Haven't seen ''him'' in almost a year, and he started calling and emailing me now for almost 3-4 months telling me that he broke up with his current girlfriend and that he wants to see me again and misses me..blah blah blah...
I have met someone during the time that we weren't seeing each other and its been going great, it looks like marriage potential. Anywho, not that I'm planning on seeing my "friend" any time soon but I'm just curious if he really really misses me for me or the just misses the sex.
opinions...thanks!
2007-03-24 05:30:34 · 16 answers · asked by ericuuuuuuuuuuuuuuux 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Yes, it's possible. I've had the nature of relationships change over the years from platonic to intimate and back again and I can well imagine the pendulum swinging even further.
That said, I would suggest that if things are "going great" with someone and it looks like you may be headed to the altar with him, getting together with a FWB whom you haven't heard from in almost a year might suggest a desire on your part to break off your current relationship. Perhaps you have some doubts about it, on some level?
If your FWB is truly interested in a platonic friendship now, perhaps you should suggest having him over to dinner with your current beau? Invite him to bring a date with him. That will make clear what the current situation is and will "call his bluff" as to whether his intentions are truly platonic at this point.
2007-03-24 05:42:25 · answer #1 · answered by An observer 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think he probably misses the sex. If he was interested in you for anything more it would have happened before now. I think he's looking for a way to get over his ex and get some bootie at the same time and you would fit perfectly into his plan. If he knows your seeing someone then he should back off just out of respect for you and the relationship your currently in. If you continue to allow him to contact you then your opening yourself up to making a mistake. Out of respect for your current relationship I would end any contact with this guy. Keep what you have and lose this loser.
2007-03-24 12:45:12 · answer #2 · answered by love2breal2003 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Okay so their is NO such thing as "friend with benies".
This is not the actions of a friend at all. That is disrepectful to you. Any action on your part will lead to the break up of YOUR relationship with your current man.
Since you are currently involved, the most honest way to handle this "so called friend" is to let him know that you are very happily envolved with another man and you can not in good faith have ANY type of relationship with him at all. Let him know that history is already in the books and you can't relive it. Happy Trails and best wishes. Don't contact him anymore. or anything.
Step back and look clearly at the situation and realize the importance of your actions at this point. Sex comes with a price and he is just fishing and you know it.
2007-03-24 12:39:49 · answer #3 · answered by Denise W 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Honestly, if he hasn't been around in a year, then it's just for the sex. He only wants you now because the person he had is now gone, and he wants something or someone to replace her until he finds something else. I say don't mess up what you have going for yourself. You will regret it in the end if you give up on something good. He isn't worth just another all-nighter!!
2007-03-24 12:36:39 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
If it was over a year ago the last time you spoke and all of a sudden out of the blue he calls and misses you, no he doesnt miss you he misses what you did with him...
2007-03-24 12:40:31 · answer #5 · answered by Jesse 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hmmm....tricky. It would certainly appear your "buddy" is treating you as just that still-he's split up with his girl and is lonely and in need of company. I'd steer well clear of this one, hun-you've got a full-time love interest and it'd certainly appear your friend is clearly only interested in sex. Put blunt, if if was gonna develop into more than just sex, he wouldn't have found himself a girlfriend and stopped seeing you-he would have just got with you. My theory-he just wants sex. Hope this helps some!
2007-03-24 12:39:46 · answer #6 · answered by Loulla 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like to me that your friend is reaching out to touch someone for the night and that someone is you! So don't do it if the guy you are with is the "one". Do you really want to jeopardize the good thing you have going on?
2007-03-24 12:40:14 · answer #7 · answered by Sol 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
he could just miss the sex like you said and if he just broke up with his girlfriend then that's proably what it is. If you and him were just friends with benefits and there was no feelings then it sound like that's all it is.
2007-03-24 12:34:37 · answer #8 · answered by ? 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just let him know that you are in a relationship now and are very happy.And that you are sorry that his relationship ended but you wish him luck in his life.
2007-03-24 12:42:40 · answer #9 · answered by wblueyesinvt35 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's the benefit of 'friends with benefits' -- doubt, uncertainty, mind games.
Have fun!
2007-03-24 12:34:24 · answer #10 · answered by laffryot 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋