my sister told me that her friends think im ugly and she always calls me fat even though i am the perfect weight... shes just a stick
2007-03-24 05:49:00 · 27 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
i think shes just jelous hunny. :)
2007-03-24 05:51:37 · answer #1 · answered by IMNOTOKAY!!! 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Would that offend me personally? Yes. Should it? Probably not... but the fact of the matter is that being told that you're fat or ugly is very insulting and should be dealt with.
The problem is that it really shouldn't matter.... If I'm ugly, it doesn't make me a better or worse person; my looks have nothing to do with who I am. In an ideal world, it wouldn't matter what you weight or how you do your hair... but even though it shouldn't make a difference, it still hurts when someone calls you ugly. I know from experience.
You have to develop a sort of dual defense against this. First off, you have to recognize how unrealistic today's beauty ideals are (models are like 5'9" and 120 pounds... very unhealthy) and remember that it doesn't truly matter. Then you need to find something about you that makes you beautiful (physically and personality-wise). Some people find it helpful to make a list of things they like about themselves; others sit down at the end of each day and remember all of the things they did that made them proud of themselves. I know this seems really contradictory, but it's what helps me...
Anyway, your sister is trying to make you feel insecure... and she's probably doing that to try and make herself feel better, because she is worried that she is ugly. Beauty is really relative: it's hard to say "I'm beautiful," but it's easier to say "I'm prettier than she is."
Sorry about droning on... it's just that this is an issue that every female ever has had a problem with. I really suggest reading Fat Girl's Guide to LIfe by Wendy Shankar. You don't have to be fat to read it (I'm not and it totally helped me with body image stuff). Good luck.
2007-03-24 06:06:43 · answer #2 · answered by Freudchild 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My sister does the same thing. It's okay though, she doesn't really think you're fat, she just puts you down to feel better about herself- she likes getting to you to make you doubt yourself. Because if she REALLY thought you were fat, she wouldn't say anything, because if it were true, she wouldn't be horrid enough to tell you. And about her friends thinking you're ugly- think about it. Do your friends trash talk your sister? Do you honestly think her friends say, "OMG YOUR SISTER IS SO UGLY!"? No. Probably not. My sister told me that all her friends think I'm a *****. She's just being mean, ignore her. And it will pass, don't worry, she'll grow up.
2007-03-24 05:56:10 · answer #3 · answered by zozo 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey just don't mind your grumpy sister, she's just calling you that way because maybe it's true or maybe just a sisterly prank. But for me, being criricizes by my own sister or relative hurts. Why ? Because they should be supporting you! Not belitlleing you and making fun of you.
But don't those things all for serious matters, Just imagine that you carry the prettiest face ever !.
I hope I have given you sufficient and useful information, until next time !
2007-03-24 05:56:54 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It would really devastate me at first. I honestly think you should have a talk with your sister. Just tell her how she made you feel and if you can't count on your family, who can you count on. Ask her if you have done something to her that has made her so cruel to you. Maybe the two of you could figure out how to give each other some support instead of tearing each other down. I wish you luck.
2007-03-24 05:55:04 · answer #5 · answered by kattsmeow 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, it would offend me if my family said that about me. It's just people in school that call me fat and ugly.
2007-03-24 05:51:49 · answer #6 · answered by ♥Whatever♥ 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, I find it offensive because the root of low self-esteem starts from your home. If you have people telling you things like that eventually you are going to end up believing it and sometimes people just want to see you unhappy because they are the ones with low self-steem and just want to bring you down along with them. Don't let this type of behavior get to you. Whenever someone says something to that respect again just tell yourself they are jealous.
2007-03-24 05:58:24 · answer #7 · answered by lytemalive 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, it is offensive.
Unfortunately, it is just as offensive to you as calling her a stick is to her.
When you stop trying to be better than each other and finally start treating each other (regardless of each other's faults and foibles) like you love each other, then this will stop.
You both need to grow up.
2007-03-24 05:52:50 · answer #8 · answered by shoestring_louise 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That would offend me. Sounds like your sister has an anger problem or is jealous. Did you do something to provoke her? My family has never done that to me and never will.
2007-03-24 05:53:31 · answer #9 · answered by jesus_lover1962 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes it does offend me if my sibling passes bad remarks about my physical appearence.
And yes i am not going to tell you to forgive her just because she is your sister.
2007-03-24 05:54:26 · answer #10 · answered by mit 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That is offeninsive, but it depends on where she is comming from. Are you smarter and have a better relashonship with the parents? I am sure that she is just jelous of all of your better qualites. I am sure you are beautiful and perfect.
2007-03-24 05:53:59 · answer #11 · answered by Char 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋