How do you get them to get back into the rountine of respecting others again
2007-03-24 06:05:29 · 8 answers · asked by dlbonhomme 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
Well it's hard for kids to go through divorce especially if they have been with their parents together for a while. this talking back and disrespect is thier way of expressing their hurt even if it doen't seem like it to others. getting them back into routine will not be easy esspecially because they have some reason to be mad. if you talk to them and they don't want to talk to you then you know their mad and you should leave them alone for a while.
also try writing them some notes because sometimes it's easier for kids to express their feelings through writing. if you ask me though it's better that their showing their feelings through being rude then wanting to run away or even worse.
2007-03-24 06:20:09 · answer #1 · answered by Lexi L. 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No not all. But there is usually some bad effect on the child.
You have to understand that the child is going through a lot of pain and is probably angry at you and your partner. That does not mean it is your fault, but its natural for children to want their parents to stay together.
Shouting, arguing and punishment will only push your child further away. Talk to them and try and help them get through the divorce. Be sure to reassure them you both still love the child and will try not to let the divorce affect them too much.
Bad feelings between you and your partner will worsen the situation, so try to get along for the sake of the child.
And whomever said it was selfish to get divorced; you sound like you are either a strong religious believer or a child who has been through a divorce. It is not selfish of the parents; even after having a child people have the right to their own life and shouldn't be forced into staying in a loveless relationship. It only leads to making the parents unhappy or to rows; which will ultimately affect the childs home life.
2007-03-24 06:22:34 · answer #2 · answered by Take A Break. Eat A Cookie. 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes it's called reaction, most kids don't want to have their parents living seperate and often blame the parent they live with for this happening. Most misdirect the blame on either themselves or their caretaker. As a result they become agressive and annoying and talk back and even resort to other issues. I suggest talking to them not at them or down to them and let them know it's no one person fault it was just a better option then perhaps risking abuse or fighting. Often kids will think they are the cause and need reassuring to the contrary.
2007-03-24 06:21:37 · answer #3 · answered by Georgia Preacher 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That is why divorce is such a terrible tragedy in the world today. The parents dont consider the kids, only there own selfish reasons. Oh, I cant be around him, he annoys me, she isnt what she used to be, ect. Unless he was cheating on you, no grounds for divoce. And even if he was, you should have TRIED to work it out...
Good luck trying to straighten out your children, you must now reap what youve sown.
2007-03-24 06:09:04 · answer #4 · answered by Bl3ss3dw1thL1f3 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have 2 girls and a son. The girls handled things great, my son...well let's just say he still has a hard time with it and it's been almost 8 years. Different people handle things differently. I do believe that for the most part my son used this to his advantage at times. But as he's growing up..it's getting better.
2007-03-24 06:30:45 · answer #5 · answered by drichards2 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes they do.
They are expressing anger and other feelings related to the divorce.
What I told my daughter was that it was okay to be angry and mad and emotional but it was not okay to be disrespectful and rude.
They need limits...even though at this time you might feel like backing off on that a bit.....
I've been there!
Good luck.
2007-03-24 06:09:00 · answer #6 · answered by xnavygrrl 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
my mother and father had broke up when i was younger i felt like i was abandoned as to say they forgot they have a child that they left behind as if i was rejected and i used to get sad seeing mom and dads in love like a "typical american family" but i started talking to proffesionals with my mom and dad and it releaved me to now i was still wanted and it took the pain of of my chest
2007-03-24 06:23:50 · answer #7 · answered by Stephon W 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you can talk to them, but you will have to wait. kids of divorced parents are very anger and upset at their parents for breaking a home they are so used to. think, if your loving parents divorces one another you'd be pissed as well. so talk to them, and then give it time.
2007-03-24 06:09:36 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋