i mean im so shy with people i dont know, if i get introduce no problem its like ive known them years, i just cant approach people and it not like im young and ill get over it im nearly 30 and ive always been like that
2007-03-24 06:19:01 · 18 answers · asked by b77 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
It's alright to be shy, you shouldn't feel ashamed of it...
You can maybe help your shyness by hanging out with groups of people more often then you do, try going to a lot more social functions, go with some friends you feel comfortable with, then once all of you are talking & the room has a good vib, just be confident & walk up to some one you think is kewl or what ever then just introduce yourself & think up conversation. Don't be afraid to show the real you, people enjoy hanging with people who show them selves, it's much more comfortable, just live it up man!
Good luck
2007-03-24 06:27:13 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm 35 and I'm the same! I think it's a self esteem thing and also that I want to make a good impression and for people to like me. When I was at school I was very quiet and studious and other kids thought I was weird so maybe I am compensating for that. I actually find it's worse now that I am older and mature (ish!). Peoples expectations can also be high as well and I am not sure if I meet that persons expectation. I thought it was just me that felt like that because everybody else seems so confident and together. I just learn to live with it, I don't think I can change now! x
2007-03-24 06:25:33 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are like this at 30 then it will most likely stay with you for the rest of your life - which is not necessarily a bad thing okay?!
You can always work around that by meeting new people in small groups - in may ways your are making friends here (okay so its not face-to-face but you get the point) its not so bad is it?
The next small step is to start meeting people - small steps, one thing at a time.
Good luck.
2007-03-24 06:57:15 · answer #3 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
try facing your fears now and again. how do shop if your too shy to approach the cashier. get 1 of your friends to have a party with people you dont know and try mixing with them and talkng to the nice birds there lol.
2007-03-24 06:40:52 · answer #4 · answered by woohootoodles 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well thats just your personality and im sure the friends you do have love you for it. One good thing about being like that is that you probably only have one or two friends but you are very close to them, which believe me is a blessing
2007-03-24 07:33:45 · answer #5 · answered by make_a_wish995 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi,my husband was exactly the same has you.Thats what attracted me to him.We have been married for 34 years & I say he has nicked half of my Id.He has finally come out of his self I prefered him shy.
2007-03-24 06:27:23 · answer #6 · answered by Ollie 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should push yourself to be assertive, so you get tongue tied, don't know what to say, people can only say "yes or no". Remember the old saying about faint heart, you can do it if you try hard enough.
2007-03-24 07:34:18 · answer #7 · answered by dover56dover 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yer it might be that your not shy, you might be like me i just tend to sit back and let every1 get with it and then i make up my mind if i like them or not then i'll chat to them but i still get tongue Tide a bit till iv known them for a while
2007-03-24 06:27:14 · answer #8 · answered by knowlesy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't worry about what people think of you. Try to find something you can relate to the person you want to get to know.
2007-03-24 06:27:32 · answer #9 · answered by baller7brandon 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Look in the mirror. Say a thousand times per day how beautiful you are, how smart you are. Find your qualities and be proud to be yourself.
2007-03-24 06:24:21 · answer #10 · answered by tea 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋