They are all about positive high frequency energy and spirituality. Anyway my question is this. I have mastered how to think and act positively myself. My problem is that I cannot bare to be around negative people. I attract plenty of positive people in my life. There are some really gloomy people and alot of my immediate family (mother and sister) are really negative. They always complain and give their selfish stories about how life is so unkind to them and nothing is ever their fault. My reaction is to avoid these kind of people at all costs and if I am forced to interact with them my patience with them is very very low. I have heard people like this be described as emotional vampires as they basically suck the higher positive energy out of you walking away from you they feel better about themselves for a while and you are left feeling really low and annoyed. How should I deal with these people? I mean I dont want to cut my family out of my life.
2007-03-24 06:53:13 · 6 answers · asked by K 2 in Health ➔ Mental Health
I haven't read any of his books, but I do have cd's of him speaking. The thing that comes to mind for me in your situation is what Dr. Dyer says of soul mates. He says our soul mates are the people in our lives that we just can't seem to get rid of and they are the ones who continually challenge us. So, if your mother and sister are continually challenging your patience, you may be stregthening your soul by being around them. He says that if you are losing patience with these people it shows you that you have not mastered yourself yet.
You can limit your exposure to negative people with out cutting them out of your life. You can send peace to them rather than returning the feelings of negativity. Know that internally they are unhappy and you are imroving yourself. Make the choice to choose peace rather than whatever is happening inside at the time. Make copies of Dr. Dyers' audio books and give them to them, even if you think they won't listen.
Remember that God gives us problems to carve our souls. Peace to you and yours.
2007-03-25 10:37:36 · answer #1 · answered by Brooke 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
you're doing all the right things, why should you put up with other people's s***(sorry for the term).avoid them at all costs & I wih I had a low tolerance forthem but that's really good.
if it's your family, put up a spiritual shield mentally, I don't know how to put it in words if you think about it you 'd know what to do, it's the intention. it's like setting the boundary: that under no circumstances will I take any of this on. emotionally keep them at a distance. if they start talking about their problems, just let it go in one ear & out the other.
I really admire positive poeple.
another method I've heard alot about is surrounding yourself everyday (as habit for example when you brush your teeth) with a bubble of white light ( I find this visualiation difficult but it does work) & you can call it the white light of the Holy Spirit which is much more powerful.
Also, imagine a circle of mirrors around you.This is also very effective.
2007-03-24 16:37:29 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
I think the idea is to change your thinking, change your life. Any negative person in your life is a good thing - see it as a challenge and a constant confirmation and reminder of how you don't want to be. Try not to be hurt by people like this. Acknowledge their behaviour, love them for it and live your life the way you want it. Avoidance is not a good idea - in some ways that can be seen as negative behaviour - try and stand strong in your current beliefs, possibly it is even an opportunity to reinforce how you feel by trying to communicate it to them, you may even help them. I know it's hard. Families are especially difficult. Sometimes they remind us too much of our own present or past weaknesses, but they are also spiritual learning grounds. Recognise the lesson and you will deal with it better.
It may help to listen to Hay House radio (www.hayhouseradio.com) - he is a regular host. Also listen to Caroline Myss. Her work on scared contracts is fascinating and may even help you understand yourself and your family better.
All the best.
2007-03-24 07:08:21 · answer #3 · answered by Empea 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes, I've read his books, and other similar ones. There's a difference between thinking and acting positively and what you really want, which is the type of energy you put out to the universe, which responds in kind. You obviously still want to interact with your family in spite of your distaste for them.
People get addicted to their behavior patterns, in spite of how they complain about them. Such is the case with your relatives. You also are addicted to their behavior (look up co-dependency) and desire to deal with them. In effect, you are doing the same thing they do - complain about a situation, but still desire to remain in it.
Face reality. You will not be able to change them, so your only choice will be to minimize your time with them, or change the way you're affected by their actions. You don't appear to be ready to do so.
2007-03-24 07:09:45 · answer #4 · answered by jkinthewoods 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I call them the 'stinking thinking brigade'.... dealing with them can be every bit as satisfying as avoiding them...... but requires greater mental fortitude.
If you're truly happy, optimistic and enthusiastic.... these people should just bounce off.
If you're trying to do something exceptional with your life, then no....you can't have these people around and I'd suggest you avoid sharing your dreams with them....but then, you probably already know that.
2007-03-24 07:10:11 · answer #5 · answered by mikey 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
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2016-03-29 02:20:50 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋