Boyfriend problems :(?

Question

I have been going out with my boyfriend for about 8 months, we've broken up about 5 times. It was always him. afterwords he always tells me when hes mad he doesnt think. he just says things in the heat of the moment. its always over something stupid n small. he has always come back to me. the last time was last friday. and we ended up back together that monday. then wednesday night we ended up breaking up again. he said he wants space. he wants me to ignore him, not talk to him for 30 days.he ensured me there is no one else. he will not be seeing anyone else. after the 30 days he said he'll start seeing me again, as a friend. i'm pretty sure we'll end up back together because he told me about 4 days ago, that everytime we break up, he cares about me too much to stay away, its so hard to stay away from me because we were always so close. i'm not sure what to do, or what to expect i truely love him. he is my first true love. it is so hard to try not to contact him. i just wish he'd tell

tell* me if he cared, i wish he could let me know he still does. i feel absolutely miserable. i love virginity to him and my mother see's me alot differently, my mom n brother are all i haev. they talk behind my back. i hear them..my family isnt the same anymore i dont have friends to go to, i just had a hemmorrage so i cant do anything yet. im lost without him. does it sound like he still cares? how do i deal with myself when im absolutely broken?

well i can say i know we'll be back together its just a matter of time. i know we truely love each other, even while were broken up he has said he still see's us growing old together, married with children. he talks about children between us more than i do. he has a lot going on in his life 2 jobs college, his brother just had a baby, so he never see's his brother which really takes a toll on him he's really upset, and his mother has breast cancer she's going threw radiation. he has a lot going on i can understand why he wants space i just, i need reassurance that he cares, considering i cant talk to him u know?

i meant to say i lost virginity to him, he lost it to me too. he told me he was waiting for the right person to lose it to, and when he lost it to me he knew it was right, he said when he met me he knew i was the one, he said he doesnt regret it at all, because he knows i was the right person. yesterday he did tell me he still cares. but he's still mad,and i cant talk to him. i just feel like crap

and our relationship is absolutely amazing other than the fights. everyone we know is so jealous because we are so happy together, we are so perfect together its just breath taking. we tell each other we've never been happier, and i havnt. im his first real gf, hes my first real bf. we've never had long relationships like this...hes had girls with him but never a gf. so i kind of think hes just confused u know? he's not sure how to handle things. so when we break up n all, i know he just needs time. i think that maybe..i give him his space for a while...i dont think he'll last 30 days..he usually hasnt lasted 4 days. im just not sure. i just think he could be confused about everything. were still young, but we feel meant to be..we've gone threw SOO much together. he said to me last weekend, if were meant to be we'll always end up back togehter. i just have to ask advice on here.

Answer 1

you should let go and move on, in time u will get over him and in the process maybe find someone else who will treat u better

Answer 2

I know this must be hard for you, but you need to stay away from him for good. Tell your friends and your family that is it over and you want it to stay over. They can help you through this and make sure you don't talk to him. He will keep doing this to you over and over and over again, it's not right or fair, and in the end you will not be the same person. I realize he is your first true love, but if he really cared for you in a proper manner he would not do this to you. Find someone new who will love you for who you are and not put you through a situation like this.

Answer 3

Been there done that .. but honestly it gets so old being dropped and picked back up when you fill like it.. seems as if he's playin a bunch of games w/ you. Your fam is always gonna be there whether they talk about you or not.. I get talked about all the time w/ my bro and mom.. but you have to look at it like this.. all this bad stuff you two have been through is it really worth it to keep going through this? How old are you? Boyfriends are going to come and go hun' Its hard to let go but it makes you stronger. You can only do so much a relationship is based on meeting eachother half way

Answer 4

It may just be me but every time I've heard "I need my space" it usually meant that they wanted to sample another person or better put, they wanted to have a fling/cheat. I'm not saying that your boyfriend is doing that, I'm just saying that it's been my experience. I've never said that to any of my girlfriends and I never said that to my ex wife.

If he is your "true love" then I'd believe him to the ends of the earth.

I once had a true love about 13 years ago. She was everything to me but she had an affair with her boss. I haven't been able to trust any woman sense. I still respect all women but I just can't trust them.

You're young and you know your boyfriend better than anyone. Trust him and love him and in due time he will return that love. You don't need a bunch of strangers telling you what to do. Do what you feel is right and you can't go wrong.

Good luck and keep the faith going.

Answer 5

Sad may be he should go for anger management classes but right now i think the best thing to do would be to try and build your relationship with your family because he seems like someone who is unstable one minute he wants you the next he is mad at you you need someone whom u can always fall back on someone who has your back. Family is always the best so, you really should build your family relationship

Answer 6

You need to just cut all ties with this boy. He is just going to make you an emotional wreck in the long run. He is just stringing you along... He is not sure if he really wants to be with you or not. You need to stand up and tell him you don't want to be in a relationship like this.

Why would you want to be with a guy that breaks up with you all the time. How can you develop a good relationship like that.

Answer 7

you might love this person and he might love u but all these fights and breaking up all the time are really no good for you mentally or health wise get away from him and find some u can actually be with 4 your own good do what the rest of us do pick urself up brush yourself off and keep going pray also cant hurt

Answer 8

try doing new things, seeing new friends, get a new pet, or find a new sport. let your boyfriend be. see what he does, i think he's kinda selfish, but let him do what he likes to do, he'll end up still liking you im sure, I had a boyfriend like him.
maybe he loves you but is still not contented with you. give him space and time. if you're truly meant for each other, you'll end up with him.

Answer 9

If he really like you wounldn't let you go? He should know better than to tell you when you and him will see each other. He probably need control in his life and you are letting him do it

Answer 10

Its ok...dont worry. As long as you know you did nothing wrong. Maybe you should see some pro to help, or maybe you should take a break with your bf and hang it cool and when you feel ready....start lovin again!