Me and my guy of 16 months broke up on Thursday night. We texted a little last night, and that's where he told me that sometimes he liked me, and other times he didn't. I still really like him, but he says, "I want us to just be really close friends." I don't want to settle for that, but I don't want to bug him about it anymore. We both agreed to be close friends, though. What can I do around him (besides dressing like a tramp) that will make him want to go back out with me? Oh, and he knows that I still like him. . .<3
2007-03-24 03:51:23 · 8 answers · asked by The Prep 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
okay girl HOLD ON A SECOND! how do you know you like him this much? i mean lets think about this. you were about to break up with him anyways. or atleast thinking about it. dont confuse your feelings or else you might get what you wanted and realize (too late) that you didnt really want him. you dont have to settle for " just friends" go live your life. thats right YOUR life. not his. he is just a chapter in your life. maybe the chapter is over maybe it isnt but you are not the author. God is. so just enjoy living! put your extra time into cheer leading so that you can remain productive. if you dont you are giving him too much power over your life.
also, when you want to convince a guy that you guys should get back together, being too available is the WORST thing you can do. stop texting him, stop calling him, stop all of this. he will be like "umm what happend. she isnt.......OVER ME IS SHE?????" He will likely come crawling back. and guess what? you still have your pride. here is some quotes. but i dont know who said them.
"If you love something let it go, if it comes back its yours, if it doesnt it never was."
"Boys are like lava lamps, fun to watch but not too bright."
"Mental anxiety, Mental breakdowns, Menstrual cramps, Menopause... Did you ever notice how all our problems begin with Men?"
"When you finally meet the boy who is worth your tears, he wont make you cry."
"Life was so much easier when boys had cuties."
"Men are like high heels; they're easy to walk on once you get the hang of it."
lol if those dont help any atleast they're funny!
2007-03-24 12:55:18 · answer #1 · answered by summer girl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
give it some time. i think in one of your last ?s u said he wanted a break. just see how things play out and dont be the one that runs back to him so fast. show him that if he wants a break that your not his girl anymore and make him realize he wants you back. guys want what they cant have and if telling him that you still really like him isnt working then stop doing that and see if after a little he comes back to you. if it doesnt work after a little, like a week then i would do one of two things. either try your plan again if you really cant get over him, or just move on all together. its obviously hard for you in a situation like this and you dont desevre to be treated like that so go out and be single or tell that other guy you said you liked that your through with your boyfreind
2007-03-24 11:04:03 · answer #2 · answered by 12345 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh, never try to dress trampy or act differently to make someone to like you or go out with you. It is not easy when you like someone more than someone likes you. You don't really want someone that really doesn't have their whole heart into it. Why settle for a quarter when you can have the whole thing? He is saying sometimes because he doesn't want to hurt your feelings. Friends is not a bad thing. If it hurts you to be around him as just friends, you really need to just stay away. Honestly, no matter how much it hurts......
Once you get away and let go of him, you will have room to let the real man that God has for you into your life. You have someone that really wants you all the time, not sometimes. It is not healthy to try to hang onto someone who really doesn't want you. He must not be the man that is meant to be for you. Trust that God has someone out there for you. We all have to go through relationships in our lives before we meet the guy of our dreams. This prepares us and lets us appreciate them more when we meet them. It doesn't help at the moment when we are hurting, but you will understand when it happens.
You have to let him go in order to let the next guy into your life... Don't hang onto someone that is not fully into you. It won't work no matter how much you want it to.
2007-03-24 11:02:23 · answer #3 · answered by Stephanie F 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You cant make a guy like you, if he doesnt want to go out with you than there's not much you can do about it. Be glad that he still wants to be friends atleast.
2007-03-24 10:56:39 · answer #4 · answered by angelspirit2816 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
if he knows that you still like him, tho only reason he would still want to be good friends with you is that he still sorta likes you.
if you're cool with just being his friend for a while, go for it. just hang out with him until you're comfortable just telling him how you feel.
if you immediately want to date him again, you may want to tell him that you can't just be friends with him cuz you wanna be more than friends and it'd be uncomfortable for you.
sorry if that isn't at all helpfull....i tried!
<3
2007-03-24 10:56:54 · answer #5 · answered by *marisa* 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
be yourself.
there's something about you that erks him in the wrong way. and if he can't be happy with who you are than he's not the best for you.
or simply ask him what can you do to make him happy and want to be with you. that's not bugging him that's trying to solve a problem.
-pz-
2007-03-24 10:56:55 · answer #6 · answered by M!sta Carter 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
run the opposite direction as fast as you can you deserve to be treated better than that . their are a lot more out there than him , you go girl .
2007-03-24 10:55:32 · answer #7 · answered by Malibu Kitkat 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
HI, JUST GET A WAY FROM HIM THAT IS THE BEST THING FOR YOU TO DO.
2007-03-24 11:00:56 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋