My boyfriend and I are taking some time apart to minister to others-- we're still together, but we're deliberately spending less time together so we can use our time to build relationships centered on Christ. It's hard, but we are eager to see the fruits.
I have a sister in Christ who also has a boyfriend, and while I don't expect her to do the same thing we're doing-- (since God convicts everyone differently)-- I can't help but feel this KNOT in me that cringes every time she talks about how much they spend time with each other (all the time) and what kinds of things he buys her and all the attention he pays to her and how they can't live without each other...
I'm not sure if it's jealousy or envy... or bitterness? All I know is that my boyfriend and I have a calling from God to do what we're doing right now, and I feel empowered to do it. But my human heart feels awful about it whenever I am reminded of what others have that we don't? Please help...
2007-03-24 05:37:24 · 16 answers · asked by reba 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
"Love is always patient and kind. It is never jealous. Love is never boastful or conceited. It is never rude or selfish. It does not take offense and is not resentful. Love takes no pleasure in other peoples sins, but delights in the truth. It is always ready to excuse, to trust, to hope, and to endure whatever comes." <1 Cor 13>
In my challenging relationships with men, I find myself reading this over and over and over. Then I ponder "How does God feel when I spend more time watching Disney Movies?" ... or "How does God feel when I reject/ dump him?" ... or you could ask "How does God feel when I spend more time in despair rather than hoping for the best?" (Cure, HOPE)
Certainly, God's much more wise about this than we are and his wisdom on love is right there in Corintians. As pleasent and simple as it sounds, it's a real challange. GB U on u'r journey.
2007-03-24 05:50:36 · answer #1 · answered by Giggly Giraffe 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am not Christian, but I think you said it - you feel a little bad because you are paying attention to your "calling" rather than getting some of the love and romantic attention you are craving. I think that no matter what, you need love and affection because you are a WOMAN, a caring individual and a human being with a HEART. God has made all of us like that. I don't think you are meant to totally ignore those feelings within yourself - if so, we wouldn't be made to feel anything!!
Do yourself a favor - keep up your spiritual work, but put some time aside for both you and your boyfriend - celebrate the passion that you two have for each other - there is absolutely nothing wrong with love.
2007-03-24 12:45:49 · answer #2 · answered by lanibear55 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Being Godly and attempting to fulfill God's purpose for your life is wonderful. But, you must remember that even though you are centering your life on God, you are still a human being. You miss your boyfriends companionship and you sound as if you are very much in love with him. You are probably feeling a little envious of your sister and maybe even a little bitter because God has called you to different paths. This is not uncommon and you need not worry that God will condemn you for it. Living for God is not easy and sometimes it requires sacrifice on our part. I commend you for making your decision even though it is difficult for you. It is that kind of love for God that pleases him most of all. You are indeed putting him first. I will absolutely guarantee that your future will be brighter and more fulfilling than your sister's eventually because you have put God above your own needs. Take heart, keep faith and know that all Christians who read this will be praying for your "knot" to go away. The whole point of being a Godly person is to be willing to do what God asks of you even if it goes against your own desires.
2007-03-24 12:50:38 · answer #3 · answered by Poohcat1 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What you are feeling is not from you dear... satan is trying to keep you from doing what GOD has put onto your heart.. satan has seen an oppurtunity in you to hurt you and if you let him , then he has succeeded...
If you and your boyfriend have a strong foundation , nothing can break it and doing GOD'S work should bring you joy not jealousy, etc....
Remember , this is for GOD since the instruction came from GOD ... DO NOT LET satan GET IN YOUR WAY ...
you know that GOD will reward those who do his work but you must let this fleshly desire leave you and focus on the task at hand ....
Also , if you allow these feelings to get in your way , then you are not giving GOD all you can..
Pray that GOD will help you focus on what GOD wants ... Pray that GOD will keep you strong ...
Pray that you will see straight and not to the side..
JESUS never said that the our lives would be easy but JESUS did say that he would be there for us at all times ..GO to JESUS dear and talk to him.....LET HIM HELP YOU >>>GO AND KNOCK ON THE DOOR .. ASK AND IT SHALL BE GIVEN YOU >> >
YOU CAN DO THIS ..YOU ARE STRONGER THAN ANY small demon.....
And when your job has seen the 1st fruits , you will be overjoyed..:) REMEMBER THE REWARD>>>
I hope I could help you and I will pray for you also..I know you can do it ..
And wouldn't your heart just love to hear " WELL DONE GOOD AND FAITHFULL SERVANT" :)
Love and Blessings to you
2007-03-24 12:57:01 · answer #4 · answered by Joann 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should be so proud of yourself. Dont be discouraged. Remember we are only human so we have human feelings. You are doing what you have been called to and answering the call is the most important job right now. It is hard for people to put Christ first . Just do the very best you can.
2007-03-24 12:50:14 · answer #5 · answered by sweet cheeks 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is a purpose for everything. You know God has a plan for you. He knows what He is doing it might not make sense or feel good right now, but in the long run everything will be ok. Just remember Matthew 5:3-10(The Beatitudes).
God Bless you and your ministry.
2007-03-24 13:04:32 · answer #6 · answered by NOTW<>< 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is normal what you feel. When we are away from someone we love we sorta have a void inside. This is part of missing him. Remember to let jesus fill that void and it want be long before you see your friend again. sometimes we feel like we . Do you know how your male friend fells about this. Ask God to show you your heart to amke sure it isn't jealousy but whatever it is. God nows and he wil help you.
2007-03-24 17:52:47 · answer #7 · answered by princess 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you fell God wants you to do this, then do it. Pray about it. Do not compare your relatioship with your friend's relationship. And it is not your job to make them to try the same thing you are doing. Let God talk to them too. God gives us different jobs. Maybe their job is to test your commintment.Remember they might not have the same maturity level with Christ as you have.
So I would like to know if this is actually helping your relationship to be more Christ centered?
2007-03-24 12:48:06 · answer #8 · answered by SeeTheLight 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
"But my human heart feels awful about it whenever I am reminded of what others have that we don't?"
10 years ago I would feel bad when I saw a couple with a child. How come they can have a child and I can't? Then I realized I was coveting their child. I stopped doing that. I asked for forgiveness and repented. Today I have my own children. And I am sensitive to those who don't have children.
2007-03-24 12:48:03 · answer #9 · answered by SEOplanNOW.com 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Of course your gonna feel this way. You and your boyfriend are doing something great for God and satan HATES it. Your friend I'm sure is unaware of it, but satan is using her to get to you. Keep your eyes fixed on Jesus and in the end you and your boyfriend will have a stronger relationship built around Christ. God Bless
2007-03-24 12:45:04 · answer #10 · answered by kittykat 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋