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Question

My Aunt, 92 years old ,is dieing from cancer. I know she going to a much better place, she will not have to suffer. So, why is it so hard to let go? The Bible says that we should celebrate when a Christian dies, I know this, and yet I feel sad and selfish.

Answer 1

No, it's not sad and selfish. When Lazarus died, Jesus cried. It's not that we shouldn't grieve, but that we shouldn't grieve like those who don't know the Lord. We celebrate in the sense that we can rejioce that we know our loved one is going to be with the Lord forever. It would be abnormal not to be sad and upset when someone we love so much dies. Letting go is hard, but you know it's not forever. If you're both Christians, you will see her again!

Answer 2

We all feel sad when some one dies. It is natural. The Bible says celebrate, but it doesnt tell u not to be sad. So be sad, cry as much as u want. It helps. Talk to God...and to other ppl. The human minds works that way, ull probably never let go completely, shell always be a part of who u are, but letting ur feelings out will help u to get over her death.

In the Bible it says dont grieve like those who dont know God.

God is the best counselor tho, so give all ur sorrows to Him and he will take them for u. If u ask Him to lift your sadness away, he will. ; )

Answer 3

It is a cultural thing. Your culture is to be sad when a loved one dies. Other cultures cry when babies are born (in anticipation of the pain they will have to endure in life) and rejoice when a person dies.

Has your Aunt had a good 92 years (except for the cancer)? Enjoy the few days left with her.

My father died at 50 and my mother died at 79 less than a year ago.

I'm sorry for your pending loss, but 92 years is a good long life.

How is she feeling about it?

Answer 4

The scriptures don't say not to grieve. They don't tell us to deny the love we have one for another. If you remember the account of when Lazarus died. Even though Jesus knew The Father would raise him up in just a few hours he still grieved the loss of this friend. He knew his friend rested in the grave, but this didn't stop the feelings of loss that he keenly felt, and the compassion for the sisters of Lazarus in their grief as well. It would be pretty unnatural for you not to feel sad at the prospect of loosing your loved one.

Just remember, just as Lazarus slept and awaited the Resurrection, so too you will see your Aunt again at that last day, if you are faithful to Him.

Ps. 91

Answer 5

You posed a good question today...
As mere humans we do not want to say goodbye to our loved ones. We Christians are no different that anyone else in the world in that respect. Everyone has these emotions of loss and grieving..

Your aunt will be with Jesus and for eternity she will never suffer any kind of pain, sorrow, loss or heartache again.
I am praying for you and your family that God holds you close in His loving arms and gives you comfort.
God has plans for our lives and when we have to 'let go' HE is there to comfort us in our time of sorrow.
My parents passed away and it is still a tremendous loss but God has that special way of giving us wonderful memories and hugs us up close when we are sad...
When they passed on, I never asked God 'why' for death is a part of living. I am assured I will be with my parents someday to live forever in Paradise.
God bless you

Answer 6

Try to change your thinking away from your wants and needs and exchange them for God's wants and needs. God wants your Aunt with Him now. Ask God for what He wants where your Aunt is concerned and You shall be blessed and comforted by Him. That is why the Lord's prayer says "Thy wilil be done" you are praying for the Lord's will in your life and not your own.

If your aunt is a Christian, and if you are a Christian, the both of you will be reunited again some day. Each day that passes is a day closer to that day of reunion with her. I personally have lost my Father, Mother, sister, Favorite aunt, cousin,(her daughter), friends etc. Yes it hurts, but I find comfort in the arms of our Lord.

I will be praying for you.

Answer 7

We are all human. You need to talk with your aunt and let her know about your problem. She will be able to help you through this. I like to think that everything happens for a reason. We may not know it, but it is there. We will eventually be able to see why, but until then you have to face the fact that we are not perfect and that we all will mourn someone when they pass. It is just human nature. But life will go on and you will heal.

Answer 8

It is not wrong to mourn the loss of a loved one. I don't recall the Bible actually saying that we're to celebrate when a Christian dies, but rather not to grieve as those who have no hope. (I Thessalonians 4:14)

We are called to "mourn with those who mourn, etc." (Romans 12:15)

Answer 9

its hard to let go of people we care about. the fact is that its alright to feel sad and selfish when somthing like this happens. the good news is that your aunt accepted Christ, and nothing will ever separate her from Gods love. and dont worry, youll see her again soon enough.
but for now we must fight, lo the battle is short.

Answer 10

It is not wrong to feel sorrow at the loss of a loved one. Paul was not saying that when he said, "But I do not want you to be ignorant, brethren, concerning those who have fallen asleep, lest you sorrow as others who have no hope." He was saying that we have the hope of seeing our loved ones again, so that it is not a final departure. But we do feel the loss and miss those we love.

Notice how Jesus even sorrowed over Lazarus:
John 11:35-36 -- Jesus wept. Then the Jews said, "See how He loved him!"

And Jesus did not condemn the disciples for the sorrow they would feel at his death (John 16:20).

And neither is it selfish to have loved someone and want them to continue with you. Rather, your sorrow attests to their goodness.