I have been seeing two guys on an off for the past 3 months and have history with both of these guys. One guy was my first love and would be the bf but hes not very affectinate unless its in the mornings in bed or right before intercouse..witht he other guy we were dating shortly before I rekindled things with mynow bf but things didnt work out for us at the time until recently we have been talking alot and he seems like he is extremely genion about how he feels for me. We have alot of fun while we are together and everything just meshes extremely well between us. . I have no clue who I want to be with but i know i hate seeing them both.the person i am not with knows i am with someone but oviously my bf does not know i talk to my ex or hang out with him.i love my bf and if I was sure of his dovotion to me this wouldnt be an issue. but this other guy is just wonderful.Do you guys think I should risk it and just go for something new or stay witht he person i do love and play it out?
2007-03-24 03:52:42 · 5 answers · asked by jenn p 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
ok.. first of all I absolutly love my bf which is why this is so hard because if i was going for the one who seems to want me more I would go with the ex, but since my bf seems shaddy at times and isnt as loving as I know he can be of course it leaves me wanting more. He doesnt communicate as he once did. I have tried to have talks with him about this stuff. If I had it my way I would be with this man til the day I died but IM not going to stay somewhere im not 100 percent taken care of the way I shoudl be. Im afriad to leave him for josh because me and josh already didnt work out once and josh to me even thouhg i love spending time with him likes the chase more then the catch...both of these guys on random nights i think about before bed and both of these guys on different days it hink about when I wake up. without a doubt i love my bf which is why i havent already left.... i cant amagine myself even not having him there.. but i love the love and affection josh give me.
2007-03-24 04:14:15 · update #1
I was in a situation similar to this once. I was the ex who was still around secretly.
I ended up getting back together with her, too, because eventually she realised a few things...
But anyway, I digress a bit.
Choose the one who brings you peace, the one who makes you calm, the one who is your first and last thought every day. If you think of names, who's name comes to your lips first? If you crave a kiss, who's lips do you think of? If you smile secretly to yourself when nobody is looking, who's eyes are you gazing into in your mind's eye?
I think you already know who you want, you're just afraid that you'll make the wrong choice.
2007-03-24 04:03:24 · answer #1 · answered by auqakuh1123 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well first off... for future referance, keep your questions shorter. People, like myself will tend to get lost, and not understand anything you are asking, and then wont be able to help you out. And give people fake names or even a number.
From what I'm understanding your first love... who is your boyfriend now???... seems to just be a good friend. Sex might be good and all, but just not a relationship. And this second guy that your talking about.... I saw no reason why you WOULDN'T want to be with him. You had nothing bad to say about him. Love is ALWAYS a risk, when your not sure... hell even if you are sure. So go for something new... you never know what might happen. You might end up spending the rest of your life together.
2007-03-24 11:09:44 · answer #2 · answered by Kasandra 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have fun and decide in time. Just be careful no one knows including your friends
2007-03-24 10:55:04 · answer #3 · answered by MafiaGal 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
"my bf does not know i talk to my ex"-well in relationships-you should be honest. They will both fail if you can not be honest with the persons' involved.
2007-03-24 10:56:45 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
or stay witht he person i do love and play it out?..if you knew what love was you wouldnt be asking this
2007-03-24 10:55:58 · answer #5 · answered by salinger 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋