I have been with this guy for 6 years, and we love each other, but when we start to thinking about getting married, etc., all the tension, and distance comes in. I love him more then he will ever know, but is it time to let go forever?
2007-03-24 04:50:58 · 25 answers · asked by JELLYBEANIE37 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
If marriage is what you want, and that creates a "distance" between the two of you, then yes, it IS time to let go and move on.
2007-03-24 04:54:11 · answer #1 · answered by olderbutwiser 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
If you have been with him for 6 years and he wants to marry you. What distance can keep you from him? If you want to be with him and you love him so much do what it will take to make the bond stronger. I will say this though...dont marry someone you been long distance dating for 6 years unless you have at least spent a year in the same state around him. I dated someone 3 years long distance because he was in Iraq when we first met and started dating. When he came home I really had a chance to get to know him..and guess what WE ARE NOT TOGETHER!!
2007-03-24 05:02:11 · answer #2 · answered by satisfied_woman2006 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wouldnt give up on 6 years but marriage is hard. I was surpised when I got engaged how much things changed. But work it out. Talk about your concerns and LISTEN to what each other has to say. You may find you are worried about the same things. And you may be able to alleviate some of each other problems. Maybe you both really arent ready or dont want to be married officially. Give it more time if you need it, no one but you can decide when is the right time. If you decide later that you dont want to be together thats fine but dont give up on 6 years simply because things get tough. Work through it and youll be a stronger couple.
2007-03-24 04:56:43 · answer #3 · answered by Lindsay 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't know because you didn't say if you wanted to marry him. If you do and he doesn't I guess I would let it go. If neither of you want to get married then I don't see why you have to let it go. Also if you have been together that long and you really love him then I guess you have to decide how may years you want to spend with someone you might never marry. Also,marriage is a huge commitment and it does make you tense to think about,that is normal. Just think about what kind of future you want and if he fits into fine,if not move on.
2007-03-24 04:58:25 · answer #4 · answered by Lori O 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
dont understand why there is tension when u disguss marriage .there shouldnt be any at all. maybe a little anxiety but sertainly not tension. 6 years is a long time to have into a relationship allready . thats longer than most marriages last unfortunatly. has he asked you ? given you a ring yet? if not maybe he isnt that seroiuse. if he has then maybe it is finacial . i was scared to death i wasnt going to be able to afford everything we needed for our wedding ! so now is the time to sit and talk, either you are going to take the next step, get married. or you take a huge leap backwards and start all over ! good luck whatever your decision!
2007-03-24 05:02:56 · answer #5 · answered by gands4ever 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have to make the holy decision, honey. Will you marry him, or will you not? It all depends on his character. With marriage comes all sorts of bad things, and good things besides. Maybe you should get engaged and wait awhile. Maybe act like you are married. That way, you can find out things about eachother and really decide if you want to take the mega mega big step into marriage. Just take your time about this. You don't have to rush anything. If he is good enough for you, he'll let you be relaxed with the situation and not push it.
2007-03-24 04:55:33 · answer #6 · answered by lordessgoosie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
there is this saying which goes.. if you really love someone, let them go. and if they come back to you.. he's yours. just think logically. why the tension and distance? if HE really loves y ou.. he would want to marry you as soon as possible. sometimes you have to let loose a little..
2007-03-24 04:54:16 · answer #7 · answered by band2212 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It all depends on how you look at it.
Maybe tension and distance are just illusions. Maybe everything is just fine. Maybe you're just feeling more alive now that things are starting to get a little more real.
You let go when you let go.
2007-03-24 04:54:52 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tension and distance from what? Please add more specific details. I think that you will know what to do. I had my heart broken by a guy I will always love, but it takes more than feelings to make it work. Good Luck
2007-03-24 04:55:12 · answer #9 · answered by TotallylovesTodd! 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you're ready to commit to this relationship by getting married and he is not, then move on, as hard as it is. You can't force him to get married. Find out what the fears are. Go to premarital counseling and many questions can be answered or fears removed simply by that. If he's still not ready or willing, then it's up to you. Continue with your current relationship or move on.
2007-03-24 04:56:44 · answer #10 · answered by VW 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋