What are your views on spanking?

Question

I firmly belive that if a child is acting up you should give the child a good swat at home. Also, I think that a spanking should be given out of love for the child and not of anger!

I wish not to have answers that include the resons NOT to spank! I have heard them soo many times it makes me sick!

Answer 1

I agree with you completelly. Sometimes you just have get their attention, especially with stubborn and head strong children. It's important they learn boundaries, and time-outs just do not work sometimes, not with my little boy. I also believe that it is important that it's explained to them why they got the spanking no matter how young they are or how mad. It keeps communication open and that is important when raising kids.

Answer 2

I think it is ok as long as it is "out of love and not anger" like you said. I good little swat on the back of the pants, or a little smack on the hand can make all the difference between a child learning right from wrong when they cannot comprehend otherwise.... When I was a child and my parents told me "no" don't do this or "no" don't touch that. I didn't listen, I didn't know what the result would be if I did touch it, So the little swat on the tooshie, made me alert and helped me to hear the reasons that I shouldn't be doing somthing.
However, you have to consider people in this day and age. There seems to be more physical abuse now more than ever. People misconstrue a beating for a spanking. Its just not right. So I can see why people are so opinionated over it.
I've seen abusive parents grab a child by their wrist, yank them towards the parent and then smack them as hard as possible on the kids behind.. I don't agree with that at all. I think that is going overboard and is abuse.

Answer 3

well it does seem silly that the only social group you can legally hit are children.
however i think spanking is effective and if the parent chooses to do so there is nothing wrong with that. I dont think it should hurt though as that is never the path to go down. it just humiliates and worries the child; making them think twice before misbehaving.
There is a limit to how old the child should be though. i think about 7 years should be the limit.

Answer 4

I don't think there is anything wrong with a good spanking, whether it be a swat on the covered rear or a pants-downer for serious issues.

I have two very stable and well-brought up preteens. They don't exhibit aggressive behaviour or anything like some psychologists say will happen.

Answer 5

I feel like spanking is not only appropriate but a necessary tool in discipline. If my child grabs for something that will burn them, I will smack thier hand. If a spanking is necassary on the rear and we are in public, I will let him know when he gets home that he will be spanked. If I'm angry, I have him go to his room and wait for me (this seems to be more effective then the actual swat on the bottom!). I have 2 brothers. 2 of us were spanked (I can count on 1 hand how many times!) and the youngest was "timed out". The 2 of us that were spanked are in fact very disciplined. The one that was not is heading down a very dangerous path and has had discipline problems galore. I feel that not spanking my child would be neglegtful and a bad choice.

Answer 6

Spanking always worked on me when I was a child.

You might find these articles interesting:

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This is interesting; someone gave a thumbs down to a couple of articles from a physiologist (child care professionals, not just someone’s opinion) just because they are pro-spanking.

For those who answered that spanking is harmful, then how can they explain how about 70 percent of adults, according to National Public Radio, can say that they were spanked as a child, and turned out just fine?

This is not just my personal opinion (although I and both of my siblings were spanked, and we all turned out fine too), this is supported by profession physiologists.

Answer 7

Either I spank my boy now, or the justice system spanks him later. I do not spare the rod, and I never spank when I am angry. I always explain why he is getting spanked so he understands, and I never hit with my hand(they're for loving only).

Answer 8

And should a loving spouse spank his or her partner if they misbehave?

Just exactly HOW can striking a child be a good thing, when performing the exact same act on an adult is criminal!

Answer 9

YES a swat does make a diffrence but always talk it out after so they know what they did wrong and also don't be affraid to swat them in public eather and if you are fearful of doing it take them into a changing room or a bathroom

Answer 10

i am a strong beliver in spanking at home and in public ifeel that getting spanked on a bere butt is also very affective with mykids if they are very bad

i would smackmy children any were wheteher i was in a resteraunt a shop or at home

i often pull there trousers down and spank on there underwere but when my kids were in dipers i took them off as they cant feel it with so much "padding hehe"