I'm getting married in may and have been really excited for months, but now i'm nervous and unsure i'm doing the right thing we have been together for years.......There is a guy just started at work who makes me feel really special compared to my partner, i would never cheat on my partner. is this just nerves?
2007-03-24 05:52:39 · 29 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
Hi yes its normal, Im getting married in July and in January I was feeling like you but as its gotten closer Im even more excited now. It might just be a hormonal thing for you at the moment. I think most of the time when we are regretting something if you give it a few weeks then Im sure you will realise your being silly. As for seeing this other bloke and having feeling for him. I would just forget about it, as he might be nice to you know but if you leave your hubby to be then the other guy might be a complete idiot and you have lost everything you and your fiance have got. I bet your Hubby to be likes loads of other women but I bet he chooses you.
How can a guy that you have only just met and you hardly know him make you feel special when a guy you love and have been spending all these years with and you know him inside out not make you feel special.
Think of it this way. If one day you where to wake up and your fiance had just disappears what would you do. Would you be a little upset or would but glad and then go and start to see the other bloke ? or would you be distraught and miss him uncontrolable and cry every second of the day he was gone ? This is all I think about if I start to question weather the relationship is worth holding onto. As when I picture my fiance not being atound my heart starts to break even though nothing like that is going to happen.
The only way you will tell this is if you and your dont see each other and then see how you feel. If your not to bothered then maybe it aint going to work. But if you miss him loads you cant bear it then obvioulsy hes the one you should be with.
Hopefully its just nerves, but dont be throwing it all away because you have a crush on the new colleague. As you might not even end up with him anyways and does your fiance deserve all this what yoy will do to him.
2007-03-25 02:25:05 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm also getting married in May. I would say it was just nerves, but it is a little worrying. Try and do some nice things with your partner to make you both feel special and don't get bogged down with the stress of organising the wedding and forget why you are doing it. Don't even think about starting something with the guy at work!
2007-03-26 01:00:46 · answer #2 · answered by emma l2 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi.... I am also getting married in May... although I don't fancy anyone else I too have been thinking oh God this is for ever and will we still be the same.
I have dated my partner for 7years lived together two.9 years in total.
I am putting it down to nerves especially as I had my fitting a few days ago.(when I felt sick!!!) I imagine never seeing him again and it would break my heart.The other guy makes you feel special ?but how long for? the first flush of excitement with a new person doest`t last long...real life and domesticity soon takes over. I mentioned this to my partner and he agrees its not sooo exciting But its real life and we have a speacial meal in, and out now and again and do special things for each other....Good Luck nerves are normal
2007-03-24 09:04:32 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The real question is - does your partner not make you feel special enough? If not, discuss it with him. Whatever you do, do not sit on it and wait to see what happens. If this guy loses interest and the problem goes away, you don't want to find yourself in the same situation once you're married and another guy takes an interest in you.
2007-03-24 06:04:20 · answer #4 · answered by starry eyed 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, it is not just nerves. Be careful, most likely you're making a big mistake getting married. Only when you see yourself the rest of your life with a person, you should get married. Having doubts is the first step to a bad marriage. Sorry!
2007-03-24 06:00:37 · answer #5 · answered by naperston 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes you are just nerves and I bet that your partners feels the same way I won't worry about it. But if you are worried why don't you talk to your partner about things just to put your mind at ease
2007-03-25 02:04:03 · answer #6 · answered by Baps . 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's normal to meet other people in our lives who make us feel special. It's chemistry; we don't have to act on it every time someone gives us goosebumps; on the other hand, if you are having serious doubts.........
Are you getting married because you have been together a long time and everyone expects it? then that's not a reason to get married.
you marry someone because you want to commit to them for life; you want to bring children into the world with them and only them; you want to build a life with them.; they rock your boat like no-one else does; and you love them deeply.
if you are having real doubts, and not just pre-wedding jitters - a lot of women can get caught up in the idea of being a bride -then ask for a breathing space. don't marry, as I did, hoping it will settle down after a while. I had grave doubts 32 years ago the night before my wedding. i spoke to my parents about it; my dad said -it's not too late, we can call it off; I just want you to be happy.
My mum said, "over my dead body. If you call this wedding off I will never speak to you again and you can pack your bags and get out."
I got married next day; knew I'd made a mistake; it took me eleven years to get out of it.
2007-03-24 06:12:10 · answer #7 · answered by marie m 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well i think if this guy makes you feel better about your self than the man you are going to marry then may be he is not the 1 4 u just give it a few days and if u still feel the same way then well he is not the 1.
2007-03-24 06:08:43 · answer #8 · answered by bex 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if the guy at work makes you feel really special then he must be trying it on,and you must be giving the come on signals,,,,,,,,,,,, remember the grass is always greener ......till you get there,,,,, and you've probably already mentally cheated on your other half anyway,,, your a no hope-er, and should not get married because you don't love your partner,, but try this first ask the guy at work if he would like to come to your wedding
2007-03-24 20:30:12 · answer #9 · answered by P-H 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is DEFINITELY just nerves....and all of it will fade away on the day of the wedding....or so I hear. I am getting married in July and I am starting to get the so called "wedding jitters" too. Although they don't make me notice men more or want to be closer to other men. You'll be fine, get married, you love this man!!
2007-03-24 06:22:01 · answer #10 · answered by Tiffany 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋