Problem 2 year old?

Question

Ok here's the deal... my wonderful 2 year old has a temper ... when we say no he SCREAMS like we are hurting him... and keeps screaming until we either give in or leave the situation. I don't know what to do... tonight we were at the library and he wanted to "play" on the computer but we said no your not aloud. and he just started screaming and wouldn't stop. my husband finally took him out to the car and calmed him down. we can't go anywhere with him without him "wanting " something and not being able to have it and then having a FIT. any idea's?????

Answer 1

I'd like to pass along to you some suggestions that will help control your toddler's destructive tendencies and temper tantrums.


Distraction. Try to redirect your child to another activity, like playing some music or turning on the T.V.

Separation. Remove him from the place where he is causing trouble. If he is in the park and bites his friend, take him home. It doesn't work to scream and yell, just do it quietly.

Explanation. Explain why you are acting a certain way. Setting rules and regulations and not explaining them is unfair.

Compromise. Yes, sometimes give in. Allow him to make some decisions. By letting him win some small arguments, you'll have a better chance to win the big ones.

Punishment. Yes, there is a place for punishment, such as taking away privileges. Spanking should be reserved for special occasions like running out into traffic. A smack across the backside is more than enough for him to get the message.

If you keep these five rules at the ready you can reasonably expect to escape toddlerhood in one piece.

On my personal experience when my son hit 2 he dramatically changed and pediatrician said it was terrible two's but by 3 i found out he had autism. He was sensitive to noise, take things different from other kids, hated crowds, temper tantrums over any lil thing and they last like 15 minutes or more depending if we left the place or not. Just giving you my two cents. Look for any other signs! If not you gotta be hard with him and very stricted,so he doesnt get away with what he wants and control you. Good luck!

Mjr

Answer 2

Ok, best advice I ever got as a parent- if you haven't taught them how to act by the time they are 3 years old, it's too late.

It's not about finally taking him to the car. I know it is inconvenient, but at hte first sign of disobedience, you must leave. Going to the library, store, restaurant, is a privledge and if you don't act properly, you go home.

Why could he not play on the computer? Was it a time issue? You should have explained it to him. "We don't have a moment to spare right now, but when we get home, you can play on Mommy's computer for a little while."

Also, if he is screaming at "no" there must have been times you have given into him. If you continue to do that, you will be in serious trouble when he sits the teenage years.

Answer 3

He gets a lot of attention when he screams, doesn't he? It gets him anything he wants so why should he stop? When my children were in the terrible twos (there is a reason they call it that) a screaming fit at home was ignored (I would leave the room) and in public we would leave and go home. I know this is a punishment for you too but you can't reward bad behavior. You may have to get a sitter for a while so you can get the things done you need to do or you and your husband take turns until the little one realizes he too has rules.

Answer 4

He is testing the waters...he wants to see where the boundaries are. 2 yr olds are smart little creatures that can sense your weaknesses.

When my 2 yr old acts up....I tell her to stop it...I never give in!!! I ignore my 2 yr when she has a tintrum tantrum and I never go places that you have to be quiet. Eventually, she realizes that I will not pay attention to her until she calms down!!

Trust me...it works! However, it takes time. You can also try corner time at home when he acts up. He stays in the corner for 2 minutes since he is 2. Good luck!!

Answer 5

This is nothing that patience and training cannot correct. She is realizing that she is older and is testing her limits. The thing to keep in mind is "who is training whom?" Certainly your husband did the right thing at the library to remove her. If you are at home or at a place where her "fits" will not be burdensome to someone else, it is better to totally ignore the behavior and even to walk away. She will soon learn she is not getting the results she was hoping for.

Answer 6

An old fashion spanking comes to mind(on the butt). I believe in physical discipline if done properly. Don't punish out of anger, and always follow up with love. Never use your hand to spank, hands are for loving and holding. A spatula, or wooden spoon works wonders. I know it sounds cruel, but believe it or not, you will find amazing results. One more thing, be consistent, without being consistent, don't bother.

Answer 7

Training a child to behave the right way starts at home before you even leave the house.

He's not allowed to throw fits, so dont allow him. Teach him how he should behave, expect him to do so, and hold him accountable for not doing so.

Use the same punishment each time, and use it RIGHT at the time of the offense. EVERYTIME. giving in is the WORST thing you can do.

You need to talk to him constantly. At home. in the car. At the store. "Honey, mommy is so glad that you can use words to tell me what you want instead of crying", "We dont throw fits, thats what babies do, Iam so proud of you for being grown up and talking to mommy." Point out good and bad behavior in other children to him, this gives him confidence in himself, "Look how nicely that little girl is standing with her mommy, iam so glad that you can stand nicely with mommy at the store" or "How sad, That little boy is throwing a fit just like a baby, he doesnt know how to use his words! Iam so glad that you dont throw fits, you're too big for that. We use words".

Its constant. So is teaching him patience, and cause and effect. He throws a fit, he gets nothing. Explain to him that there are times when we buy things we want, and times that we dont. There are times that we enjoy just looking at things, and not buying them. You can help teach him this by going window shopping yourself. Dont buy anything. Just look, talk to him about how nice that sweater is, maybe some day you will buy it because you want it, but not today.

Then he can see you exhibiting some self control, and learn the same for himself.

Consistancy, teaching and punishment. Just dont let him misbehave. It sounds stupid, but its the truth. You wouldnt let your dog bite someone, dont let your child throw a fit. I know he's not a dog, but its the same idea. Dont allow that behavior.

Answer 8

that just sounds like my 16 month old son lol dont worry about it every 2 year old goes through that they just want everything if others look at you like they do to my child dont worry about thoses ignorant people i just say to my son no and when he keeps screaming just keep saying no and dont pay attention just keep calm its at that age where its called the terrible twos it will soon pass enjoy every moment he will soon be a big lad good luck and best wishes

Answer 9

What is wrong with parents beat his a** and punish I have 3 kids under the age of 5 and I do not have these problems.

Answer 10

that child must have been pampered allot, so try hitting him he mustn't go out of hand do it now or later it will be a really big burden. act fast!