On thursday i asked to go on a break with my girlfriend because im so sick of her chilling with guys whenever shes not with me. I mean ALL the time. She said why shouldnt she if shes not doing anything wrong. So we go on the break and the next day she begs me to end the break because she sees my point. So last night she goes out with girls for her friends bday and she made a point of saying "..and don't worry i promise i wont see guys tonight". after dinner these guys called and she went to chill with them. When she told me this i broke up with her. I know these guys are just her friends but i think she should have respect for me and atleast should have not done it the next day after she promised. Any thoughts?
2007-03-24 07:24:14 · 23 answers · asked by Hurt 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You are right and she is wrong.
You have asked her and she has laughed off your concerns instead of working with you.
She disrespects you, and you can bet the guys she is with also disrespect you.
2007-03-24 07:29:03 · answer #1 · answered by Stan W 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well see the thing is with girls is they do tend to want to hang around other people, but she should respect the fact that u dnt feel confortable with it. She might feel better in guys company because girls do tend to get bitchy. If you feel this insecure about her then it was a good thing breaking up with her because all there wud be is arguments over lack of trust. You shouldnt be with someone if there is a trust issue because it could be a hard relationship that is full of arguments and neither of you will be happy
2007-03-24 14:31:32 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Jelousy, it's a powerful emotion isn't it?
It's a good thing you broke up with her, if this went on, she would have broken up with you eventually.
You see, women don't want a man to play her therapist. That's what her friends are for.
She wants you to give her emotional support.
There's also a rule in dating.
(Take me as I am.)
Listen, you can't change a woman. You're just killing attraction. If you don't want a woman that'll hang out with men, try finding a girl who's more like that instead of changing one that isn't.
When you start a relationship with a woman, make sure she has the type of personality you're looking for before you start the relationship because, trust me, you will not be able to change her if she's not the type of girl you want.
So, be careful who you choose, and remember this rule.
(Take me as I am.)
Because, it's a fact.
-Amos
2007-03-24 14:32:34 · answer #3 · answered by Amos E 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It seems like you have a a trust problem. If she says she isn't doing anything wrong, then she most likely isn't. All you are doing is making her feel bad by doing that. You can't tell her that she can't see her friends just because you don't want her to. You should respect her too, it shouldn't just be her respecting you all the time.
2007-03-24 14:29:26 · answer #4 · answered by Emili T 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes i have many, I mean i just dealt with a bad break up to. I understand why you broke up with her she wasn't true with you. Always have trust because once it's gone you don't get it back. Have you tried expressing your feelings much harder with her? Does she seem to like you? Well from your point it sounds like she doesn't but it's her own fault she lost something she could pro bally make last. Maybe she's not the rite girl for you.
2007-03-24 14:36:52 · answer #5 · answered by laprincess1889 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you have the right to be upset i hate how girls feel guys need to treat them like queens but they can treat guys like ****
i mean you should be worrying if she is with other guys constantly especially if she promises she wont be then goes with them that means she doesnt want you knowing which means maybe she is doing something more wrong then lying
you made the right choice to break it off and if she wants to come back to you tell how it is dont give her another chance unless she really works for it
2007-03-24 14:28:36 · answer #6 · answered by love_lost 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you made the right decision. These kind of girls turn out to be s l u t s, and she probably is one. I am not trying to be rude, but she SHOULD have respect for your opinions and wants. Just as long as it's not the other way around with YOU hanging with other GIRLS, I say you made the right decision. TWO THUMBS UP! =)
2007-03-24 14:28:29 · answer #7 · answered by yoooooooooooo 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you still wannia be with her go out with her and hang with some girls 4 a while and see how she likes it then maybe she wont do it as much also you got to give her alittle time with her guy friends and you the same with your girl friends hope every thing works out
2007-03-24 14:28:31 · answer #8 · answered by nikki 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do unto others as they do unto you. Go out chilling with girls
and have her answer the phone when they call. Let's see how
she likes them apples.
Maybe your relationship is not strong enough, and you may not
be right for each other. You love her more than she loves you.
Find someone who loves you more than she does.
2007-03-24 14:36:23 · answer #9 · answered by susan B 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
welll i think its stupid that she couldnt hang out wit guys alot of girls prefer to be friends with guys rather than girls becuz girls always start drama.I think if ur that jelous then u shouldnt be in a realtionship at all.If u cant handle that then ur not mature enough to handle a realationship.Besides if she hung out wit guys more and they were just friends she would epericate you more!it was wroung of u to break up with her!!!!
2007-03-24 14:30:11 · answer #10 · answered by blondieb5835 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
U need to ask yourself a few questions. If you know they are just friends, then what is the problem? Do you not trust her? Do you have a reason not to trust her? Or is it a trust issue within yourself/past experiences?
2007-03-24 14:31:13 · answer #11 · answered by Tam 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋