I just had my first boyfriend. We were dating for about a month when he just abruptly ended it. His reasons were lame and they were nothing that could not have been fixed. This is my first break up and I'm having a lot of trouble dealing with it. Can anybody give me some insight as to how to get over this, move on and be happy again? Or why you think he ended it so unexpectedly?
Thanks!!
2007-03-24 05:47:24 · 4 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
As Hard As It Is Losing Someone you Loved For Any Reason You Still Have To Stay Stong Cos You Know You Deserve To Be Happy.
There Is No Quick Fix To a Broken Heart Unfortunatly
But I Always Find That Talking To My Best Friend Always Helps Me Cos She's Like My Guardian Angel.
He May Have Ended It For Any Number Of Reasons, Only He Will Ever Really Know.
If He Can't Give You A Real Reason Screw Him
If He Doesn't Respect You Enough To Tell YOu The Truth It Simply Shows You That You're Better Than Him
2007-03-24 20:59:07 · answer #1 · answered by Jay Cee 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Aww I'm sorry about this! He is a jerk for ending it so abruptly without a proper explanation. It is possible that he liked it better when you were friends, or that he isn't ready for a relationship, or even that he is afraid of his feelings. There are many possibilities. Men have a tendency to make up lame excuses when they don't want to talk about their real feelings or don't understand them enough to put them into words. Women are much better about these things.
However, the real reason that he ended it does not really matter. He seems immature, selfish and cold for doing this to you, and if he ended it, then it was not meant to be. Breakups suck! Trust me I know! The worst part of breakups are the range of emotions that we have to deal with.
Self doubt: It is inevitable! We all tend to think, What is wrong with me? Did I do something wrong? Am I not good enough in some way? We all think it, but don't! Most of the time, the issue is his own, and it is not your fault. You have to know that you are wonderful in your own way and that one day you will meet a guy that loves you as you are and wants you no other way.
Hopeless: I've felt it before- What if I never love anybody the same way again? I know it could feel like it- like that was your last chance and you'll never meet anyone again that you like as much- but this is NOT TRUE. I felt this way leaving my old highschool after my breakup w/ my first bf. But then, the day I came to my new one- I met another guy who I liked worlds better! We dated for a year, before I ended it because our lives went in separate directions and we never got to see eachother anymore. I was sad, but a year later I met another guy, who I like best of all! I guess my point is, there will always be other fish in the sea. And I'm nott he type of girl to fall for just anyone either.
Oh well, I guess the point is that even if it doesn't feel like it you have to believe there are more people out there and you have to know that you are going to be just fine and that things will work out for the better. Best of luck to you!
2007-03-24 13:03:32 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Since it was your first experience then you ought to know that friendships are like that and they're not for keeps unless they end in a happy marriage. So grow up and accept this fact.
2007-03-24 12:53:53 · answer #3 · answered by Trident10 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
its hard to say because i dont know what age you are, but i found going out with my mates clubbing helped me, and forget about men and just have a good time, its his loss not yours you dont need men like that
2007-03-24 12:55:31 · answer #4 · answered by Charlotte S 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋