He needs my help but just How much did I really forgive him??

Question

I felt in love really hard with this mean, sexy and free spirited guy 30 yrs ago. He is the love that defined my life. After 3 yrs into dating, he cheated on me and I was devasted. Later he married her!, had a child and finally divorced her.
Years later we got back together but there were many issues between us eventhoug I loved him still. But finally I left him thinking that I got him off my system, not without much pain.

Now in 07, many years later, he called on me, he is alone, very sick, almost broke and he needs my help with the cost of his medical treatment, and probably living expenses.. I forgave him not too long ago, it has taken me a lifetime to get over him and all the good and bad experiences together. Somehow I feel I am the only one that can help him, My best friend says I am wrong that he does not deserve my compassion. I don't fully agree. I feel obligated to show my compassion for someone I loved that much.
What should I do? What's your opinion?

Answer 1

It seems he has found some one who is willing to support his infidelity, lack of self esteem and lack of judgment because she does not feel that she can do any better than him. You obligate yourself in your low expectations and self esteem.
Sad, just so sad.