I am you think I am wrong or he is wrong. Generally during the week I wake my boyfriend up for work get my daughter ready make breakfast and lay out everyones clothes. Well it is Saturday and I over slept, however I didn't have work and he did. I literally was treated like a piece of crap for not waking him up and making his breakfast and blamed me for him oversleeping. I told him did he loose his sense of responsibilty and it has been a crappy day since then. Then he tells me that I am the one that is crabby. I feel taken advantage of and I feel like I justifiably should be the one upset not him. Who agree's what are your thoughts. By the way I do this every day and take care of my six year old daughter. And before any one judges yes I work and I pay my share in the bills.
2007-03-24 06:50:10 · 16 answers · asked by pattiof 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
First off to the people that have something nasty to say. I choose to do these things during the week because it makes the mornning run more smoothly and I don't mind. I don't feel I should be obligated.
2007-03-24 07:00:00 · update #1
One last thing, he is very good to my daughter and me. I just think he has problems accepting responsibilty and needs to find someone else to take responsibilty for his actions.
2007-03-24 07:02:49 · update #2
One last thing, he is very good to my daughter and me. I just think he has problems accepting responsibilty and needs to find someone else to take responsibilty for his actions.
2007-03-24 07:03:11 · update #3
You feel used because you were used. You were used because you let him use you.
Stop being your boyfriend's mother, unless you are willing to mother him for the rest of his life.
EDITED:
I wasn't meaning to be nasty to you, Sweets. I was just being blunt. Most of us make the mistake of trying to be the perfect wife and take such good care of our man, but it almost always bites us in the butt when we do.
You need to treat him now the way you will treat him always, men like things to stay the same, and the moment you change they will throw it in your face.
2007-03-24 06:54:29 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I agree with you but you do too much and he takes you for granted. He does not appreciate all you do. He could have set the alarm clock for himself to get up for work and let you sleep in a little. What a jerk. You need to lay some ground rules.....he should be doing 50% or just as much as you do. BTW: What does he do for you?
Good luck.
2007-03-24 13:58:23 · answer #2 · answered by Patricia 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You take care of your six year old daughter.... and thats what you should do. You should not be treated like you HAVE to take care of your man to.. You wake him up and make breakfast and set out his clothes to be nice not because you HAVE to.. So i would say he is definitly wrong. Although it sucks to be late for work it is hardly your fault he didnt get up on YOUR day off
2007-03-24 13:55:09 · answer #3 · answered by jenn p 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You need to put a stop to this. It's your day to stay in bed. Does he get up on his day off and help you in the morning. He can be happy you do it during the week. Most don't even do that.
2007-03-24 13:57:56 · answer #4 · answered by dcdesire 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He's right.
You live together but you're not married, therefore you have not established to him that you a worthy cause as a woman. You have instilled in him that you do no deserve the utmost respect because he was able to get everything he wants from you (ie regular sex) without any commitment on his part (ie marriage).
Bottom line: you set the standard for him to live by through your actions and now he is living by them. How can you justifiably be mad at that?
2007-03-24 13:55:34 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 2⤋
Your right he is wrong, its not your responisbility to take care of him...I mean you have a child for heaven sakes! He should wake himself up and get a life!
2007-03-24 13:58:02 · answer #6 · answered by love_me_much_194 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Boys are dumb.
I take care of my husband by waking him up for work and blah blah blah. The times I forget he gets all pissy and blames me.
It's just what they do....if he's like my husband he is spoiled to it. Just make him get himself up on the weekends to make it easier for you.
Men are easily trained. They just think they have it easy.
2007-03-24 13:55:15 · answer #7 · answered by mrspatpat79 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
first, the fault lies on both of you. you're both in a relationship, but you both act as if you are not. you do not work as a team, yet you both expect that the other will help out the other - how can you expect such help, if you are not willing to help out the other?
when you are in a fruitful relationship, you tend to have a healthy understanding that you both compromise to work it out as a team. for example, you felt that he treated you like crap - i do not think that he will treat you this way, without you having to treat him like crap too. i mean, from what you mentioned, it is obvious that you want to gert your priorities done - what about his priorities? aren't they as important as yours? meaning, you are not working as a team! maybe you both are feeling that you treat each other lke crap, because you both are not taking in considerate of each other's priorities - you need to talk and work it out as a family.
2007-03-24 14:06:48 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
i think he's wrong, & he shouldn't be taking out his laziness on u. stand up 2 him for whats right, & hes probably saying ur crappy becuz he is 2, and he just wants u 2 be becuz he luvs u & he wants u 2 be like him.
2007-03-24 13:57:47 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
There's always two sides to every story. Plus it doesn't matter if you get 50 replies taking your side; you need to work it out with him...
2007-03-24 13:55:16 · answer #10 · answered by jgain 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋