i am meet'g my fiancee for the first time he wants to do oral sex .i m not sure if i will be able to do dat???

Question

i am shy and not ready to be naked infront of my fiancee and especially doing oral sex makes me scared

Answer 1

How can you have a fiance and be meeting for the first time?

And, don't do anything that you aren't comfortable with doing! If he doesn't understand, move on!!!!

Answer 2

How are you engaged to someone that you haven't even met? Wow, That is kinda scary. I would have to be with my SO in person for a while before we become engaged.

Here's what I suggest you do. When you met him and make sure you are comfortable with him. If you are not comfortable with the fact of getting naked infront of him then you should wait maybe after a few times of being with eacchother in person. If this person wants to marry you he will understand. If not then you do not want to be with someone like that. I'm shy but I warm up easily. I think after the 2 of you met in person things will be better. You are just worried that this is the first time he is meeting you and you have to do that. Relax and don't do anything if you don't want to and you don't have to.

Answer 3

No do not go ahead and engage your self into this.

Tell you fiancee that you are not comfortable doing oral sex at the moment

Answer 4

First meeting , that too "fiancee"...... and a demand/request for oral sex sounds wierd. I think you got the wrong guy as your fiancee. Re-evaulate the relationship, and walk out before it is too late.

Answer 5

Stop talking to him and tell him that he can have any sort of sex only after marriage and not before that , under any circumstances. If his nasty desire is known to elders he simply be reprimanded.

Standing naked in front of him before marriage! Have you consulted with your mother on this.

Talking touching caressing are common. Have a limit and know the limit. I you do not know learn it from elders.

Wish you both a happy married life. I do not know why your fiance wants to loose the charm of the first night. Enjoy man enjoy.

Answer 6

You are about to meet your fiancee for the first time and he wants oral sex. That really sound like deperate. Pack your bags, you can't trust such a sex maniac who wants to do it in the first meting itself.

All the bst...

:-)

Answer 7

Dear,

No need of duing this stupid act. You Fiancee should understand this. Any sexual act against one's wish is a rape. Hope he won't rape you.

Pl. make him this very clear and you have every right to say so. Pl. do not land your self in any of future problem that is, from oral to actual course.

Answer 8

if you are scared, do not go and meet fiancee at all. You do have that interest and feeling, then have a chance and give him an opportunity. Otherwise, forget everything.

Answer 9

I would suggest you you not to go for it if you people are meeting for first time. cause doing such act need certain comfort level and understanding between two persons to perform such act. And without reaching that comfort level and understanding you people will not enjoy it and later you will feel guilty of doing it.
So better do not do it.
Prevention is better then cure.
Give some time to each other and understand each other to reach comfort level and when you are mentally prepared then go for it.
Always remember: - "Things which are easily available are not valued."

Answer 10

i think you are going to marry a wrong person..i don't say having sex before marriage is taboo but atleast at the first meeting... i think is not right..tell him..that you will first spend few days with him..till you become comfortable and then you will decide about having sex.make decisions properly..