im 19 yrs old, i jsut find out that im 9 weeks pregnant on thursday. ive been dating my bf for 4 months and he cant be any happier. how do i tell my parents that im pregnant. im moving out in couple months with him and gonna get married. i want my parents to be there to suppost me and be in their grandchilds life. i know there is no right time to tell them but wut can i say to tell them that im pregnant without them going crazy on me and start to yell at me.
2007-03-24 03:07:18 · 11 answers · asked by marta d 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Other - Pregnancy & Parenting
It all depends on how close you are to your parents. God knows moms are usually easier to talk to. DO NOT BRING YOUR BOYFRIEND. Your Dad will probably try to kill him. (Can you tell I've done this before?)
If you are responsible, they'll take it better than if you're not. If you are 100% ready to have this baby, then act like it. I think the worst thing you could do is approach them as if you're looking for their approval. They love you and you are THEIR baby. So even if they freak out, they are doing it because you having a baby is totally crazy to them. Be cool, be calm. DO NOT tell them about the marriage plans yet unless you want them to have dual heart attacks. If they ask about marriage, say "it's something we're talking about." and leave it at that.
I would tell my Mom first. When Dad is NOT around. She will FREAK OUT. Expect crying, laughter, or just general hysterics. Tell her you want to talk, but that you need to have her promise to keep the conversation between you two. Moms are wacky, so be specific with her that you do NOT want her to tell your Dad. That your a woman and you need to tell him yourself.
Ask your Dad if he wants to sit outside with you. Sit next to him. Men talk better without eye contact. Get this - they think eye contact is confrontational - like dogs. LOL! He'll take it badly and he won't look at you. NO - This does not mean he doesn't love you. He'll just need some time to process what he feels. He loves you a lot and did not want his little princess to be 19 and preggers and unmarried - so give the guy a break!. Just be cool with him. Feel free to end the talk with an "I love you Daddy and a hug."
I sincerely wish you the best. If you need ANYTHING, let me know. I've walked this walk before. :) amy@onegirlsnightout.com
2007-03-24 03:22:08 · answer #1 · answered by onegirlsnightout 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Take them out to lunch - they're less likely to make a scene in a public place. Don't take your boyfriend with you - it may be good to have some moral support, but it may also just give your parents a target for their anger. Explain to them exactly what your plans are and how you intend to support the baby, and that the father is going to be involved as well. It will help a lot for them to know that you're being responsible about the whole thing. Most importantly, even if they start yelling, stay calm. After it's all overwith and they see how mature you're being, they'll come around.
2007-03-24 03:13:53 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Why would your parents go mad?? when i found out i was pregnant my parents couldnt of been happier for me, i suggest that you sit them down and tell them and all you can do is see what they say they may hout at first but they will come round to the idea and then it will be the best thinbg thats ever happened, but then again they might not shout at you and they may just be really happy. Oh and by the way CONGRATULATIONS x x x x x x x x
2007-03-24 03:12:29 · answer #3 · answered by tweety 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
WOW...First off congrats....
Well I was 15 when I had to tell mine...You will have to get them sitting down and just ease into it..There is about a 100% chance you are gonna start crying (that will help)....You didnt mention how old the father is either, Does he have a job?
I really hope your boyfriend and you can be together..But as to the rushing to get married thing I would wait until the baby is born...As you have only been with him for a few months so please take caution...As for you I really hope your ready for what you will be getting yourself into....Its LIFE changing...
Remember always put your baby first before anyone~
Good Luck~
2007-03-24 03:15:41 · answer #4 · answered by **Mishelly** 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you're a responsible adult, then just tell them. My experience went both ways, I was 18 my parents didnt yell or anything, they werte happy. His mother called me a whore who ruined her sons life and told me I should have an abotrtion. She eventually came around. If this baby is not planned break it to them gently, but don't put it off for to long. They may go crazy and yell, don't take it to heart, give them some time to think about it and cool off before they give a genuine reaction. Good Luck!
2007-03-24 03:36:47 · answer #5 · answered by skylark455st2 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Tell them the truth. Pick the wedding date and see the Justice of the Peace.
Grandparents usually love the child and ignore the circumstances of the timing. Give them the benefit of the doubt!
Good Luck.
2007-03-24 03:17:02 · answer #6 · answered by stonechic 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
thats a very good question. you should go up to them in a very polite way and tell them. tell them that you are and tell them that you are ready for any response that they will give you. i hope that will help and good luck. im hoping everything will be good and i pray for you. ggood luck!
2007-03-24 03:17:50 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
serious note. just come out and tell them.. are you done w/ school and everything? I mean you damn near grown.. ur considered an adult at 18 what can they really say.. of course they'll be mad @ 1st all parents do ... but they'll get over it
2007-03-24 03:13:44 · answer #8 · answered by UNiQUE 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
FIRST tell them you are engaged. Then a few days later tell them you are pregnant and you "just found out".
2007-03-24 03:58:56 · answer #9 · answered by Educated 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
HI, YOU NEED TO SET YOUR PARENTS DOWN AND TELL THEM. I THINK THAT IS THE BEST WAY. THEY WILL ALWAYS LOVE YOU.
2007-03-24 03:14:06 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋