My ex bf curses at me a lot. He was like that after he broke up with me. If I called him to ask him about math hw (which only happened once), he would say,"Leave me the **** alone, I'm playing video games!" It was really immature of him. He yells and fights with me a lot. No, he's not physically like that, but I have a feeling in the future he might turn into that kind of guy with his next gf. He was really sweet when we were going out though. He broke up with me in Nov. because he said he didn't want to talk to me anymore.
If a guy curses at you a lot, and constantly fights with you, is that abusive in any way?
2007-03-24 04:45:52 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Yes, it is believe it or not. I am an abuse victim myself, but not due to just that. I was physically,sexually, and emotionally abused. It sounds to me as if you were verbally abused. That means that a guy curses at you or screams at you or talks badly about you. You may also be emotionally abused meaning you may be very upset due to all of these things that he has done to you. I really don't blame you at all. I'm very sorry this happened. You are not alone. hope that helped and god bless.
2007-03-24 04:54:32 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes and no. The way that you are describing it I would say so. There are many forms of abuse. Theres Physical, mental, and verbal and I am sure that there are more. It sounds like to me that he is a verbal and mental abuser. If he was constantly fighting with you I think that he was really trying to push you to being the one that ended the relationship. And when you did not then he pushed only harder. You dont need someone that is going to treat you that way. I would not nesiceraily say that what he is doing now is any kind of indication that he will be phyisically abusive. I think that he just has an anger issue and who knows it could lead to that. I dont k now him that well but he could just be a very selfish and immature individual. POint being hun...stay away from him...he is no good for you! I hope that all turns out well for you.
2007-03-24 04:54:37 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
That would be verbal abuse. Many people who yell and curse don't realize that what they are doing is a form of abuse. This type of abuse has a broad, broad range: from whispering hateful things under your breath to screaming in your face. Verbal abuse doesn't necessarily mean the person will become physically violent in the future.
Of course, staying in a relationship where you're allowing someone to treat you that way can be seen as a type of self inflicting mental abuse.
PS - artangent up there says he's the only one with the guys point of view - that's pretty stupid. You didn't ask that who was right or wrong, you asked if it was abuse. and yes, it is.
2007-03-24 04:59:31 · answer #3 · answered by darrahdragon 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If anybody puts you down and makes you feel bad about yourself then they were never into you in the first place. The verbal abuse will take away your self worth and may lead to physical abuse eventually. Your best to stay away from these guys. Anybody worth having would bring compliments and love while avoiding confrontations they would not ridicule and create unnecessary fights.
Find someone who has positive qualities if you ever want a fulfilling relationship.
2007-03-24 04:57:18 · answer #4 · answered by trojan 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, we only have your side of the story. But no, he's not abusive. He's only angry and like he said, doesn't want to talk to you anymore. If you stop calling/talking to him, he will stop being angry. He would be abusive if he was calling you to insult you. I don't think he will be insulting to his next girlfriend while he's dating her either. Unless you live in the same appartment, i suggest you avoid seeing him for a while.
edit: someone abusive has an abusive nature. you said he was the opposite before he broke up. I'm positive that he only wants to be left alone.
edit number 2: notice that so far, i'm the only one offering the point of view from a guy.
2007-03-24 04:51:54 · answer #5 · answered by artagant 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
That is called verbal and emotional abuse. That can be almost as bad and hurtful as physical abuse.
Name calling, Mind games, and belittling you are all forms of abuse....
If you get into another relationship like that RUN FOR THE HILLS!!!
2007-03-24 04:51:46 · answer #6 · answered by Scared 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It can be. There are such things as being verbally abused.
I would say just leave him be. As much as you may want to still talk to him sometimes space and time is the best thing.
2007-03-24 04:50:14 · answer #7 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-20 08:26:49 · answer #8 · answered by atalanta 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's called mental abuse.
2007-03-24 04:50:14 · answer #9 · answered by luckford2004 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes i think it is mental abuse. first he has to respect himself before he can respect others
2007-03-24 04:53:57 · answer #10 · answered by sandra b 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋