Awhile ago I happened to see my friend's boyfriend kissing his ex. I saw him again with her 2 nights ago. Me and this girl are pretty good friends but as she has a bit of a temper at times, people tend to keep things from her. She also knows that I don't like him at all! She really thinks this guy is the one and that he would never dream of cheating. They are going out for 3 months now. I have kept quiet but it is really bugging me. She is very loyal to him. Should I tell her what I saw?
2007-03-24 03:46:50 · 27 answers · asked by Jade AvA 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
If she is your friend and you feel she needs to know about what you've seen, then tell her. If she chooses to get mad at you or accuses you of making it up because you don't like the guy, that is her problem...not yours. Bottom line is you have to do what your guts tells you to do.
2007-03-24 03:55:27 · answer #1 · answered by I_hope_I_know 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
And what kind of a friend would you be if you didn't tell her about it? I would tell her as soon as you can. First of all, if you don't, she may find out that you knew all along and that would add to her anger and drama. Secondly, it isn't fair for her to be loyal and supportive of her boyfriend when he's off sneaking around with past girlfriends. If she were the one seeing this and you were the oblivious "girlfriend," wouldn't you like to know what was going on?
But, if you'd like to bust the boyfriend at the same time (which is always so much fun...lol), tell him that you've seen him however many times with the ex. Give him the chance to tell his "girlfriend" himself, and then say that if he doesn't say anything to her within, let's say two days, then she'll be hearing it from you. That way, he has the opportunity to either make things right or do the right thing and pick just one. <3
2007-03-24 11:02:46 · answer #2 · answered by The Prep 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell her after u get evidence. Take a camera phone with u and when u c him again get it video so she can't assume u r a lair. If she has a bad temper u may want 2 consider your friendship, friends should trust friends. If u tell r and she doesn't believe u DON'T tell her again let her find out 4 herself u did your job as a friend now she should do her's and believe u.
2007-03-24 10:59:58 · answer #3 · answered by ? 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you consider yourself to be her friend, then of course you should let her know what you saw. Wouldn't you want to be told if your boyfriend was cheating on you? Depends how good friends you are with this girl, she just might decide not to believe you, but that's ok. You still would have done the right thing by telling her. Always do right by your friends. Best of luck to you.
2007-03-24 10:51:39 · answer #4 · answered by pictureshygirl 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that you should not tell her, because sometimes it is better for people to find out for themselves. If you do tell her she might think you are just jealous, so just stay strong and don't tell what you know, because the truth will come out on its own in the end. Don't mess up a good friendship!!!
2007-03-24 10:51:59 · answer #5 · answered by Kimberly M 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes. i would tell her. especially since she is only three months into this relationship. why watch her keep him for any longer? if she has a temper, tell her very gently what you saw and explain that she is your friend and you are looking out for her best interest. by not telling her, you are enabling this jerk to do what he is doing to her. do your friend a favor. she can find better.
2007-03-24 10:52:42 · answer #6 · answered by Hello Kitty 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think u should tell her because even though she has a bad temper it will be harder 4 her if she finds out by herself
2007-03-24 10:51:18 · answer #7 · answered by Abbie B 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes you should this could hurt her feelings very bad and things could get worst or better you just have to take a chance and if she gets mad at you take pics of them doing stuff together. Good Luck
2007-03-24 10:51:44 · answer #8 · answered by nuttymunkeyjunkey 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you need to comfront him first... Thats a hard call, i know if someone knew my gf was cheating on me i would liek them to tell me about it... i know something like that is hard to do, but if she finds out you knew latter then where does that leave you two... My loyalty is to my friends and their best interest if he is like that then he is no good for her and she should know before she gets to involved
2007-03-24 10:50:51 · answer #9 · answered by bboyLLK 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, you probably should, because your friend might end up catching him herself. If you are afraid of hurting her feeling don't be, because you might end up sparing her from a lot of heartache in the long run. Trust in your heart and in your friendship.
2007-03-24 10:54:48 · answer #10 · answered by Morgan le Fey 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋