My Mom gets mad over the littlest things and she takes everything out on me and all my friends see it too!help

Question

My mom, me and my friend were on our way out of the house and I went to the bathroom and then all of a sudden my Mom freakes out and starts yelling because I wasn't in the car yet!Then other times I'll say "I'm board" And she'll be like "well if you're so board then clean my kitchen or give your sister a bath" And I'll say "um, not thanks" And then she'll walk away and mumble "thanks, thanks a lot" And she gives me guilt trips and it's really making me feel bad, but I just don't know what to do. I can't talk to her (trust me, I've tried) She gets upset and says "well, if your lifes is so bad then why don't I show you how bad it could really be" And then she doesn't talk to me for the rest of the day! Please, any advice helps!

Answer 1

Sometimes being a parent isn't the easiest job in the world. It doesn't come with an instruction manual. If your mom is preoccupied, then she probably seems short to you. She really does love you but something else is going on and until you find out what it is, it will probably be a bumpy ride. I used to get frustrated with my daughter if I told her we were leaving and at the last minute she had something to do. It just comes with the territory. Cheer up, some day you'll be a parent too.

Answer 2

Well moms always do that. And to the person who already commented that they have a daughter blah blah blah. That is an excuse. Just because you are preoccupied doesn't make it right to yell at us. If we are preoccupied we get yelled at also when you try to tell us to do something. Reasoning does help either with mothers. My mom got in a fight at work that was a couple months of yelling at me for no reason, The yelling got so bad that I couldn't even make out what she was saying. I sat their one and took everything she said and didn't make a sound and she screamed STOP YELLING AT ME! and I had not said a thing. Mothers are stuck in their little heads thinking they are always right and the kid is wrong.

Answer 3

Your mom sounds stressed out and over worked. Raising kids is hard business as well as running a household. My mom and I were the EXACT same when I was a teenager. I never really got it then, I just though she was out to ruin my life and make me miserable. I'm 26 now and tryin to run my own house and I see what ahe was talkin about. I love my mom and wish I would've helped her more. If talkin about it didn't work then I suggest DOING something about it. Help out. Do stuff without being asked or told to. Bathe your sister, do \ the dishes, vaccum or sweep. Little things go a long way and your mom will respect you so much more, it will even give her the sense that your more mature. Trust me it will work. She just needs help and to be shown respect. Goodluck honey and remember its not all about you so dont think shes just tryin to hurt you, shes suffering herself. Pitch in!

Answer 4

Sounds like your mother is going through some hard times. It also sounds like she's alone...meaning, not married and with no help from you. Here's and idea...since you cannot provide for any of the things your mother buys for you so you actually have a roof, some food, clothing, try doing the following. A) get better grades, especially in grammar. B) help out around th ehouse without asking, C) try thinking about others rather than yourself.

Answer 5

I do not think this is all about you. Your Mom, may be under a lot of stress right now, and sometimes, help her out, and do the things that she asks. even it is to keep the peace. One day may be you can have that talk with your Mom, and tell her that you just want to get on better with her, and you just want to have peace at home, so that we can all get along together! She may even need to see a doctor, because she may not even understand, what is going on, with herself! So for not just have some patients, and help her out around the house!

Answer 6

Put in your search engine ~ Desiderata. Read it, print it and then give acopy to your Mum and ask her what she thinks. Ask her to calm down as stress can be a killer leading to all sorts of negative and psychological conditions. Tell her to paste Desiderata on the kitchen wall and every time she stresses out, sit and read it calmly. Tell her, what goes around comes around. Smile at the world and send out love and you will be rewarded with the same. Treasure family and true friends and remember we have only a short time on this earth to live, love and enjoy our lives together. Buy or pick her a bunch of nice flowers.
(Check your spelling: "bored" is what you mean, not a plank of wood!)
Cheers! Dr Hugo

Answer 7

Well, to be honest, I think she does not know much about parenthood. Maybe the house she grew up in was not a good example for her. She may of not seen a mom or dad take care of someone when she was younger. I mean I know you love her, but if you want this to ever stop, your just going to have to tell her what you really honestly think of her parenting style. She won't take it well, and that's a fact. But just do it, and things may get dramatically better...Good Luck...

Answer 8

the best possible answer I can give you is move out. this is a phase that everyone goes through and the only thing you can really actually do is stay out of her way as much as possible don't give her any reason to yell at you and it kind of goes like the old saying slap one cheek turn the other lol yeah. So once you get old enough to move out, than do that until then stay out the way.

Answer 9

My mom is the same way sometimes, and here is what I do. Basically, she and my mom are both being immature. When she says I'll show you how worse it can be, be like "You're acting really immature mom, please stop." BUt dont scream it. And if she blows up, don't blow up back, and just say "See?" and YOU walk out. Dont talk to her, until SHE talks to you first. And when she blows up for no reason, say "Calm down" and if she starts yelling for no reason, just act like ur ignoring her, and when she yells more, say " MOM, Ive asked you to please stop screaming. because im not gonna talk if you keep yelling." and be nice when she's nice. She is like the kid in these situations. be nice when shes nice. but be mean only when she goes psycho. e-mail me at [e-mail] and we can chat about our "kids" LOL. =)

Answer 10

It sounds like MOM has her hands full and is not feeling very appreciated. Try cleaning the house, doing the dishes, a load of laundry, anything to help her out, without her asking you, and watch the change. Try to really imagine what youor mom has to do EVERYDAY, and most times without a thank you, could you do it? Try to be a little less selfish I know thats hard at your age, and see it from her point of veiw.