How should I do my "first time"?

Question

My little sister (16) wants to have a one night stand as her first time. With a close, but older friend. A little drunk so shes less akward. She has a lot of questions...here they are; "I've shaved down below, so to speak, and now there are tons of ingrown hairs...what now?", "how can I relax before sex with my friend?", and "what is it even like?". She also needs to know good places where and when. I can't help her...it's too akward to talk about with her. So if you could do (us) this favor of answering the questions, that'd be amazing.

Thanks! :)

Obviously I dont support it. But I'd rather help her get information rather than just say no. If I try to restrain her then she'll just go for it...but if I get input she'll listen. I can't stop her. I'm not going to try. What I can do is get input from all around.

Answer 1

You should tell your sister to slow down. There are an awful lot of risks at stake here. The hair bumps will go away, she will just have to shave the area regularly. Getting drunk will defeat the purpose if she wants it to be a memorable experience. Sex is more than just a physical act. If the older friend is experienced enough it will feel great, and you'll want more, but if the guy is not sensitive to her level of experience he is going to ruin her first time for her. If this older friend is is going to get involved ask him to select a location that would be comfortable for her so that she will be able to relax, and enjoy herself. Tell her that she also needs to let dude know what she does, and does not like [ what feels good, and what doesn't]. You should also remind her that she is special, and well worth waiting for. At least until she is truely ready.

Answer 2

First, her first time should be in 2 or 3 years, that would give her the time to correct the ingrown hair thing, and time to grow up and make these decisions herself, and how much older is the friend? Old enough to get a hotel? This brings up another thought, sex should be with someone you care for very deeply, unless you are a guy, or you plan on making a habit of sport fuc*ing, I take it she's not a guy, so I guess sex for her will be something to do with any guy she meets, where are these new modern, streamlined morals coming from?

Answer 3

First of all u will so regret doing this when you are done.You are cheapening love making .Remember if u have to get tipsy to feel comfortable doing this that should tell you something.Wait until u find someone that loves u.It is all together different exprience to having casual sex.Love making is the best when two people are in love. As for in grown hairs next time don't shave.Use a hair remover.

Answer 4

Lots of 16 year olds are ready with a good level head to have safe sex,you on the other hand need to wait another year or two so that your questions will be answered and the fear is gone,sex is great and a loving feeling so when you decide to and ready to have it with someone you love and he will love you back.Don't just pick anyone.

Answer 5

If the both of you have to ask how to go about her first time, than that means she is not ready. Your first time happens when you know deep down this person is your soul mate and no douts at all in the back of your mind. If he is pushing your little sis to have sex. I'm sorry to tell you both that is all its going to be to him is sex with no emotions attached. Just something to feel good to him for all of 20 sec. And you noticed I said FOR HIM TO FEEL,not her. A mature man always make sure the lady gets her first and always make sure she is ready to make love. Even if he has to wait 6 months or a year later. It's always her choice not his.

Answer 6

your little sister is only 16 and i think it's still too early for her engaging on sex. especially with someone she's not even romantically involved with. as an older sister, i understand that you want to be supportive, but you also have to protect her. once this happens, she can never go back. i 100% think that she should wait and you as an older sister should talk her out of having sex too early. i really do hope she doesnt go through this one night stand. she will truly regret it.

Answer 7

If you are so in a rush to experience sex,you've already ruined it,because you have expectations that may not be met therefore letting you down.It is a good idea to prepare yourself for sex,such as hygiene etc. but I would suggest that you wait until you find someone that you really care about,then if you're still a little nervous talk about it. Best of luck.

Answer 8

NOT A GOOD IDEA!!!

A good idea for when is when she is ready. She is pushing herself into this. She has made this a huge deal when infact this is not a big deal, and she is going to be much happier if she is in a relationship with someone she really cares about. Most of the questions you asked for her, with exception to the shaving, will be answered on their own when the situation is right this will all fall into place. Tell her not to rush it.

Answer 9

So the 16 year old is you.... Let me tell you this much, Your going to be in the most pain you have ever felt in your life, and you are going to hate it. Then after you have endured pain for like 5 times "My girlfriend says" It gets easier and better... She told me it was the worst pain shed ever been in. At 16 your to young, me and her did it at 19 we have been together for 5 years, and that was the first time we did, it. Dont have sex, b/c you WILL get pregnant and or you will be called a slut/ whore by everyone that finds out.

Hope i helped -

-James

Answer 10

She's 16, and its really really sad that she wants to lose her virginity that young.. and to a man she doesn't even love. That's sickening to me. Honestly, I can gaurantee that she won't enjoy it. Afterwards she will feel disgusted and used. First time should be with someone you love, not a one night stand. If you're her older sibling you should do something to stop this. If my little sister was about to have a one night stand, I'd do anything I could to stop it. You know this is wrong, if you're a good older sibling you won't let this happen.