I think I already know the answer but would like your opinion or any suggestions to help reduce the bickering.
They love each other a lot, but go from cuddling to fighting in 2 seconds.
2007-03-24 03:36:29 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
Mine are 3 and 5 and have been bickering for the last year or so. I referee where needed, make them apologize and hug when necessary, but they mostly get along which is great.
The one funny thing I noticed is that when they start to go at it, I feel my blood pressure go up 50 points. They hug and make up and are laughing and playing 2 minutes later and mom is still stressing! They recover so much quicker than I could ever dream of doing, so I try not to get so worked up!
2007-03-24 03:57:06 · answer #1 · answered by kmunis 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think it is normal they are kids and like most brother and sister they fight, just don't let this to become worst like hitting to each other or doing something fiscally that will hurt each other.. talk to them they will understand they are intelligent kids.. Just sit them together and have a talk tell them that they are good kids and they will always be that they need to look for each other and protect each other, that they need to share toys and be good kids ..That they are intelligent and good and intelligent kids don't fight... do this at least every day like a therapy and it will work at least it will reduce the fighting, talk to them positively , don't' tell them that they are bad kids because what they like to hear is that they are good kids.. believe me it will work it worked for me I have a 2 and a 6 yr old and they used to figth for everything even a spoon but it has come better they are learning to be better kids... try it migth work for you too... of course they still fight one in a while but less than before ...Good luck !!!!
2007-03-24 11:57:31 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
When they get older, they'll figure out a better way to communicate. However, sibling rivalry is normal, and it will never stop completely. I'm 20, and my sister is 24. We're close. Though we still argue at times, but very rarely.
To reduce the bickering, maybe you could seperate them? Basically though, you can't control it. They're siblings.
2007-03-24 13:47:58 · answer #3 · answered by Annamarie 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No but it will get less if you kind of let them settle things on their own. Parent intervention some times looks like the parent is taking sides.
Mine are ten and eight and do the same thing. hugging my oldest giving a piggy back ride and next thing you know wham it hits the fan.
I used to try to solve the problems but no matter which way I went I was wrong so now I am slow to interfere and they work it out much quicker.
2007-03-24 11:15:04 · answer #4 · answered by angie 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
LOL Mine are 4 and 7 and still bicker. When it gets to bad i make them sit together and hold hands. I also ask if they think what they are doing to each other is nice. Would they like it if someone did it to them. Other wise I make them solve the problem. It helps with things later in life. Mommy can't always be there. Although I wish mine was. LOL Let them work it out and when they start raising there voices ask them to talk to each other.
2007-03-24 10:42:06 · answer #5 · answered by littledueceb 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's another form of getting along and getting closer. They know each other well, so they feel the urge to scream at each other. Do they actually push and punch? Maybe not. If they're arguing, it's totally natural and they are only expressing themselves. Hope they're not actually using foul language, etc. Have the older child teach him how to color or count.
2007-03-24 10:41:36 · answer #6 · answered by James 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
what do they argue about at that age? toys/TV.
Turn it off and take it away.
I have a 4 yr old & 1 1/2 yr old, they dont agrue, but every once and a while the little one will take the big ones toy , the crying/yelling starts and I take it away! The crying/yelling stops!
2007-03-24 11:18:39 · answer #7 · answered by Mammamia3 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ummmmmmmm.... are you speaking of "my" two and four year old??? ha! While it seems to never end, it eventually does! When one cries because of something mean the other has done to him or her, I make them stop, give hugs to each other and require the instigator to say I'm sorry (while looking the other in the eye). It seems to bring them back to reality and learn to be a bit more compassionate.
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2007-03-24 10:41:42 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
What you are experiencing is typical stuff (ie: fighting over toys, wanting attention) for their ages. As they mature, they will learn self control and be able to better manage their emotions. In the meantime, have fun being the mediator!!
2007-03-24 10:44:19 · answer #9 · answered by I_hope_I_know 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Is this a case of "Monkey see - Monkey do"? Children learn what they live.
If not, then the arguing will stop about the time they move out & each have their own "crib" !
Ah yes...........the joys of parenthood! Gotta luv it! Peace out! "CaliModel"
2007-03-24 11:41:12 · answer #10 · answered by Me1HotSoCalifChic 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋