How can i make being a single parent easier?

Question

I have a 7 year old daughter, and the mother up and left state on a bus. So now custody is all taken care of, the mother has no/doesn't, want contact with the child. I live in Springboro ohio, and have an apartment with my daughter, rent is 580 a month. . I make 1200 dollars after tax a month, with the bills i live week to week, and i cannot get aid from the government because i make too much. Also with past bills from the mom chasing after me. I feel like i am under a rock. I know very little about possible help avenues, other than gov. which i tried.

wow unbelievable amount of answers.
no she isnt paying child support as of yet, i have to file in dayton ohio. since she moved to another state,(new york), it would take the papers to get filled out and then ny would go after her. the reason i moved to ohio is cause i had a friend who asked me if i wanted to get an apartment with him,(he was a single dad as well). my family is in upstate ny and the situation is not good, many many details about that, they live in worse poverty than me. family support isnt in the cards at all. so right now we are getting by, but its rough, and im a man who has a hard time keeping financial things under control. i live 2 blocks from work , and she goes to a really good school here, 2 miles away. work schedule is terrific, and coincides with her school schedule. whats the best way to maintain stability for her, yet still uproot what i have to try to attain higher wages and such?

Answer 1

I'm sure you aren't getting child support from her. If they don't want to see the child they damn sure don't want to pay for it. I'd say go after her too but it sounds like she's not the working type and thye can't get blood from a turnip. I know she owes it but do you really want your little girl's mom to be in jail? I just couldn't do it to my kids because everone would know and it wouldn't be so good for the baby.I would think you could get food stamps at least I lnow for a family of 5 in Mississippi you can make up to 2800.00 and get 596 per month. Of course I am in Mississippi. Can you get daycare assistance? I don't mean to keep asking you all this but somehow, someway people with more than you keep getting help. You would be better off mowing lawns or something. They make tons of cash money a day and you could be home for your daughter in the afternoons I'm so sorry for you . I am a single mother of twins 9 and twins 8 and have been for 7.5 years.You have to find a better job "if you have time". Do you get medicaid for you or her? Actually in Mississippi if you make over 515.00 per month you can't get it for yourself but you can for her. You should drop insurance on her thru your job and mediciad will take her.One time a place called WISCA paid my electric bill. Of course those letters stand for the county in my area. It's a community action agency. I commend you for taking care of your daughter and not pawning her off on someone else. My children get free lunches at school and since eall you make is 1200 a month she will be able to be in an after school program for free. Our's was through the YMCA and luckily one of the locations was at our school.Girls are hard to raise. Bless you,bless you and her!

Answer 2

If you know where the girl's mother has gone, you can file for child support and if, and when, she gets a job, she will have to send a check every month to help support her daughter. Just because you have custody (glad that you do, by the way), doesn't mean she doesn't have to send money for her child every month. File suit against her for support in your county and hope you eventually get some money. In the meantime, go to a Legal Aide society, or your own lawyer, and find out what local agencies will help you. I think Salvation Army will help. And you may qualifty for free school lunches for your child. If you attend a church, ask your pastor where to go for more help. I am sure there are places that would help you get groceries, etc. Your child may be eligible for free after school care, too. Just don't give up. You are doing a wonderful thing taking responsibility for your child, and you will find the help you need if you just keep trying. Also, you might consider looking for an even better job. Maybe you need to take a course to improve your skills, or something, but you should be able to improve your salary, if you try. God Bless you.

Answer 3

also try to find an apartment that goes by your income and family status .... your ex should be paying sapport AND carry insurance on child........ even though you may not be eligable for assistance from govenment your child should be... medical and food stamps now try to find a better job 1200 a month sucks.....and just so you know i move all over the country ... currently I am in ohio and i have never seen people so hungry to do so much work for very little pay.........my advise , do a little research find a great place and move there... ohio sucks

Answer 4

I think you may need to get more job skills so that you can get a better job. Most government programs are for the marginal workers. You make enough to live but not live well. The only programs you may be eligible for are housing related. Check with your local housing authority. Your rent is usually based upon 30% of your income.

You should be getting child support.

Answer 5

Well, You should be receiving child support like she(up there) said. Also, If you can find it possible see if you can get someone to move in with you, maybe your brother, or sister, or even have the childs grandmother come and stay with you for a while, move in a pay part of the rent.
You could also consider hiring a nanny if you can afford it.

Answer 6

nicely i've got in basic terms ever been a single be certain so i assume I have no physique of reference... yet in my view i can not think of what must be much less complicated approximately being completely on my own in the worldwide taking up the overpowering emotional, actual, psychological and economic job of elevating little ones, once you finally end up in circumstances like not being waiting to get a haircut in 2 years because of the fact there is noone to observe the youngsters, working out of bathroom roll and having to hold it in until eventually morning because of the fact the youngsters are asleep and you won't be able to bypass away, on no account ever having each and each individual you may in basic terms bypass away them with for a jiffy (not to show some hours) so which you will get some thing performed, going to mattress on my own on the top of on a daily basis and not using a soul in the worldwide to debate the subject concerns and share the thrill with. Sounds to me like your people have an spectacular cushion of help and are not particularly 'single' mum and dad in the real experience. I additionally ought to absolutely accept as true with Zorro for as quickly as. Why do you assume you're any further of a be certain than he's, and entitled to any further of a say, single or jointly? Why do you even assume you will get finished custody and not 50/50? in my view, except there's a real case against it, i think of in the region of a divorce between 2 loving mum and dad, 50/50 custody is often fairest on the youngsters. i'm hoping you have a real good reason in the back of desiring to cut back their relationship with their dad to visitation, besides your guy or woman selfishness. of direction you needless to say do not see eye to eye, however the certainty that he takes such an lively involvement shows that he cares and is a good father. Why do you assume that a divorce will silence him concerning the methods wherein he feels his little ones must be raised? i'm sorry, inspite of the undeniable fact that it particularly is girls such as you who make it so damn confusing for single mum and dad to describe their strikes against the real deadbeats and undesirable mum and dad of this worldwide. consistent with possibility kinfolk counselling could be an theory fairly than this administration freak techniques-set the place each and everything you're saying is going and each and each individual who happens to disagree can get out and lose each and everything.

Answer 7

Have you taken the mother for child support? Just because she wants no contact to the child doesn't mean she isn't responsible for her. Sometimes calling your local churches will help you and sometimes the city will too. Just call up places like WIC office and public aid and asking what else can you do to help.

Answer 8

Being a single parent is never easy. I was one for 5 years and all i did was take it one day at a time. Just looking at my kids made all the worries fade and as long as we had each other some how everything else would work out too.

Answer 9

you need some education to make a better salary.
your parents are a good source of help
consider moving near your mom/dad
you are under a rock. same rock as everyone in your
situation. try to get child support from the mom.
try to get food stamps and try to get a better job

Answer 10

BB message me at [e-mail] or send me an e-mail. Being a single parent of three for yrs have taught me some tricks of the trade!!!