so my girl and i have been dating for about 4 to 5 months now. we have fooled around, but not TOO much. our schedules slighty clash, but the other day, she calls me up saying that her friends have been talking about me and what WE have or havent done yet. she basically WANTS to take the plunge so to say (reading between the lines here) the next time i see her. my big thing is that even though i REALLY like her... i dont love her & vice versa, and i dont want to take that (virgin title) away from her. my friends say to explain how i feel, and if she is still willing to DO IT, then why not? someone else will... down the road if i dont. mind you, if she wasnt a virgin, yes i would have slept with her already. so what do you think?
2007-03-24 07:01:28 · 12 answers · asked by brianju 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Oh my goodness you are so sweet to even think of her in that way she'll end up loving you for that your right just talk to her and let her know this is something big for her not her friends not for you FOR HER she needs to take her time and really be sure what she wants and not end up regretting anything let her know that and please don't just do it cause if she is not sure and you guys end up doing it anyways some ones going to get hurt
2007-03-24 07:23:41 · answer #1 · answered by cherries_on_toppd 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your friends are right. To be honest, losing your virginity is isn't always such a big deal for girls any more. I man, of course it is a big deal, but only as a new experience, not as "a beautiful experience shared with someone you love". This attitude can often put too much pressure on the parties involved. A much healthier attitude is to just do it with people you are attracted to without any feelings of guilt. Speak to her, and go ahead with it.
2007-03-24 14:11:53 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
it would depend if both of you are ready for that type of relationship. it would also mean that the both of you want to get married because once shes pregnant,it will be ur responsibility untill after marriage or forever if you don`t break up at all during the relationship.if you aren`t up for it tell her.she probably will understand.im a girl. i know these things.trust me thats what i think you should do.
2007-03-24 14:14:45 · answer #3 · answered by shay 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that you shouldn't give it up unless you are married because it means so much more. And f you do sleep with her she might get pregnant and you have to help her raise the child. Condoms don't always work so wait and don't do anything stupid and think of the consequences. examples: baby, aids, ect.
2007-03-24 14:09:02 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that's mighty admirable of you! If you don't love her and vice versa, you should both wait. Tell her that you want her first time to be special and that you don't want to rush things!
If I was your mother I would be so very proud of you!!!
2007-03-24 14:05:58 · answer #5 · answered by † Walk by Faith † 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you are a virgin and are actually affraid of the "big plunge". Wear a condom, and get busy.
2007-03-24 14:05:39 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If I were you just tell her before she says that you're horrible at it. Say that everyone is the first time they do it.
2007-03-24 14:04:50 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yeah do what your friends tell you! Talk to her about it..at least you warned her & if she wan't to do it then it's on her, it's not like you pressured her*!
2007-03-24 14:05:25 · answer #8 · answered by liza 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well i believe that you should only have sex if your married so i definately say not to do it. besides yall arn't even in love so i mean. . . .
2007-03-24 14:05:24 · answer #9 · answered by Chewy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think your correct, talk to her and explain.
2007-03-24 14:04:39 · answer #10 · answered by Je vous aime. ♥ 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋