He keeps sending me gifts and every time i see him he wants to give me money and take me places. Its horrible that i've accepted the gifts and I realized a while back that I really am turned off by him, but hes a nice guy. I dont want to hurt his feelings, But i cant stomach sleeping with him or spending to much time around him either! Im a total meanie, but help me get out!!!
2007-03-24 05:12:57 · 12 answers · asked by Me, myself, & I 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You are going to have to hurt his feelings but realize he is buying his way into your world so in a sense he is manipulating the social dynamic there. You are not a mean person you just aren't attracted to him so break it to him but be careful because it may cause somewhat of a stalker-ish like behavior from him. Oh and realize that he is not really a nice guy. Truly nice men don't try to buy their way into a situation.
2007-03-24 05:17:34 · answer #1 · answered by JAZ 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I am not here to judge you, but you shouldn't have accepted any gifts from this guy in the first place. You should definitely tell him the truth about how you really feel about him. You could make it clear to him that you're not into him romantically but you both could continue being friends. Be honest with him and yourself. It may hurt him in the beginning but he will appreciates your honesty. Time will heal it all. And remember, please STOP taking advantage of this poor guy by keeping on accepting his money and presents and going out with him.
2007-03-24 05:25:00 · answer #2 · answered by sleepyhead 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Shame on you for accepting the gifts. That showed interest. The only honorable way to get out it would be to return the gifts...all of them.
2007-03-24 05:17:01 · answer #3 · answered by ubiquitous_mr_lovegrove 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Ok. Take a deep breath and think about what you want. Take all the presents from around your house and give them back. Tell him that you like him as a friend but you don't want to have a sexual relationship. Tell him not to be sad, but just not to try to turn you on anymore. He is not your type.
2007-03-24 05:17:31 · answer #4 · answered by lordessgoosie 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Tell him its time to move on your a nice guy and all but I think it best if we see other people. There a girl out there for you I am just not the one. To behonest I am got the same problem but expect for a guy its a girl who won't leave me alone. I am tired of her ,she just annoying and calls to much and won't leave me alone. I don't want to hurt her feeling either. Just tell him I have no more feelings for you sorry. I hate situations like this the person who likes you is needy and possible in my opinion might follow you after you brake up with him. Man this guy your trying to get rid of is to needy. Good luck on getting rid of this guy. You might have to get a restraining order for this guy if he in anyways a physco and won't leave you alone. Good Luck
2007-03-24 05:29:12 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Return the gifts and tell him you're calling it quits. Don't make mention of being friends, make a clean break.
2007-03-24 05:16:07 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
You should be honest and tell him how you feel, that you feel uncomfortable by his gifts. And you need to tell him it's not going to work and tell him that you feel very uncomfortable excepting all these gifts and gently tell him it's time see other people.
2007-03-24 05:22:42 · answer #7 · answered by LaNinaScorpia91 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Just tell him that you don't feel about him in that way, and return the gifts that he has given you.
2007-03-24 05:19:45 · answer #8 · answered by punkxrocker3 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Have you even started a relationship? LOL, just dump him tell him he's not the right guy... he'll live with it...just go 4 the classic "Let's just be friends" or start dating someone else
2007-03-24 05:18:26 · answer #9 · answered by paris_cyber_girl 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
sit im down and tell him you dont want to see him anymore --- it does not matter how you do it how gently you tell him --- it will still hurt there is nothing you can do about it im sorry --- best wishes
2007-03-24 05:40:18 · answer #10 · answered by Waterdragon 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋