I know that in the past, my boyfriend has cheated. Not on me but on another girl.
I would hope that he would never do that to me, but how can i be sure? He says that she just wasnt 'the one' and that i am. But even so...
He's a great liar and im not sure i can ever properly trust him, is it worth trying anyway? Do u think he would cheat on me at some point in the future?
2007-03-24 05:30:05 · 23 answers · asked by only_lil_kez 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Hmm.. just to clear it up, i trust him at the moment and im not suspecting him of cheating with someone else at the moment.
Im just worried about the future. I dont want to stay with him for ages and then for him to go back to his old ways and for me to be really hurt.
And to the person 2 answers down (with no name) - yes. So i know what to look for if he does!
2007-03-24 05:41:51 · update #1
your living in the land of maybe!!!
lifes not worth living if you live there!
he could be the one and he could treat you great forever!
or
he could be a big mistake and he could cheat on you!
youll never know! so why not give him a chance???
the next guy you meet may be a cheater and the one after that and the one after that so why leave one cheater for maybe another one?
you can trust yourself to make the right decision!
good luck honey!!!
2007-03-24 05:41:56 · answer #1 · answered by SWANNY AND SNUGGLES! 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Your penultimate sentence answers your question! "He's a great liar and im not sure i can ever properly trust him".
My ex- husband told me when we met that his first wife had cheated on him so I spent our years together believing that as he had been cheated on, he wouldn't do it to me. In the end I found out that it had all been a lie & he was a divorcee because it was him that was the adulterer. Had I known this, I would never have married him as I do believe that leopards don't change their spots. Get out while you can. Sorry - but it's an honest answer.
2007-03-24 12:44:33 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I've got a friend who started out cheating on her partner and now its a way of life for her, so the answer to your question is yes - most times once a cheat always a cheat. Its incredibly hard to stop cheating once a person begins travelling down that road. It takes something exceptionally life-changing for the person to stop, because it becomes a way of life...
2007-03-24 13:00:15 · answer #3 · answered by Lina 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well the relationship isn't going to work if there isn't trust from both parties.
The fact that you say he is a good liar is very scary! Why would you want to be with someone that you know lies? If a relationship needs trust to survive, how can a liar possibly be trusted? Makes no sense!
I think the relationship is lacking a lot and you could do a lot better!
2007-03-24 12:37:24 · answer #4 · answered by justlookin 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I think that if you know for a fact he has lied to you already about other stuff and been really good at it then I would not be happy. If you can't properly trust him then you can't properly love him and in my book the two go together. Love is not love without trust. You will always be wondering just as you are doing now....
2007-03-24 12:42:05 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Doesn't there have to be something fundamentally wrong in a relationship if one of you needs to cheat? The fact that he cheated before, doesn't mean he'll cheat again. Maybe you're the one that he wants, and he'll be content with you.
Unfortunately there are no guarantees in this life, you just have to trust your instinct.
2007-03-24 13:04:03 · answer #6 · answered by jet-set 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you feel like this now I think that it is only going to get worse. I think that you are already doubting him I can not answer if he will cheat on you but you know the saying a leopard can never change its spots. I would look for someone else that you feel that you can trust. Good luck,
2007-03-24 12:37:13 · answer #7 · answered by ANDREW J 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Having just read and answred you other question about going out with a married man I am amazed that you ask this. He has cheated on his wife, already cheated on you...and you want to know if he will cheat again? Grow up girl
2007-03-25 09:23:18 · answer #8 · answered by ? 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
well there is something to be said for that statement once a cheat always a cheat.
The problem is that you know he is capable of cheating and you are feeling insecure because you know he may do it to you at some point.
His past cheating wont destroy your relationship but your insecurities will destroy it.
relationships are built on trust and if you don't trust him then what's the point of giving him anymore of your time????
2007-03-24 13:19:41 · answer #9 · answered by laplandfan 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
'He's a great liar and im not sure i can ever properly trust him'
i wouldn't even try and trust him if you don't already. BUT just because he cheated on someone else doesn't mean he'll cheat on you...
good luck
2007-03-24 12:48:13 · answer #10 · answered by MICHY06 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋