What would you do?

Question

if you had an illness/disease which can't be passed on to anyone else, but only genetically, which means your kids will carry the defective gene. you know that one day (if you have children) that they might have the same illness as you, but you dont know if it will be worse or lighter. you can do everything normally, and even produce a child like a normal person.

would you still have children, knowing that they will also be ill like you? would you want to bring a child into this world who might lead a difficult life, and suffer at times and not being able to keep up with other children at school/life?

the severity of the illness is on the scale of 3/10.

mature/serious answers please

there is no cure, its genetic, and its very very like that your child child will also have it.

Answer 1

Sorry 4 u what a dilemma! u r a thought full kind person.BUT i would ask your self if your perants had a crystal ball all those years ago would u of wished them not 2 of had u?Think about all the good things that uve seen &experienced the values u can pass on.There r so many childeren born without A
THOUGHT. There are somany children BADLEY DISABLED
that have a great life,i dont think a child would hold anything against u when u would luv it so much.U realy should listen 2 your own little voices no one can answer this 4 u.GOOD LUCK X

Answer 2

I dont have a genetic illness, but one of my closest friends does.
She has a condition called Fragile X, this condition can lead to her children from having very very severe learning/Physical disabilities, and even autism.
She discovered that she was pregnant early last year and was over the moon on one hand and terrified on the other.
Tests were carried out on her unborn child and it was revealed that her baby also had the condition, the doctors advised her to have the pregnancy terminated as the child would be a vegetable and have no quality of life -doctors words not mine.
She had the pregnancy terminated and still feels really low about it, she is even considering trying for another baby despite being told that she runs a very high risk of the same thing happening to her again.
We have had a few cross words over this, my personal opinion is that she is being very selfish, she knows that each time she falls pregnant she will have to consider aborting her child due to her genetic condition or run the risk of her child being so severly handicapped that it will have no quality of life
her desire to have a child seems to be clouding her better judgement.
She on the other hand says that it's a chance that she is willing to take and will go through it all again despite warnings from her doctors and the concerns of family and friends.
I dont know what i would do if i were in her shoes, it's a tough call and i dont know if i could live with my own concious knowing that my child's life was not as fore-filling as it could be or that their health was not 100% because of my desire to have a child!

Answer 3

Yes.

Being human means at some point one would want to reproduce.

It is only because we are human can we ask that question and choose whether to go ahead and HAVE children.

I do not see anything selfish about it - it is after all YOUR choice. Parents who pass on bad eyesight to their children don't berate themselves for it - yet the children can still be called 'four-eyes' at school (yes I have been there too!).

I think if you look at the human gene pool in general you will find that most people have something that could do with monitoring or correcting but seldom do anything or talk about it.

They just get on with life.

Which includes having children.

Answer 4

If it's a 3/10 chance I would go ahead and have children. Who knows what may happen down the road?
Medically great things are happening and one day there may be a cure or treatment for your illness/disease.

Answer 5

This is a very difficult question.My first reaction is to say no I would not.Thats the easy way out,I have red hair got ribbed something rotten.I still had kids neither have red hair yet they could have & suffered the misery I did.I have to go by the severity im sorry no I would want my child to suffer.The scale is too high.

Answer 6

I want want to have kids, they are the greatest thing in the world! Even if a child is sick or etc... it's still the greatest joy in the world. I lost a child due to an illness i have she never made it out of me! you should have one they make your life worth living!

Answer 7

thats a very hard question it all depends on the illness but you need to get lots of advice from your gp try support groups you have to way up the pros and cons if you feel they are too great you could still be a good parent by adopting, i hope that every thing works out for what ever the out come.

Answer 8

i'm not sure what i would do exactly but im not sure i would want my child to go through what i had. I would consider adopting a child, because they are as much your own children and they need love and a caring home too.

Answer 9

i would still have children. There might be a cure

Answer 10

I guess it would depend on the chances of my kids catching it and thier kids catching it.