Just yesterday was the dance at school, and I don't no what got over me, but I accidently told my gilfriend that I liked another person. Now I want 2 get over the other person, but I don't no how. Please give me some help.
2007-03-24 06:01:48 · 20 answers · asked by Mighitman 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I think that it was good that you were honest with your girlfriend. When we are trying to get over someone, there is always a conflict- "Why should I not date just because I like someone else who I can't be with?" collides with "Is it really fair to someone else to date them when my heart is with another person?"
There are no real clear cut steps to getting over someone. I don't know if you have any history with this girl or anything- but I know that if you liked her before for a long time or if you dated her then it is especially hard. Getting over somebody can be quick if they do something that hurts you or disgusts you to the point where you can't even like them anymore, or it can be a kind of a long, drawn-out, painful healing process. Try to remind yourself of the reasons why you aren't together, or why is wouldn't work anyway, or why you broke up. This helps somewhat, but unfortunately, our hearts do not really listen to logic.
I've found that the only real way to get over someone is to truly fall for someone else. Then you only want to be with them and all your old feelings for other people kind of just go away. My guess is that you haven't really bonded that much witht he girl you are with right now, or you would not be thikning about this other girl. My advice to you is to keep looking, and good luck!
2007-03-24 06:11:59 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Same way a person gets over a drug addition, smoking, over eating . . . etc....You get over, or move past, a person by being aware of your own self, sorting your emotions, knowing what is right or not right for you and then simply holding fast and letting time ease the desire. While that time is passing keep to your own inner strength that you are doing this because you value yourself and are simply taking care of yourself to be in a place and in company of what feels right for you. Time...patience...strength...and more time.
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2007-03-24 06:07:31 · answer #2 · answered by onelight 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
from personal experience, the best way to get over a girl is eliminate everything in your daily surroundings that remind you of her. Focus on the girl that you have already. Don't let your eyes or feelings wander.
2007-03-24 06:05:58 · answer #3 · answered by pyroman162 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Being as you are not old enough to drink my first option is off the table. Hmmm, try another hot girl. That is really the quickest cure for an old flame.
2007-03-24 06:04:32 · answer #4 · answered by C M 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Booze
2007-03-24 06:03:42 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, getting hooked on the toher person would help... and just focus on the main things... having fun wit' ur new special person... oooh and im sry bout ur girlfriend though 0.o
2007-03-24 06:05:30 · answer #6 · answered by Katlyn 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
its one thing to like some body but its another thing when you try to get over someone.. i mean theres not much to say because you cant stop love.... and anyway if the girl that your with now she apparently is not anything special or you would not be thinking about other girls.
2007-03-24 06:06:40 · answer #7 · answered by missbaize_3 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Listen very carefully "50 ways to leave your lover" by Paul Simon. First you´ll find it somehow silly, but stick to the lyrics, I bet they will tell you the answer.
2007-03-24 06:06:20 · answer #8 · answered by ramapedemou 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just think about who makes you feel more comfortable and who you want to be with more. to get over the other person will take some time.
2007-03-24 06:06:04 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Move to another city. Change jobs, schools, diet. A major change that will affect your schedule will DEFINITLY get you over him. Take it from me.
2007-03-24 06:30:01 · answer #10 · answered by Evelyn 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋