how long do you think you should be with someone before you move in?

Question

were both in the military and he lives of base but i live in the barracks...he had told me he has an extra room and could use a roommate back when we were just friends ...we've been together 2 months and he still tells me that im more than welcome to stay there if i want but it would be different now that im dating him....whats ur opinion?

the other thing is that the only difference to me moving in is instead of just staying the night there a couple times a week i'd be there everynight...other than that im there all the time anyways...

Answer 1

U know that's a good question with a hard answer. People always say "Wait till' u get married" I married after 3 years with my husband and we were always fighting cause' we couldn't understand eachother. I thought he was different and he thought the same thing. U never finish getting to know a person, if u both feel u r ready to move in, go ahead because you'll see so much in them that they don't show. I wish I would have done that with my husband. Now after 4 years we r getting along but it took a while for both of us to get use to each other. We dated for 3 years and we were sure we knew each other good, but wrong! we didn't. You have to take chances and if they don't work it's for a reason.

Answer 2

I think moving in together should be really well thought out before you do it. Ask yourself why you want to live with this person. Why do you want to live with them but not marry them? Who's paying for what? Who's doing what chores? Etc. You get the picture. Living together is a big step. If there is very little committment you will find that the break up is twice as difficult because now your stuff and home are all co-mingled. What happens when you buy stuff together ? Who gets it when you break up? Not to mention, depending on the lease, it might be a real pain to move out. Anyway, it obviously works for some people but it might not work for you at this time. Think it over.

I moved in with a boyfriend (we dated for about 6 months) because it seemed silly to be paying 2 rents since we were together all the time anyway. Next thing I knew we were arguing about how to spend money, etc. There was no committment and no discussion of basics - so, it didn't work. That kind of drama is easily avoided if you really think things through. A lot of the questions you should think about and even ask your partner are the same ones you should discuss before marriage. Although, no matter what someone tells you about living together, marriage is VERY different. You'll see.

Good luck.

Answer 3

There isn't a set amount of time; but you need to be sure that you "know" the person, and trust them completely. Relationships change, once you're living together. Take your time, and be sure of your feelings for each other. You also need to work everything out, before you live together. Who does what, and what each of you expects from the other person. Best of luck!

Answer 4

i would say a year or a little over but you need to know that person really well and communicate with them very well in order to move in and keep a good relationship going. if you been only together for a few months that isn't enough to know you two will get along good at all..

Answer 5

I think six months, alot of people say before you are married. Honestly though that rule no longer really applies, wouldn't you rather cohabitate with someone prior to getting married before deciding if you could live with them for rest of your life.

Answer 6

Long enough to get married!

Answer 7

When you know you complement each other and can "picture" yourselves spending a lifetime together.

http://lanispage.blogspot.com

Answer 8

When you get married.

Answer 9

it depend on your relationship not by time