I have been concidering breaking up with my girlfriend for months but she really loves me, and than i found out she has cancer and things have got worse, i have to do more and i still want to break up with her, PLEASE! I wanted to splitup even before i knew she had cancer, i left it too late and now if i breakup it makes me look very BAD!! I should of broken up before when i first wanted to before she got cancer.
2007-03-24 03:26:54 · 42 answers · asked by john c 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I'm really sorry for her, and you!
If what you say is the truth, you should have broken up a long time ago and yes, you will look bad if you do it now!
But, If she has cancer, she deserves to find true love for what ever time she has left! It will hurt her badly for you to break up with her, but she should realize that eventually.
Good Luck to both of you!
2007-03-24 03:34:29 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
First off stop being so damn stingy and only thinking of yourself. Walk a mile in her shoes and tell me how you would feel if at a crucial time in your life when you found yourself very ill the someone that you love tells you they are leaving.
That kind of news at this particular time could be what it takes to push someone right over the edge and accelerate the illness.
Take the time to let the person know that you are there for them yet cannot be a part of any relationship that might distract them from staying focussed on the goal which is them getting well.
Follow your heart in this matter and put it into Gods hands he will take the load and everything will come out the way it is destined to.
"Good-Luck"
2007-03-24 03:39:35 · answer #2 · answered by Chaz 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You should have broken up with her before but then life is never that simple is it? It's never an easy decision to break up and it takes a long time to finally reach the decision to do it. I think you have to break up with her like now. Straight fromt he hip, if she is going to die in a few months is it too much to ask to just be there for her and just make her happy? If the future is uncertain then you have to just go. She would only end up resenting you knowing you didn't really want to be there. I'm sorry about the situation, it's hard on both of you. Good luck!
2007-03-24 03:43:40 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is a tough one. You're going to be "the bad guy," according to almost everyone. Be prepared for this. If you wanted to get out of the relationship before, by all means, get out before things get worse. However, she's going through a stressful time, and this will probably be really difficult news for her to take. Make sure you're a good friend to her, while she deals with the cancer. Make it clear that you really don't feel that your relationship is in a good place, and that you want to be friends. Let her know why. If she trys to give a guilt trip, about her cancer, don't listen. Leave her with some space. However, if she doesn't drop the guilt trips, time to move on. Wish her well with her health, but you don't need her in your life.
2007-03-24 03:33:17 · answer #4 · answered by sestantonse58 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Maybe you should rethink this decision. She has jsut been diagnoised with cancer. That is a big deal. You are like one of the people she needs to be there with her. I mean is there anyway to fix the relationship.
The only thing I can suggest is before it gets any deeper, you need to have a serious talk with her. Tell her that you will be there for her no matter what but you don't want to date anymore. Tell her it has nothing to do with the cancer. It was something that you wanted to do before then.
2007-03-24 03:41:12 · answer #5 · answered by Ashley 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not sure from your plea how long you have been going out with this girl? either way honesty is the best policy in most cases but here it is difficult as you say,either way you will be cooked.Guess you don`t live in the same street?If she is a strong Girl mentally then, the truth should out but, at the same time for the time you have been together surely you feel something for her?The Big C as it`s known can be beaten, at this stage however, any bad news could put the person in remission,you don`t say how old you are either another factor to deal with.The fact that you have to do more,surely for someone who won`t be around when you are older surely you can give your girlfriend the time of day,please don`t be selfish she deserves support at this critical time & all you want to do is leave her for What?don`t answer that.We all have a cross to bear this one is yours, see it through if you`re man
enough to.
2007-03-24 04:58:48 · answer #6 · answered by edison 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
OMG. I am so sorry...for her and for you. Is it a deadly form of cancer? I'm sorry, but you made a mistake. Now you are going to have to sacrifice some of your life to help her through it. Look at it from her angle. She needs you now. I know your support is going to be very half hearted, but believe me, maybe when you see what she goes through with her illness, you may see a side of strength and beauty there that you cannot see now. Maybe you will fall in love with her as you watch her be strong. I believe everything happens for a reason, and now you are going to have to be a man and stand beside her. I wish you both the best of luck, and I hope she recovers and lives a long and healthy life.
2007-03-24 03:32:04 · answer #7 · answered by DoubleD 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Don't worry, I'm sure there will be a cure for this. I can't imagine this going down the drain. Childhood friends in a fairy tale with blue castle, no one can let that go away. I'm sure she will survive. Do whatever you can despite what she says;that's what I would do if I heard that my best friend only had 6 months to live. I was crying after I finished reading this.
2016-03-29 02:06:15 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
That sounds like a very difficult situation for you. Have you tried to talk to your girlfriend about how you feel. If you have felt like this for a while, Im sure she would of picked up on things being different between you both. Perhaps if you talked about it with her, you could explain you still care about her, and be their for her as a friend rather than a partner. I hope it all goes well for you both.
2007-03-24 03:42:13 · answer #9 · answered by sarah 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Um god; Whatever happens now it is gonna look very bad on you and there really isnt a way you can change what people a
think. If your sure that the relationship has come to an end then tell her without it dragging on even longer.
2007-03-24 03:31:12 · answer #10 · answered by Black Magic; 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋