I am dating this guy on the internet and we have met once and my parents didn't know about it because i lied and said i was doing something else. Well they know of him now but not that we met and they have been threatening me with taking the internet away now alot like for the dumbest things. Like i didn't want to drive her somewhere and she said ok you are about 3 seconds away from being done with the computer. It really scares me because I want to be with again. Just today she wanted me to work becuase someone called in sick for their shift and i didnt want to and she says, "You are 19 and you need to start acting like it!" I can't get away with lying this time about meeting him so I was wondering what to do. He isn't crazy I met him before i know he is a great guy. I don't know what to say to them I don't want to lose him.
2007-03-24 07:14:36 · 22 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
They aren't being protective they dont know i want to meet him. They think its just talking but they are threatening with it. I am in college and i do have a job but i am paying on a loan too and my college doesn't have dorms so i can't live there. He is trustworthy i met him before he could have done it there. I wasn't being lazy meeting him either it wasn't like i was looking for a date we just talked every once in a while and it happened. You can't just stop loving someone after you fall for them.
2007-03-24 07:25:58 · update #1
Hey! You're 19 - it's time to start acting like it!
If you're not in college - then get a job and start supporting yourself.
Who's paying for the computer and internet? If it's your mother, then they are hers to turn on and off as she pleases.
If you want something - pay for it so you own it. Is this idea so foreign to you?
How lazy are you that you don't even want to put in any real effort to find a real boyfriend that you don't have to keep hidden in cyberspace.
2007-03-24 07:21:01 · answer #1 · answered by Stan W 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋
You're 19 and still living at home, right? Rule of thumb here is "their house- their rules." And until you are moved out on your own you can't call them a$$holes! And I'm not hearing how they are the a$$holes anyway. You lied to them, you snuck around behind their backs, you tried to shirk work when they needed you to be responsible, you refused to give your mom a ride when she needed one.-ask your self a few questions- where did the car come from? how many times did your mom give you a ride when you needed one? dance lessons, sleepovers, missed the school bus? Are you being fair? She's just trying to protect you, which is her job as a parent, and you get online and call her names. I think you should bring her on here. I have more advice for her than you. Go ahead and tell her about your mature, grown up decision to meet a guy you met on the internet without a "safety" ( a person who follows and stays close by watching while you meet in a public place.) Guess what? Serial killers are charming, great guys until they are ready to kill you. Be honest with your mom, she can teach you how to do this safely, and she needs to know in case something goes wrong. You're 19 and you need to start acting like it! Good luck!
2007-03-24 14:41:06 · answer #2 · answered by Lesley M 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yeah, I bet alot of those girls that were killed by meeting their 'internet buddy' thought they were 'really nice' in the beginning too. But that's a whole different ballgame. As fgor your a$$hole parents;
First, grow the hell up! You live under their roof, eat their food, work on their computer (and if you bought the coumpter, they pay the elecrtic bill that allows you to use the computer) and you whine because they have an interest in your protection? At 19, you should either be in college AWAY from your folks or living on your own/roomates with a job. When you live on your own, you get to do whatever it is you wish. When you sponge and leech of your folks, they get to dictate what you do cause after 18, they no longer have a responsibility to take care of you.
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2007-03-24 14:22:05 · answer #3 · answered by ark 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You met a person once and you can confidently say you know what kind of person he is? Boy I like to think I wasn't that stupid at 19. Your parents are worried about you and have good cause. Too many young ladies are lured by the mystery of online romance, this guys is going to say and do whatever you want to hear in order to get you to meet him. What are his intentions after that, does he want to be with you forver or one night, where does he work, and do you know that for sure? Is he a convicted felon or a sex offender? Not something he is going to volunteer. If you won't protect yourself your parents are going to try to do it for you, not because they are a$$holes, but because they love you. You need to take a long hard look at what you are doing. He may be a good guy, but he may not be. If he is everything you think he is, why is he in a chat room at night looking for girls?
2007-03-24 14:23:19 · answer #4 · answered by Papa Joe 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You're 19? You don't have to answer to your parents! You'e old enough to do as you please and meet whomever you like. Move out, get your own apartment and your own computer and then you won't have to lie to anyone. You will be free to mess up your own life any way you choose.
Can't do that? Oh.
Then as long as you are under your parents' roof, you had better live by their rules. Didn't want to drive her? Didn't want to work? Are you paying room and board? What ARE you doing for your parents, who did everything for you for the first 18 years of your life? Did it ever occur to you that they have your best interests at heart? You're 19 going on 12. Grow up, girlfriend.
2007-03-24 14:24:43 · answer #5 · answered by keepsondancing 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The reason your parents treat u like a kid is cause' you lie to them. I was the same until I realized that I was immature, you can't blame your parents, come on they want what's best for u whether u believe it or not. Start to take responsibility for your actions, now with this guy, u don't necessary have to tell them that he's the same one u met in the internet, introduce him as a friend. You gotta start opening yourself up to your parents and being honest with them if u want them to trust u. Do what's best. Now the deal with this guy, have him go to your house and talk to your parents, or do u guys have anything to hide? The best approach is for him to show his face.
2007-03-24 14:22:13 · answer #6 · answered by grissy 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
a guy ONLINE? You parents tell you what you have to do, to protect you. They did it because they want to protect you. They wouldn't tell you anything if they didn't love you. Don't call your parents an asshole. Your mom had to suffer all of those pains so you can be born. They wouldn't eat 2 give u eat. Just say How to deal with mean parents. but not that word. because all that they have done 4 u, don't deserve that kind of language.
2007-03-24 14:36:45 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are 19 ! Time to grow up!! If you want to be with him, then you need to honest with your parents (part of growing up). At least that way if you end up dead they will know how it happened!! Sorry - but if you are "dating" a guy you met online, you are taking a huge risk!! But if you are sooo sure he is a great guy, then be with him!! Your parents have every right to voice their opinion, but at 19 they can't control what you do.
I can only assume that you aren't able to move out yet. So, deal with it! Your parents home, your parents rules! You will fully understand someday - trust me!!!
2007-03-24 14:25:19 · answer #8 · answered by Kailey 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
your parents are trying to protect you. maybe you should listen to them. if this guy really is OK then you should have him come to your house and meet them, that will make them feel better. i would advise caution in the relationship though do not go anywhere with him where you will be alone until you know him better. even though he is nice right now does not mean he won't turn out to be some kind of pervert ax murder
2007-03-24 14:24:25 · answer #9 · answered by nbatch2006 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
im 19 too, and I no how you feel my boyfriend was from another country and they didnt like him. so what I done was lie my A"£ off lol,
but i am not sticking up for your parents but you have to do somethings to show your responsible, not giving your mum a lift to work and then not covering someone elses shift makes you look unreasonable, not responsible, and propably childish, if you start doing things more so you can show then you can survive on your own and you are mature enough im sure they can reason with you.
or just do what I said I done at first :)
2007-03-24 14:23:56 · answer #10 · answered by Leanne1988 1 · 1⤊ 1⤋