won't have that orgasm. Sorry. On my wedding night, my hubby have two painful pumps and finished (he was a virgin too and have no control). I rolled over and cried to be honest but we've had a marvalous almost three years perfecting it. There are condoms to have control men. My husband had to use those for a while. Now, we can use ultra thins. I don't always have an orgasm, but sex isn't always about getting pleasure, but giving pleasure. Concentrate on loving him. If he's experienced, you may have a lovely surprise. Oh, and DEFINITELY use some sort of lube. You will need it!! I still do occasionally. I know this answer may seem really personal, but the best way to help someone is to be transparent so they don't feel alone. Congrats!! May God bless your marriage for all your days!
2007-03-24 16:53:24 · answer #2 · answered by Bex 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all Congrats on finding your soul mate, and I hope you have a truly blessed marriage! On the night before your wedding you have plenty of things to stress out about, and you don't want or really need one more thing to stress out about right now. Getting through your vows and first dance as husband and wife, hoping nobody gets stupid drunk @ the reception are plenty enough stress! Honestly I commend you on still being a virgin that's great! Relax am sure you'll have a great wedding night as long as you don't let it consume you. Don't put to much pressure and expectations on just one night of sex you'll have the rest of your lifetime to enjoy and figure out each others likes and dislikes. You guys should enjoy practicing making each other orgasm on a regular bases. One time it might be really bad but the next time he may end up blowing your mind! sex is something you both get better at! especially when you figure out likes and dislikes in bed. Have fun with experimenting with each other.
When I meet my husband he was my first, and honestly it hurt really bad, he kept apologizing, and trying to be as gentle as passable. It still hurt I still bled, but than after a few more times it felt real good, and know it's the best.
well anyway good luck, and try not to stress out to much!
2007-03-24 16:47:21 · answer #3 · answered by mynameismebutidontknowdidit 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Don't focus too much on the orgasm--focus more on learning each other's bodies, and learning your own body and what feels good to you. Orgasms rarely occur for women having sex for the first time with their partner--their bodies are more nuanced and require more "practice" to figure out what works. The worst thing you can do is feel pressure to have an orgasm--it's the surest way not to have one. Enjoy the intimacy, take it slow and gentle, learn your body, and remember to enjoy yourself! The orgasm will follow when it's time.
Congratulations, and the best of luck to both of you!
2007-03-24 17:56:09 · answer #4 · answered by Jen 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honestly, I wouldn't worry about whether or not you'll have an orgasm, because you probably won't. Just concentrate on the closeness you'll feel with your new husband, try not to be nervous. You might want to have some KY Jelly or some other lubricant as well, because you may have vaginal dryness, which will make intercourse rather uncomfortable for you. Tell your hubby to take things nice and slow, LOTS of cuddling, touching, etc., and just concentrate on being close to him. The rest will come in time, as you learn what you like, and as he learns what gives you pleasure and vice versa--but admittedly it's alot simpler for guys!! Congrats on your marriage, congrats on keeping yourself until you're married. In today's society, that's quite the feat!! Have a blessed marriage!
2007-03-24 14:54:46 · answer #5 · answered by basketcase88 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It will happen don't fret on it! I was a virgin going into my wedding worried bout the same thing! it just happens. :) just go into the intercourse completely calm not been nervous everything will flow. :) if you don't have one well you dont have oen! but if you need some lubericant try some warming lubercant it works :) try some thing new :) remember you got lots of things you can use for foreplay. well take care good luck on your wedding i myself been married now 6months :) may 100 years of you and your fiancee be together
2007-03-24 16:21:43 · answer #6 · answered by teddybearkatie 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sweetie relax and think of it at one of the best moments of you life and live the moment...dont think about the orgasm cause it will mess things up plus if you decided to keep you virginity till marraige...then its about MUCH more then an orgasim...you got your whole marrege to have those!
2007-03-24 16:37:51 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all CONGRATULATIONS on your wedding and on your marriage. And also on getting married a virgin. Join my club, we are few and far between, but boy are we worth it.
Just dont be nervous on your wedding day. You love this man you're about to marry so you will be comfortable with him. just give yourself to him fully and completely with love. You will have an amazing wedding night. Enjoy it!!
2007-03-27 14:51:38 · answer #8 · answered by MariChelita 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Congratulations!!! You don't have to worry about having an orgasm first thing, it takes time for couples to get to know each others' bodies, it's a time for exploration for both of you. Patience...
2007-03-24 14:50:04 · answer #9 · answered by Sandy 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Bring a vibrator. It may take you a few times before you have an orgasm.
2007-03-24 17:59:39 · answer #10 · answered by JLM 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋