My girlfriend found her husband in bed with another guy..She says it's the worst possible insult and wants out

Question

He never looked at other women or was unfaithful to her with
other women. They have 3 adorable children. He's claiming the
guy seduced him and he could not resist. She had a good sex life
with him. Now she feels insulted.
I told her not to do anything until things cool down. Think of the
children and what a broken home will do them.
What should she do?. He only wanted sex with the guy and is not
in love with him. It was purely a ohysical attraction.
Has such a thing ever happenned to you or someone you know?

Answer 1

cheating is cheating id leave him

Answer 2

oh wow. That REALLY sucks. My suggestion is for her to get rid of her husband....PRONTO. Guy-on-guy sex does not "just happen". It's usually not some type of mistake. Obviously if her husband was being forcefully raped, she would have noticed that and probably called the police. My opinion is her husband had done something similar to this in his past. He is either bisexual or on the DL and hasn't come out yet. This is a situation where your girlfriend will have to sit her husband down and talk to him about his sexuality, stressing honesty something like this is definitely a problem that needs to be addressed.

About the children, a lot of couples decide to stay together for the sake of their kids even though it's not the best thing. They are constantly arguing and bickering with each other, which stresses out the children because their parents cannot get along. Such a situation also puts the children in the middle. Sooner or later, kids figure out their parents are staying together for their sake and they will start thinking that all the fighting is their fault because they wouldn't be fighting if they were/are not together.

Also, if she decides to stay with him, your girlfriend will always remember this and may never be able to reconcile this within her self. Sex with her husband will/may never be the same again.

There are lots of things your girlfriend needs to figure out to decide if she truly wants to leave or wait things out. Best of luck to her.

Answer 3

Cheating is cheating no matter who it is with. For the sake of the children, they may want to work things out with counseling. And he would have to do a whole lot to prove she can ever trust him again. She needs to be sure that this wasn't just a one time and that he isn't secretly gay and wanting to move on. Hopefully he used protection.

Answer 4

The bottom line is he cheated on her because he wanted something she would never be able to provide him... sex with another man. No matter what she does, she can never be a male partner and he clearly likes to have sex with men. I personally don't see how she can get past that obstacle.

Answer 5

The guy needs to get out of the closet... and she needs to get out of that relationship.

Marriages where the parents are no longer happy together does not help the kid... it teaches them that marriage and love is something that it's not.

Besides, will she ever be able to forgive him for sleeping with another man? Or can she trust that he isn't gay??

This isn't any of your business, it's your friend's decision, why are you butting in, anyways?

Answer 6

Do you blame her?

There's more there than meets the eye. He may not be in love with guy but he sounds like he has a lot of issues.

I've known several friends who have broken up with their significant others because they realized they were gay. Unfortunately, it happens.

Answer 7

her husbands gay she needs to open her eyes and see this and she might need an aids test her husband cheated on her she needs to think of her kids she needs to leave him !,Heather

Answer 8

yea