my girlfriend is 12 years old, 5ft, and 90lbs. shes turning 13 tomorrow. i know for a fact she never eats breakfast or lunch. im not sure if she eats dinner or not. but she hasnt always been like this. its been going on for about a month now and she cries daily. i know somethings wrong with her but i dont know how to help. shes been very emotional lately and has missed alot of school. a month ago she was 110lbs. its not like her to stop eating all of the sudden and lose 20lbs in one month. shes obsessed with exercising and i think she overworks herself. she does acting, cheerleading, dance, baton, and gymastics. she does atlest 3 of those everyday and afterwards comes to my house crying her heart out. she just tells me nothings wrong but i can tell shes lying. i dont know what to do. plz help me i dont want her to hurt herself.
2007-03-24 04:04:18 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Health ➔ Other - Health
By what you have said,it sounds very possible that she does have a eating disorder,you need to talk to her and tell her that you are concerned about her. She needs to tell her parents and possibly go to her doctor.
2007-03-24 04:08:55 · answer #1 · answered by Backwoods Barbie 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Especially for someone of such a low weight to begin with, 20 pounds is a huge and unhealthy weight loss in one month. I won't say that she's anorexic, as not enough details are listed. However, it seems she has a serious eating disorder. 90 pounds is about 10 pounds underweight for her height. If she doesn't get help soon though, she's likely to keep losing. You have to confront her about this, which is always very tough. Depending on her reasons for doing this, there are different reactions she may have. Most likely she will either get angry and deny, shut down and ignore, or feel helpless and cry. If your girlfriend is not responsive to your concern, you need to make someone else aware, while she may feel like your betraying her, her parents are a good place to start, as they have the power to get her the help she needs. Most likely, she will realise your concern, and not be mad at you. If she stops talking to you, she needs this time to get healthy. Know you've done what you can. No matter how she reacts, always be there if she needs a friend.
2007-03-24 11:11:39 · answer #2 · answered by sestantonse58 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes. That is an eating disorder. Get her help.
No one should ever skip meals - not even those that need to lose weight. At her age, she could do permanent damage to her organs and body.
If you really care about this girl, tell your school counselor. It's obvious that her parents don't care about her. How can you not notice that your five foot daughter lost 20 pounds and has stopped eating?
The counselor will know how to proceed.
Please help this girl. This is terribly serious. She's heading down a very, very dangerous road, and she's already hurting herself.
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2007-03-24 11:11:28 · answer #3 · answered by FozzieBear 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I used to be Bulimic. I'm ashamed of it, but I've found that if I talk about it with other people, I may be able to change someone's mind. It really does sound like she is struggling with her inner self. That may be labeled as an eating disorder. It sounds like she's overly concerned with her image, maybe not physically, but with her cheering and that kind of stuff. Just make sure you let her know you support her. Attend all the events that shes in that you can! Be in the front row and let her see you watching her. Just make sure you also let her know you love her outside of sports just as much. Go out of your way to give her little gifts, like flowers or a card, maybe just a walk or something. Nothing too over the top. Also, let her talk to you. I'm sure you leave yourself open for her to talk to, I'm just saying. Don't get frustrated with her. Just keep being a good boyfriend. Don't try to force her to eat, that may pull her back. Give her plenty of emotional support and please don't bring her around anyone who will be a bad influence. I will definitely be praying for her!!
2007-03-24 11:18:34 · answer #4 · answered by *Jenn* 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
lt sounds like an eating disorder to me, I've had/have one and it never really goes away you just learn to use other healthier ways to feel better. I know that sounds crazy but eating disorders are about control. You feel out of control and the only thing you can control is what you put into your mouth.
It is a really emotionally pain-full and lonely disease. Unfortunately you can't help her. She needs to talk someone she trusts who can help her get professional help, like a school counselor or teacher if her parents don't understand.
It won't go away by itself, it will only get worse if she doesn't get help.
You are a good friend to be concerned about her. Good luck and God bless.
2007-03-24 11:17:43 · answer #5 · answered by Busybake 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Like someone has said before me, it could be her parents who are pressuring her to do too much. Many people become anorexic as a way to control a part of their life when they can't change anything else (ie. to quit acting, cheerleading, dance etc.) Perhaps you should communicate your concerns about the effect all these activities have on her with her parents. I wish her happiness and good health.
Erica
2007-03-24 11:18:59 · answer #6 · answered by KeyIra 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She needs help- NOW. It's great she has a friend like you. Talk to her. Try to get her to talk to an adult - hopefully her parents or a school counselor. She sounds depressed and has an eating disorder. This is serious stuff. If she won't do this on her own, can you talk with her mom or school counselor? She is at extreme risk.
Good luck!!
2007-03-24 14:29:28 · answer #7 · answered by juneaulady 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
she definitely does need some help. Sounds like she might be depressed, have some emotional and image issues.
Whatever her problem is, its serious and bad for her emotional and physical health.
You need to let an adult you trust know about the situation as soon as possible. Talk to your parents first, then talk to hers.
When a problem is this serious, it is ok to get help for her - you wont be betraying her or going behind her back. You need to do what is best for her.
2007-03-24 11:13:32 · answer #8 · answered by raspberryswirrrl 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It seems like she has a lot going on. One might question who she is doing it all for....her parents, maybe. Perhaps she gets a lot of pressure at home and she feels the situation is hopeless. Try to convince her to talk to a counselor at school. If she won't, then maybe you could approach the counselor and share your concerns. You are a good friend!
2007-03-24 11:11:55 · answer #9 · answered by I_hope_I_know 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have you told her parents about your concerns? or maybe
even talk it over with your parents? I have heard stories about
gymnastics coaches telling their people to lose weight
even when they are already skinny. She needs to be
eating breakfast or lunch for sure (both would be better)
but if you could get her to at least eat one its a start.
2007-03-24 11:33:22 · answer #10 · answered by chmar11 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋