what do you think about this? plz be honest.?

Question

i told off my ex and i mean i did a good job at it too. now he goes and tell his daughter what i said. she tells him that he shouldnt let me talk to him that way and that he should argue back with me. well how am i wrong for telling someone off that has done me wrong. and why does she feel he has the right to tell me off cuz i wont put up with his crap. she doesnt even know what he has done cuz hes not going to tell her that. he just lets he know about what i did. besides i tiold him if anyone one is upset it is my daughter cuz she had to watch his bad behavior for 2 yrs. it made me mad that he had the nerve to go and get a cheering team to boost him up so he wont feel so bad about how he treated me. i really brought his self esteem done because he hurt me so what else was i suppose to do it some one hurt your feelings.

Answer 1

you did the right thing, and not before time if this has been going on for two years. He isnt being fair by talking to his daughter and not giving her the whole story. Being his family she would probably take his side anyway, but he was still devious enough not to tell her the reason you told him off. sounds like he was ok while everything was going his way, but now that you have found your voice, he has shown his true colours. Evaluate whether this is a relationship you want to pursue, and go from there, but let him know if you do continue that you are a partnership, equals. good luck to you

Answer 2

Well, first of all, a man should not argue with a woman. That shows that he's insecure, and not comfortable with himself.

You should move on, and start a new life without him. Eventually things will lead to this anyways. He'll argue with you to the point you have no attraction for him, and then you'll leave him feeling like crap.

Don't fall victum to this hun, you're better than that. Just know that you're gonna be okay, with or without him. Your life will be fine, as long as you stay strong, and don't care what others think about you.

It's your life, you do what you want. Now go out there and find a man worth being with!

-Amos

Answer 3

I think you need to take a step out of your own shoes and identify what you're trying to seek here. First, to simplify, you're not wrong for voicing your own opinion; the degree of how you do it is subjective. Many of us have problems communicating with our ex-es simply because we've been hurt and we don't wish the hurt to continue. I would feel it's forgivable and understandable to become emotional when you set boundaries.

Second, it is his choice to speak with his daughter about his life; she is a part of it. You shouldn't be angry with her for standing up for her father, especially when you know that the story she heard is one-sided, and given yourself in her situation you would stand up for your own father also, no?

To answer your final question, you have to establish boundaries to keep yourself from being hurt. After the all said and done, you should reflect back on the experience and learn from it to prevent the same negative things from happening in future relationships.

Answer 4

OH I Get it!!!

He wants you to look like the bad guy all of the time to everybody. I would tell him to either stop this, or "I am gonna leave"

You see this is a form of verbal abuse that can really get you down on self esteem.. he does not seem like a good person.

Answer 5

I think you should ask him to keep your daughter out of any disagreements that go on between you and him. Then if he's not mature enough to do that you should speak with her. Tell her that you don't want her to feel as though she has to take sides or resolve the problems between you and her dad. That the relationship between her and her dad, and her and you won't be affected by the relationship problems between you and her father. My parents put me in the middle of thier problems and ultimately, I had to choose one. You don't want her to have to lose a parent, because of your problems.

Answer 6

well there are two reasons and explainations. 1st is that he is wrong to even involve his daughter into your affairs with her and that is very immature. 2nd is that she is trying to be protective and like you do not want anyone talking to you like that she doesn't want anyone talking to her daddy like that. Sounds like the two of you have to remember that the kids should not be involved in the arguing and though you are right about what you did you should not argue in front of your kid either. Anyway..........sounds like it is not your issue and is his and maybe you should tell him so and talk about the way he has acted. Inappriate and keep his boundaries between you and his daughter. good luck.

Answer 7

the guy sounds like a total jerk but you cant blame his daughter. i kno you might feel bad towards her because she is the one telling him to fight back, but you have to realize that she is not getting the whole story and he is her father. any girl will stand up for her dad! just forget about him and get on with ur life cuz he sounds like an idiot!!

good luck :)

Answer 8

Are you now feeling guilty that you told your ex off? The way I see this is you told him cause you thought he deserved it, he must have done something bad to promote that reaction in you, so you did what you thought was right- dont beat yourself up about it.

Answer 9

let me try to understand this
your b/f treats you bad
you take his crap for two years
you are angry because he ran to his daughter with this problem....
you ran here with your problem...
let me think.............hummmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmm
i think you have to reevaluate the true problems of your relationship

Answer 10

i am so confused,,, i dont get it. sorry